In our life, we are always faced with a choice,whether it’s a small choice or a large choice. However, sometimes there issomeone who makes the wrong decision which is actually a bad decision in theirlife. Therefore we as someone who knows about it and we are instructed to prevent it byreprimanding or advising him/her to not to do that. However, not everyone canaccept the advice that we give to him/her, so speaking must have the art to be heardand loved by the listener, and also after that our advice and reprimand can becontemplated and can also be applied directly to the listener.
1.Reprimand someone in a polite and gentle manner
If we reprimand someone who uses good andpolite words, we must position ourselves if we are in the position of someonewe are talking to. When we reprimand him with courtesy or in a gentle tone thenthe person will respect what we say and not underestimate it. Do not use harshwords or shout at them, because this will not improve the atmosphere, but willworsen it is.
2. Just focus on the issue being discussed
Reprimanding someone must focus only on theproblem being discussed. Do not reprimand him by associating something he hasdone or mistakes in his past. Of course, this will not provide a solution tothe person but will create new problems in his/her life and clearly exacerbateexisting his/her problems.
3. Onlyspeak privately with him/her
It is better to talk to someone who you wantto reprimand privately, without anyone else knowing about it because it ispossible that the thing you are talking about is confidential and that persondoes not want to be known by many people. Talking privately can also make theperson we want to talk feel more relaxed and also more open with you.
4. Nointention to patronize
When you rebuke someone because he/shewants to do something bad, it doesn’t seem to patronize that person. It willnot be heard by him, they will be indifferent and will not do what you say. Behavelike a friend who reprimands his friend, no demeaning attitude becausedemeaning is annoying behavior and don’t forget to always listen to the argumentsthey say after you advise them. Throw away patronizing because it will not helpanything.
5. Don’tmake the person you are talking to hurt
Reprimanding someone only aims to remindthe person that the thing he wants to do is the wrong thing. Therefore do notmake the person you rebuke hurt with the words you say when advising orreprimanding them. Avoid words or sensitive things that can make them hurt do some good words to make everything good.
6.Convey briefly and sweetly
Talk briefly and don’t make too much chitchat that wastes too much of your time and that person. It may be that theperson you advise is not too fond of chit chat, give them plenty of free timeafter you give advice so they can reflect on what will happen if they do that.Besides, don’t forget to speak in a soft and sweet tone, so that the persondoesn’t feel like being shouted at or under pressure.
7.Don’t make the person you are talking to under pressure.
Speak well or in a friendly tone. Ask him whatmotivated him to do that. Don’t immediately blame what he will do by puttinghim under pressure. If you do that you will make him feel more guilty and more arousedhis desire to do things that are not good for themselves. Try to change thetone or way of speaking not to blame what he will do but Replace the words like“don’t do it” with finer words like “if you do that, you alreadyknow what you’re getting as a consequence?”
8. Notforce the will
Never force the will of the person you areadvising. Your job is only to advise him not to do things that can harmthemselves or others. If they are still stubborn to do what they want, do notforce their will, because you have tried as much as you can. The most importantthing is that we know something is not good and we still want to reprimand itif we just keep quiet and don’t do anything. It is a stupid act that can bedetrimental to yourself.