34 Clear Signs That She Friendzoned You (#1 Heartbreak Girl)

by Michelle Devani

Are you confused as to whether your crush is attracted to you?

Perhaps she’s pleasant to you all the time, but never lets the relationship progress into a physical one? 

Maybe that has left you to question whether you’re being friendzoned - or if she’s just shy…

It can be a tough dilemma for a man. 

How can you tell you if you’ve been friendzoned - and what can you do to fix the situation if you have?! 

Luckily, I am here to answer both of these questions for you in this guide.

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The guide below will help you work out whether you’re in the friendzone and how to get out.

After a long run of teasing, getting close and opening up to her, you might expect a big finale. All of the flirting is ultimately done to get to the dating phase. But what if she is just not interested? Or what if she wants something completely different from the relationship between the both of you?

A friend zone is a zone where a person is accepted as a friend, not as a lover. Of course, it will hurt the people that have been trying so hard to get her infatuated. So, before you go any further with falling in love with her, read these signs so you do not have to get heart broken by her decision.

Signs That She Friendzoned You

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1. She does not want to be seen with you in public

Usually, a girl will be proud to show off her boyfriend in public. But when you are in the friend zone you will not get this special treatment. In fact, he will try to not be seen with you in public. Having you by her side will give off the illusion that you are in a romantic relationship and that is the last thing she wants. In public, she wants to be seen as a single girl that is ready for a new relationship with a hot new stranger, and you’re not one of them.

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2. She makes you date another girl

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This is quite an oblivious sign that you are deep in the friend zone. The girl you are crushing on will try to make you date another girl. She will even ask you what kind of girl you like, not so that she can make you like her, but so that she can hook you up with a friend that have those qualities. Although you do not accept the offer, she will try to push you to it. She claims that she does all of this because you are her best friend and she wants you to be happy. But she does not know that she is the one that can make you happy.

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3. She does not want to be alone with you

A crystal clear sign of the first phases of intimacy is being okay with just the two of you together. But, when you are in a friend zone, she will not want this. If you ask her to go for a movie with you or to a restaurant, she will invite all of her friends too and demand you to invite all your friends. This is because she thinks that this is a casual hang out and that it is not an important time to really get to know you in a romantic way.

4. She does not dress up around you

When a girl likes someone, it will be her number one priority to look good. She will wear the best dress and a wonderful make up. But if she is does not dress up for you at all, and she does not mind you seeing her without makeup or in a pajamas, that means she is way too comfortable with you. This comfort is actually a disadvantage for you. A comfort like this means that she is not interested in trying to impress you. After all, all she thinks about when she sees you is that you are her friend and not a potential boyfriend.

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5. She claims that you are like a brother to her

A brother is someone who protects and give her affection. When you have been labeled as a brother to her, you are totally deep in the friend zone. Being a brother means you are a best friend that will not go anywhere with her romantically. This is a clear stop sign on your attempt to make her infatuated.

6. She introduce you as a friend

When you meet her friends or work mates, she will introduce you as her friend with no hesitation whatsoever. If she does hesitate to find the right label for you, she might have a little interest in you. But if she blatantly say that you are her best friend, even in front of her family, you are definitely deep in the friendzone.

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7. She asks favor all the time

A girl usually will not bother her crush or boyfriend with constant demand for favors. Instead, girls will do a thousand favors for her boyfriend. If you are a guy that picks up her coffee, fill in her shifts, take her to a guy’s house when she asked you to, you are in trouble. All of this demand for favors means that you are no more than a help, a trusty assistant to put it blatantly. If you are already in this phase, it will be hard to move to a new phase of relationship. This is one of the signs that she friendzoned you.

8. She shrugs off all your attempt to flirt

Flirting is one of the way to get to a girl’s heart. By flirting, she will feel wanted and giddy on the inside. But with a girl that already thinks that you are nothing more than a friend, this attempt will not work. Not being able to flirt is actually one of the most apparent signs that she friendzoned you. When you flirt, she will laugh or just say that you are kind and a funny guy. She will even say that your flirts will make her friend date you and that you should make a move on another woman. Once you are her, it is a dead end.

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9. She asks you for advice when it comes to boys

Because you are a boy, she will assume that you know everything about what boys want, do and need. That is why she will come running to you when she wants your advice on how to get closer to boys. She will even tell you about the guy she likes openly, as if it does not hurt you. And then she will try to ask you for a favor which is making her close to the guy she is crushing on. This is a clear sign that you are deep in the friend zone and that she is already interested in someone else.

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10. You console her when she have relationship issues

You will know that you are in a friend zone when she have a relationship issue and she comes to you. She will not try to hook up with you or anything romantic. Instead she will just cry and whine about her relationship in front of you. You are her temporary sanctuary. Once the relationship is at a better stage, she will leave you and thank you for being there for her. And she will do this all over again. This painful thing is a definite signs that she friendzoned you.

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More Signs Of You've Been Friendzoned

here are more signs that she friendzoned you:

  1. She calls you funny names in front of your friends and family
  2. She does not mind hugging you all the time
  3. She does not think that you are funny
  4. She is not physical with you
  5. She calls you just for the fun of it
  6. She does not react when you touch her
  7. She shops with you all the time
  8. She flirts with other guys
  9. She does not make any first moves
  10. You guys hang out, but it is never considered a date
  11. She is not shy around you
  12. Her friends tells you that you are just her friend
  13. She does not try to do something you are interested in
  14. The qualities of the guy of her dreams is not in you at all
  15. She thinks you are cute
  16. You’ve been with her for months and it amounts to nothing
  17. She keeps a distance from you, but close enough to catch
  18. "You are my best friends," that's what she said.
  19. She finally dates someone else
  20. She keeps your story as friendship only
  21. She know she loves you more than just a friend

What To Do If She Friendzoned You?

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After knowing those signs that she friendzoned you, here the solution, tips and tricks to get rid of it:

1. Accept her choice

The first thing on what to do if she friend zoned you is accepting. No woman is obliged to like you, everybody have their choices. And it seems that her choice for a boyfriend is not you. You should not hate her, or resent her. It is normal for people to reject other people they do not like romantically. You should suck up the truth and move on.

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2. Check in with yourself

Now that she have told you what she wants it is time to figure out what you really wants for your next move in this relationship. First, you need to let yourself heal. It is not easy to be rejected and you should understand that it is okay to be sad for a while. Now, you have to choices, you can either continue to be friends with her or break it off. It is okay to break it off if the pain of seeing her is way too unbearable. But if you are cool with being friends with her, knowing that there is no future with her, then go on.

3. Tell her

Now that you have picked your choice, you should tell her about this. Tell her the truth about how you have been feeling towards her. If you want to break it off, tell her why and ask her to understand. If you want to continue being friends with her, then continue with your special friendship. This marks the end of steps on what to do if she friendzoned you.

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Friend zone is hard, but it does not have to be a bad thing. After checking the signs and steps you are ready to face this seemingly daunting zone in a relationship.

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Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.