Ways To Make A Girl Fall Deeply In Love With You (39 Foolproof Ways)

by Michelle Devani

Are you looking for the secret sauce that makes a woman fall madly in love with you?

Perhaps you struggle to make that deep connection with the fairer sex?

Maybe you’re sick and tired of getting binned off for some other dude?

If so, I urge you to read for my epic list of 30 ways to make a girl fall deeply in love with you. Your love life is about to change for the better!

However, before we begin, I have to warn you about the #1 mistake that men make to kill attraction stone-dead. 

That dreadful mistake is: COMING ON TOO STRONG.

My friends and I have experienced this so often. We hate, hate, hate it!

When men make it too obvious they want us, it piles so much pressure on us. It ruins the exciting dance that is flirtation between masculine and feminine. 

Even if we really like you, this makes it really difficult for us to progress the relationship. It just feels too seedy and improper. 

That’s why I want to share this amazing guide to flirting with you. It explains a concept called ‘Stealth Seduction’ that allows men to flirt in a way that doesn’t make women feel awkward or slutty for enjoying your advances.

This is must-read material for any guy who is sick of his interactions with women fizzling out before anything happens. Consider it your ultimate guide to connecting with women

Once you’ve read that guide, come back and check out my list of ways to make a girl fall deeply in love with you.

Contents

How To Make Her Fall In Love With You

As natural as falling in love feels when it happens, getting there isn’t always an easy task. Most guys spend their time and energy trying to avoid situations that can make a girl fall for them, then find themselves in a bind when ready.

Have you finally met the woman of your dreams and decided to retire the player in you? Are you now not only willing to embrace the feelings you’ve always so expertly suppressed, but also hope to have them reciprocated? Or are you just reading up on how to make a girl fall in love so you can be prepared when the time comes?

Whatever your reason for looking this up, you’ve come to the right place. While I cannot speak for every girl, what I’m about to share with you in this guide is inclusive enough to boost your odds of getting her by miles. 

If you want to know how to make that girl fall in love with you, make sure you read through this, and good luck!

39 Ways To Make A Woman Fall Deeply In Love With You

1. Make a good first impression

Love-at-first-sight may be a myth, but women tend to take their earliest impression of a guy pretty seriously. If you haven’t had any interaction with the girl you like yet, you have an opportunity to start on a good slate. By and large, just don’t come off too strong or creepy and you should be fine. 

However, if that ship has already sailed for you, all hope isn’t lost yet. Put some more thought into your next meeting with this woman, and you might get another chance.

2. Look presentable

look presentable

They say it takes less than a second for a woman to tell if she’s physically attracted to you. Since the first thing she’ll notice in that short window is how you look, I say it’s pretty damn important that you give her something worth loving. You don’t have to be the most handsome lad in the room, just be neat and smell nice. Seriously, a pleasant scent does wild things to us.

3. Pay attention to her signals

One way to give yourself a greater chance at hitting your mark is to first make sure you’re (almost) on the same page with this woman. Whether you’re just meeting her or have been seeing each other for a while, look for welcoming cues before broaching your interest. Indicate your attraction with your body language and see if she mirrors it. 

4. Be confident

Confidence is, by far, one of the things I find the sexiest in a man, a sentiment I’m sure a lot of women share. It’s natural to feel nervous about approaching a girl you like, so there’s no shame in getting the jitters. However, since making her fall in love with you is the goal, you’d have a better chance of that happening if you come off as confident.

5. Break the ice

When you have a crush on someone, you may feel like you’d be content just seeing them from afar. While that certainly gets your butterflies going, and perhaps even gets the girl’s curious juice flowing, someone has to set the ball rolling at some point. Like confidence, women love themselves a go-getter. So, go get yours, bro, fortune favors the bold. 

6. Have a great sense of humor

From the moment you break the ice, being able to make a woman laugh will be a significant ally in making her fall for you. Don’t just take my words for it, these studies confirm it. Having a similar sense of humor as her improves the odds of her finding your jokes funny. This, in turn, eases the tension and makes her want to talk to you more.

7. Take your time to get to know her

That your jokes make her laugh doesn’t mean that’s the only thing you should do when you spend time together. Show your interest in her by genuinely being curious about her, that’s how to make a girl fall in love with you. 

Let your conversations flow seamlessly between playful banter and deep subjects. Get to know her fears and what excites her. Encourage her to share as much as she’s comfortable with and listen when she does. 

8. Be an active listener

You must have heard everywhere that women love men who listen. That is true, but you have to understand being good at it requires more than keeping quiet while she talks, though it’s a start. 

An active listener not only pays attention, he also shows that he is by giving feedback. However, you should be careful not to interrupt her flow with your interjections and try to pay attention to her body language as well.

9. Be a person she can confide in

be a person she can confide in

The purpose of listening to her stories isn’t just for entertainment, it is a bonding process. The way you listen will also determine how well she’ll respond to you. 

When you really hear her, the information you gather can help improve your relations, but for that to happen, you have to make her feel all the way comfortable with you first. A way to do that is to also share personal stuff about yourself so she can gauge your reliability.

10. Carry her along on what’s going on in your life

One of the ways to make a girl fall in love with you is through trust and vulnerability. Childhood stories that can help your girl understand why you’re the way you are now and whatnot. 

Those are always nice to hear, but you know what else is? Making her feel included in your present. Tell her about your day at work, the big scary test you’re preparing for, etc. If she’s genuinely interested in hearing about these, falling for you is only a stone’s throw from there.

11. Seek her opinion on important issues

Furthermore, when you’re trying to form a deep connection with a woman, it is imperative that you treat her as an equal. Show her you respect her views by placing a premium on her opinions. 

This shouldn’t apply to your relationship only but even things that don’t directly concern her. What she has to say may not always be the solution you’re looking for, but it would mean a lot that you appreciate them anyway.

12. Make your intentions clear

That you’re utterly in love with a woman does not automatically translateto her knowing, let alone, feeling the same. Women, especially those deemed conventionally beautiful, get treated specially by guys all the time. 

Don’t assume she must know that you love her because you’re always around; make your feelings known. You’re in a better position than me to determine when the timing is right, just don’t wait till you’re in the friendzone before you do.

13. Make her a priority

Do you want something profound with this girl? Put her first. Check-in with her to see if or how an action you’re about to take might affect her. Don’t make her play second fiddle to your hobbies, work, friends, and family except when necessary. Making a woman feel like the center of your world sends all the right messages and makes her feel loved.

14. Don’t try to change her

You may not be bothered by them right away because you’re in love, but everyone has their bits of imperfection. My advice is that you walk away if hers are too much for you before she falls in love with you. 

But should you decide to stay, get comfortable with those quirks instead of thinking you can change them once she’s yours. Not only is that unlikely, but it’ll also drive her away.

15. Support her dreams

support her dreams

Every girl loves when her man is also her fiercest cheerleader. Encourage her with your words, and let your actions show that you believe in her. Being on your best behavior when your woman has a lot on her plate is a way of showing support. The same goes for being understanding when she’s unable to give you her 100% because of it.

16. Be a man of your words

Continually failing to keep your promises isn’t how you nurture love, the only deep thing that’s bound to cost you is distrust. As I said earlier about reliability, once you mess that up, you take away a major ground to foster emotional intimacy. A woman simply cannot feel all the way close to you if she can’t take your yes to be yes. 

17. Ease her burden

Every woman appreciates acts of service, albeit in varying degrees. It’s hard to be female in the 21st century as opposed to the early times when all we had to do was take care of the home. No matter how independent your girl is, she’s bound to appreciate taking some things off her plate once in a while.

18. Respect her

Men aren’t the only ones who need respect in a relationship, everyone does. Respecting your girl entails regarding her as a person and not some property you own. This means being mindful of the fact that she has her rights and feelings, and her wishes won’t always tally with yours. It means admiring her unique qualities should come naturally if your love for her is true.

19. Don’t conceal your emotions

Opening up to your woman doesn’t make you less of a man. The only thing clamming up will get you in the long run, is her away from you. As you may know, emotional intimacy means a lot to women, and it’s the fastest way to our hearts. Sharing what you’re feeling with her helps her love you right and also gives her an idea of what to expect going forward.

20. Compliment her when she least expects it

You’re probably all caught up on what compliments mean to women coming from the person they love. And I’m sure it comes naturally when you see her looking all cute and cleaned up. It’s flattering when you notice a hot new dress or banging makeup. 

But in those instances, the wows have come to be expected. Your accolades would hit harder when it’s for something less obvious, be it about her appearance or personality.

21. Be proactive when it comes to you and her

What straight woman wouldn’t fall for a man who loves her and doesn’t hesitate in showing it? Definitely not many. Make things happen instead of sitting around, waiting for an opportunity to open up. 

In this instance, conforming to the stereotype that men are supposed to plan dates and carry the relationship helps your case. She can take over or split the effort when her feelings match yours. 

22. Have a life separate from her

I understand that new love can be so exciting it feels like your sole purpose, but you shouldn’t let it affect your life before it. While it may be sweet at first that you spend every waking minute pining after her, a woman can quickly get tired of that. 

She wants to see you making it outside your relationship. She wants to miss you while you hang out with your friends, as she cherishes your presence more once she’s felt the absence.

23. Be passionate about your goals

be passionate about your goals

Much like having a thriving social life, women find it hot when they see their man pursue his goals with fiery determination. Feeling fulfilled from achieving your dreams tends to boost your own confidence and sense of self. As a direct implication, that wins you several points from her.

24. Don’t break her trust

A woman simply cannot love you deeply when she is unable to trust you. An average girl has been hurt in a relationship before because guys cheat so much. So, don’t be surprised if broken trust is a dealbreaker for her. You can start building your trustworthiness by letting your yes be yes. And of course, by staying faithful.

25. Be spontaneous

Unless this woman of yours has a knack for planning everything that concerns her, a little bit of spontaneity can be romantic. It’s not so much about what you do, as it is about the intention behind it. Get familiar with her calendar and surprise her by planning something she’s always wanted to do when she’s less busy.

26. Accept people she cares about as your own

Seeing my friends and family connect with a man who likes me certainly boosts his chances with me. For one, I know they wouldn’t give him an audience if they sensed something was off about him. 

I also wouldn’t introduce them if I didn’t think there could be something there. So, if you get a chance to interact with your woman’s loved ones, the least you can do is be nice to them.

27. Introduce her to your friends

On the other hand, introducing her to your closest friends also sends a message across. That you’re ready to bring her into that part of your life shows you want something beyond a temporary fling. The feeling that comes with that is always heartwarming, even if the woman is only just starting to like you.

28. Invite her to your work functions

I can’t speak for you but I know guys generally want to be associated with what they’re proud of at work. If you can relate to that, I’m sure you can see how bringing her as your date to that promotion party made it to this list. Check to see if she’s cool with it before introducing her to your boss/colleagues as your partner though.

29. Be kind

There shouldn’t be an ulterior motive behind being kind, we should just do it because it’s the right thing to do. However, if there’s a regular activity that can potentially make a girl on the fence fall in love with you, it’s this one. You get extra points when you extend this act to nature, children, old and generally helpless people.

30. Sweep her off her feet now and then

Turn on the charm, dip into your purse, flaunt that gym body, flex your intelligence muscle, whatever rocks your woman’s boat. We all have what makes us tick, find out what that is for your lady, and capitalize on it to impress her from time to time.

31. Send her random gifts

send her random gifts

Just like acts of service, women appreciate getting gifts from people who love them, even if there are things they enjoy more. I like to say it’s the thought behind them that counts, not price tags and definitely not the trend. If you’ve been paying attention to her from the beginning, determining what kind of presents she’d appreciate shouldn’t be difficult.

32. Express your love and appreciation for her with your words

Some of us want to hear time and again from our partners that we’re doing well. We love compliments affirming our beauty and intelligence. We love it when our man acknowledges our input and communicates verbally how grateful he is to have us. We may know it, but we also like to hear it. 

33. Back it up with your body

Actions don’t just speak louder than words, they also reinforce them. Don’t tell a woman who likes physical contact that you absolutely adore her body without ever touching it until it’s time to have sex. 

Speaking of which, when you make love to her, see it as an opportunity to express your willingness to put her first. Figure out what gets her off and do your best to prioritize her pleasure through your body language and your words.

34. Carve out time for just the two of you

Part of being proactive in your love is actively including her in your schedule. If your calendar is so busy that every day is taken, making time for her between breaks counts even more then. It’s not enough to say she means a lot to you. You have to walk the talk by wanting to spend some quality time with her.

35. Find out her primary (and secondary) love language

Man or woman, we all have the mode of expression we prefer when it comes to affection. Dr. Gary Chapman narrowed them down to five main languages – quality time, physical touch, gifting, acts of service, and affirming words.

I’ve said something about each of these above. Since they can’t all possibly be her first choice, it’s best to ask your girl for hers, so your efforts to make her fall in love with you don’t wind up a waste.

36. Leave a little mystery in the relationship

As important as it is to open up to build a basis for emotional connection, humans love a good mystery, as I’m sure you, as a man, can relate. Curiosity drives us to want to know more about our partner, and until we figure the missing piece of the puzzle, our interest in them replenishes itself. But what happens when there’s nothing new left to find? 

37. Be willing to improve yourself

Staying just a tad mysterious is a way to keep the spark alive in the bedroom and the relationship as a whole. But other than that, you should also upgrade yourself like software, so you don’t become obsolete. Even as the years pass and routines become mundane, always look for ways to reintroduce the freshness and inspire her to do the same.

38. Live in the moment

live in the moment

When you fall in love with someone, it feels as though your whole life before they came along had been bleak. You want nothing more than to revel in the colors and light their presence brings. Living in the moment comes naturally to you then. It, however, becomes a task when the chemicals stop flowing. 

Maintaining the ability to enjoy one another’s company when this initial high clears is what the deep love you seek entails.

39. Discuss the future

Making great memories hits different when you can look forward to a future with the same person. I know no one can tell tomorrow but as long as you’re both here, discuss your plans. Not keeping the “what are we” conversation off-limits gives a lady the assurance she needs to put her all into a relationship with a man. 

FAQs

How do you make a girl fall deeply in love with you?

The best way to make a lady fall in love with you is to meet her needs. While sexual, physical, and financial conditions may vary, the universal one without which lasting affection is virtually impossible for women, is the emotional connection. Make her feel significant, special, and loved using the language she prefers.

What can I say to a girl to make her fall in love?

While there are no set-in-stone words that can make her fall in love with you, speaking from your heart is always a good idea. Pay attention to figure out the parts of her that most people aren’t privy to and verbally express your appreciation for those things.

How can I make a girl fall in love with me forever?

I don’t know about forever, but if you want a lady to fall in love with you, you must first make yourself worth loving. Become the version of yourself capable of attracting her and once you have, shower her with respect. Show her the specific kind of love she appreciates and, more importantly, treat her as an equal. 

How do you tell if a girl is serious about you?

When women get serious about a man, their actions show they are ready to make him a more significant part of their life. You will find her introducing you to her friends and family, telling you more about her work and colleagues, and being more open about her feelings and even finances.

How do you make a girl miss you?

Maintaining a little bit of mystery between you is the best way to ensure she misses you. When you’re with her, really be there. But don’t forget to have a life outside of your relationship with her, so she doesn’t feel choked by your attention. The more you appear to enjoy your time apart, the more she wants to spend with you.

To Conclude

So, after reading this, do you think you’re ready to give her a shot? I hope she does end up falling in love with you one day, and these tips should help those hopes come to fruition. Meanwhile, let me know what you think of the post in the comment section and share it with your friends.

Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.

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