Are you wondering why a certain man takes so long to text you back?
Is a difference in texting behavior causing conflict in your relationship?
Are you thinking of deliberately taking longer to respond to him?
If so, read on. This article explains the pros and cons of engaging in these mind games.
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So, your man is one of those guys who just makes you wait a long time before responding back to text messages? I bet you are wondering, “If he takes hours to text back, should I do the same thing wisely?”
I can totally relate to your pain because that’s what it is - big-time pain and discomfort. During those hours when you are trying to crawl inside his head to understand why he hasn’t answered your texts, you feel tortured, right?
This is a sticky situation, though, because you don’t want him to know how much it bothered you that he didn’t answer right away, do you? This gives us quite a bit to talk about. There are pros and cons to treating him the way he treated you.
I’m going to present both sides so that you can best decide which way is best for you to go with your man and the predicament he has put you in.
Keep in mind that it’s best to always follow the Golden Rule, which states that we should treat other people the same way that we want to be treated. Would you like it if he did this to you again? Probably not, so maybe it’s best to go ahead and respond when he texts you - if and only if it’s a convenient time for you.
Also, keep in mind that you don’t have to respond right away, either. Give it about thirty minutes to an hour before you send him the next text message. You don’t need him to know your schedule and that you were upset that he’d taken a long time to get back with you. There’s no reason for him to know that information! Remain a mystery!
Sometimes, it’s all about the chase that guys go on to catch up to us. We want them to come after us; otherwise, they won’t think it’s very fun when they catch us. We want that final chase to be the last one, so it’s good to give him a good reason to hold onto us very tightly! We can do this by being a wonderful person to hold onto!
Remember that not everyone is a slave to their phone. Some people designate certain times when they have their phones turned off so that they are able to focus on a particular task or activity. If you have sent your man a text and don’t hear back soon, remember that he may be too busy or tired to get back with your text message right now.
I know it’s not fair to say this, but you are allowing yourself to feel anger over this situation, not him. You could turn your phone off or hide it in the corner and choose to be in a good mood right now. You don’t have to let his lack of a text message affect you the way it is. People who control their emotions are said to have high emotional intelligence.
That’s something I recently learned about, and it’s fascinating because it explains how we can shape the way we react to those around us. If you think he is acting unfairly by not texting you when he should, tell him that, and let the emotion pass you by. You don’t have to be upset by the whole thing. Choose to respond in a positive way!
I think it’s only fair to present the other side of the coin. You should never let a guy walk all over you. You are an important, competent, and bright person who deserves to be treated with respect. If you think he’s playing games, tell him that you don’t enjoy being treated like this. Say, “I felt unappreciated when you didn’t respond to my text.”
I really do believe it’s good to play a little hard to get. You shouldn’t feel the need to respond right back because you are a busy person. You don’t need to wait for his response when you could just send another text or find a new man to text if you know he’s not the one and is playing games with your heart.
If you respond to him as soon as he texts you back, hours after you sent him a text, he will possibly know that you were waiting around for your phone to go off, and he doesn’t deserve that information, does he? It might be smart to make him wait a little bit (thirty minutes should do it) before you send him a response to show you weren’t waiting.
Do you feel like he kind of takes you for granted?
Unfortunately this is one of the most frequent complaints we get from our readers, where they feel they aren't a priority for their boyfriend or husband. They always seem to have some excuse as to why they can't spend some quality time with you like they used to.
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This way, you are letting him know that you are not okay with someone waiting a long time to send you a response back via text message (or telephone call)! If you text him back the second he decides to text you back, he also knows that you are someone who is always available and willing to answer your phone when it goes off.
Since you don’t want him to repeat this behavior, it might be a good idea to tell him that you are not someone that just sits around waiting on the phone to ring or say nothing, letting your actions speak all the words. One thing I like to do is to read what he’s said and then wait awhile to respond if I’m not in a positive mood right now.
If he takes too long to text back, he could be playing games with your heart, which isn’t cool by any means. However, if he’s a decent guy, he may just be asleep or busy with work or a family matter. Don’t write him off the first time this happens.
You may want to not expect him to write back right away from now on since he’s slow with messaging. There’s always the chance he’s with someone else, but before rushing to judgment, you should find out what’s really going on.
I wouldn’t do that with anyone; there’s no reason to play games and keep track of every phone call. No one wants to live a life constrained by their text messages. Instead, just respond when you feel like it, a time that makes you feel happy.
If you are trying to get back with your ex, he may not be ready for that. If you think he’s with another girl, you may not need to care when he responds because the two of you aren’t right for each other if he’s seeing someone else.
He may be thinking of you, but later, maybe he got busy and didn’t have time to text back right away, causing a delay in his response time. You can always bring it up with him or keep yourself busy, so you don’t get worried about it.
What do you do when a guy takes hours to text you back? Do you enjoy making him suffer, or do you end the distance and text him plenty? I’d love to hear from you! Please comment in the section below, and don’t forget to share this with someone!
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