How To Know Someone Likes You Secretly (31 Interesting Ways To Tell)

by Michelle Devani

Are you wondering how to find out if someone loves you secretly? 

Is it frustrating you to not know someone’s feelings about you? 

If so, you’ll appreciate this guide. It contains 30 hidden ways to know if someone has secret feelings for you. 

But I want to open this guide by sharing a somewhat controversial method of discovering this. In my opinion, it’s the BEST way to discover someone’s feelings about you. 

It’s this online communications tracker.  

This powerful tool can generate a database of your crush’s recent communications, provided you know a few of his most basic personal details. 

By using this tool, you’ll find out whether he’s been in frequent contact with other women, what smartphone apps he’s been using most, what online services he is using...and more.

More often than not, this tool will generate some useful information to help you know whether it’s worth pursuing him. 

And there’s no downside to using it. It’s 100% discreet, so he’ll never discover you’ve been tracking him. 

With that said, let’s take a look at 31 more conventional ways of discovering whether a man likes you.

Signs Someone Likes You Secretly

There are two kinds of men out there; we have the ones who are courageous and straightforward, and then, there are the shy guys. The courageous ones are more outgoing; when they are attracted to someone, they do not hide behind actions and secret gestures. 

They try to get to know you while making their true intentions known along the line. On the other hand, the shy guy seems to be unsure about confronting his love interests. So every time he likes someone, the subtle signs, and body language is the only way to figure out his true feelings. 

Even though you like this guy, trying to pay attention to every sign he throws your way can be confusing and exhausting. But when you know the exact signs to look out for, deciphering his body language, words and actions will be a lot easier. Without further ado, here are 31 ways to know if a guy has a secret crush on you.

31 Ways To Know Someone Likes You Secretly 

1. He listens to you

Generally, guys are not very good listeners. However, if you are with a guy who listens to everything you say, then it’s obvious he fancies you. When a guy pays attention to you, it means he wants to understand what you are saying, and he is trying to see things from your point of view. 

That is one clear sign that he likes you and finds you attractive. Pay attention to his body language when you are together, you will notice that he doesn’t give room for distractions like checking his phone. 

2. He is protective

Men are natural protectors; they have the biological urge to provide and protect hardwired into them. So, when they like someone, their hero instinct is triggered. So if he does like you, he will always want to keep you away from danger, and whenever he can successfully protect you from something, it makes him fall deeper in love with you. 

3. He notices every change you make

he notices every change you make

One thing you should know about guys is that they choose who and what is worthy of their attention. If you are with a guy who notices when you make any change to your looks, then that’s a clear sign that he pays special attention to you. It could be a new hairdo or piercing or outfit. If he figures out whatever it is, then he may like you more than he admits.

4. Jealousy

As humans, we always guard the things we treasure; it is this instinct that makes us jealous when we see people around someone we like. So, if you notice that a person acts weird whenever you are in the presence of someone else, it means they are jealous. 

They like you but are not bold enough to be upfront about it yet, they want other people to keep off as they do not want to risk losing you to anybody.

5. You are not a stranger to his friends

When a guy likes you, chances are he has told his friends about you; and whenever his friends see you, they treat you extra nice and special. 

You might find it unsettling at first because it means they probably have discussions about you. However, if his friends are all smiles and friendly with you, that is also a good sign that this guy actually likes you and his friends know because he told them.

6. He communicates with you through friends

Some guys are shy and do not have the stomach to approach a girl they fancy, so they resort to using their friends or her friends to communicate. Guys use this approach when they are scared of rejection, or cannot gauge your reaction. So if he asks one of his/your friends to talk to you, then that’s proof that he has a secret crush on you, but doesn’t have the courage to admit it.

7. He is a gentleman around you

Whoever said chivalry is dead has probably never been in the presence of a man who fancies her. He will always want to show you his best attributes and hope you find it attractive enough to like him too. 

When out, he will pull your chair out, open the door for you, and even walk you home. The most vital sign is that he respects you. He will always ask if you are comfortable or okay with anything he is about to do. 

8. He smiles unconsciously

When a person smiles, it is a clear sign that they like you. They are intrigued by your presence and all that you do gives them joy. In many cases, they may not even be aware that they are smiling until you point it out. However, if he’s trying to hide his true feelings, he’ll look away immediately when your gaze meets his. 

9. He always agrees with you

he always agrees with you

A guy who is trying to hide his feelings will still want to be in your good books. Therefore, you will never find him disagreeing with your opinions because he is fine doing whatever makes you happy. It might seem like he does not have a mind of his own, but you will notice that he is only this way when it comes to you, and that’s because he actually does like you.

10. He is fidgety

Nervousness manifests itself in many situations, like when you are at a job interview or in front of your crush. When a guy keeps his admiration a secret, chances are, he is not confident about expressing his feelings, so whenever he is in your presence, he gets nervous. 

Something like him playing with his fingers or running his sweaty palms through his hair, are good tell-tale signs of his secret feelings for you.

11. Laughs at all your jokes

There are many reasons why we laugh, but the most common reason is that it is a sign that we are around people or situations that make us happy. This is what makes laughter an important emotional expression. Try cracking a joke in front of this guy and watch his reaction. 

He will most likely laugh even when the joke is not funny, and no one else is laughing. That’s because he wants to save you from the embarrassment and awkwardness.

12. He does not talk about other girls

One way to know that someone secretly admires you is through their choice of words and topics when they are around you. For instance, a guy who likes you will not bring up stories about girls when it is around you. 

He wants you to know that he is single and available in case you like him as well. He knows that talking about other girls might make you think he’s off-limits so he will keep such discussions off the table. 

13. He stares at you

In the sight of a secret admirer, you are a unique being, and everything you do intrigues him so you will most likely catch him staring at you. However, the difference here is, because he wants to keep his affections a secret, so he does not maintain eye contact, and each time he notices that you are looking his way, he looks away. 

14. He stammers when talking to you

Some people find being in the presence of someone they like to be intimidating. While they enjoy your company, they are not comfortable because one slip could reveal how they truly feel about you. Also, they may be trying too hard to be perfect. He’ll rather listen to everything you say than talk too much to hide his evident ‘nervous stammer’.

15. They buy you presents

they buy you presents

There is a common saying that as humans, we provide for those we love, and there are truths to this statement. A secret admirer will always want to take advantage of every celebration or occasion to get you a present. They don’t mind spending money to make you happy because they find joy in knowing that they are the source of your happiness.

17. He remembers every detail

A person who likes you will always give you their full attention, and that’s because they know information is power. The more they know about you, the greater their chances of impressing you. 

So believe me when I say that whatever discussions you may have had in the past are etched in their memory like glue. They are not quick to forget things that concern you, and you will notice that they remember most of the conversations both of you have had.

18. He's interested in all that concerns you

When a guy secretly likes you, he sees you as a project. Not something that should be fixed, but as a person who needs to be studied. He’ll try to gain as much knowledge about your past, present, and future. 

In cases where he can’t get this from you directly, he will ask one of your friends for information on your likes and dislikes. Perhaps, he sees you in his future and will like to know what your plans are so he can align his intentions accordingly.

19. He is always available for you

We are all busy people, and there is always something to do. However, a person who secretly likes you will always seem to find a way to make themselves available when as much as they can. 

It may sometimes feel like they have more hours in the day, but in reality, they are only available because they like you. So whether it is 2 a.m., or you are a thousand miles apart, whenever you call on them, they will try their best to offer assistance.

20. He teases you

In some ways, this may seem like a childish approach to get someone’s attention, but it is a tactic that many guys use when they like a girl. They believe that by teasing her, she will suddenly crave their attention. In many cases, they are harmless and just friendly teases so don’t take it too personally. He is only seeking your attention because he secretly likes you.

21. He compliments you

Any guy who knows a thing or two about girls knows that they love compliments. We are drawn to the people who make us feel good about ourselves. That’s why when a guy fancies you, he will always compliment you so that you feel happy in his presence. He pays attention to what you wear and will never pass up the opportunity to make you feel good, beautiful, and confident.

22. He ignores you

I know what you are thinking. You are probably wondering why a guy who secretly likes you will ignore you. Well, the thing is some people use the push-pull effect to win the affections of those they love. 

If you notice that sometimes your guy is sweet and other times he is mean and just ignores you, then this is the technique he is trying to implement. The push/pull technique is an effective way to earn a person’s affection but only if it is used strategically.

23. Engages in long conversations

engages in long conversations

You can assume that a person secretly likes you from the kind of conversations you have. When someone likes you, they will enjoy talking to you and will not want your discussions to end. It will almost feel like they never run out of topics. 

Pay attention to the conversations you have, you will notice that they are usually lengthy, and more than half of the time, they are the ones who bring up the topics. He’ll try to maintain eye contact just so you feel he understands and connects with what you’re saying. 

24. He likes your pictures on social media

So maybe you pass each other in the hallway or street every day, but you can count how many times words have been exchanged. Yet, he never misses any of your posts on social media. He likes them timely and sometimes engages with you there. 

Clearly, he is a shy guy who likes you but just finds it more comfortable to interact with you behind a screen than physically. If you fancy him too, you should consider starting a conversation the next time you see him rather than passing each other like strangers. Trust me, he will welcome your approach and be glad you took the first step.

25. He aims to impress you

Like the male peacock who spreads its tail to impress a peahen, a man who likes you will always seek to impress you. First, he will want to know what piques your interest, and he will use that information to his advantage. He wants you to like him, so he is willing to do anything to impress you even if it is something out of his comfort zone.

26. He takes advantage of physical touch

Do you suspect that a guy secretly likes you? Well, here is one way to know. The next time you are together, try brushing your legs against his or act like you are laughing and allow your hands to rest on his arm. 

If he does not feel uncomfortable and move away slowly, then he secretly likes you. It means your touch is welcomed and he is happy that there was physical contact. In some cases, he might seize the opportunity to hold your hand for a longer time.

27. He responds to your messages promptly

Regardless of how busy a person may claim to be, they will always make time for the things that matter. When a guy fancies you, he’ll always be on the lookout for your messages, and whenever they eventually come in, he responds to them promptly. 

It doesn’t matter if he has a hundred and one other unread messages. You see, you are a priority to him, and this will reflect in how he treats everything that concerns you.

28. He wants to know your relationship status

Is there that one guy who is always keen about knowing your relationship status? He wants to see what you are up to and who you are talking to at all times. In a situation where you are in a relationship, you will notice that he still wants to know if you are happy in it. 

When a guy acts this way, the chances are that he secretly likes you and wants to know how receptive you are to being in a relationship before making a pass at you.

29. Your opinion matters to him

When we like someone, their interests are suddenly our interests and their opinions suddenly become a key player in our decisions. In this vein, when a guy likes you, he cares about your opinion and will never want to make a decision without knowing what you think about it. 

For instance, if he is your coworker and has just made a presentation. While others may find faults in it, the minute you tell him it was a good presentation, his face will light up. He sees you as perfect therefore your opinion in a sea of others will always be the best.

30. He wants to care for you

he wants to care for you

Giving so much time, attention and love can sometimes make us feel depleted. However, when it is given to someone you like and care about, you feel happy, and this supports the famous Chinese saying that suggests that if you want to be happy for a lifetime, you should help somebody. 

A man who secretly likes you may not be vocal about his feelings, but you will notice that he is always happy to help and care for you. He finds genuine happiness in helping you, so it does not bother him how much of a hassle he has to go through to make sure that you are okay.

31. He takes care of the bill

One way to know that someone secretly likes you is that he is always reaching for the bills whenever you go out together. Guys are biologically tuned to be providers, so when they are with someone they like, this instinct kicks in, and they want to take up the bill without bothering you.

FAQs

How do you know if a guy likes you secretly?

A guy who secretly likes you may think his secret is safe, but in reality, his behavior betrays him. He smiles whenever you are around and can’t stop staring at you. However, he is unable to maintain eye contact because he is shy. 

How do you know if a girl has a crush on you secretly?

Girl crushes are quite subtle; they seem to manage their emotions discreetly. However, you can tell she likes you by how much time she wants to spend with you, the way she laughs at all your jokes, and how she is always willing to make you happy even if it means getting out of her comfort zone.

What is the unspoken attraction?

The unspoken attraction is when two people like each other and their affections are reciprocated even though they have never addressed it or exchanged words. They get to know each other through actions. Over time, people who experience will seize acting as friends and start acting like a couple.

Do guys imagine kissing their crush?

When a guy likes a girl, he will fantasize about doing a lot of things with her, and sometimes that also involves kissing. One way to figure out if you really like someone is if you fantasize about them. So yes, this is probably very normal for guys.

Can you feel if someone is thinking about you?

Psychics believe that it is possible to feel when someone is thinking about you. There is also a common assumption that when you sneeze, it means someone is thinking of you. While there is no scientific back up to all these theories, I guess we can say to a certain degree, the human mind can tell when a person is fond of us and thinks about us.

In A Nutshell,

People act differently when they like someone but do not want them to know. Some will be extra kind, avoid eye contact, be extra helpful, while others will want to utilize the push-pull technique. Regardless, this article highlights all the possible signs to tell if someone really likes you. I hope you enjoyed reading it and I look forward to seeing your opinions in the comment section, Finally, don’t forget to share.

Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.

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