Breakups are never fun. One recurring question on the minds of the newly heartbroken singles: “Does my ex want me back?” Often it’s not easy to discern obsession and craze from real signs your ex boyfriend wants to get back together. No matter how “over him” you claim to be, you can’t help but torture yourself with the thought, even thinking about sweet things to say to your ex boyfriend to get him back.
Here are fifteen signs your ex boyfriend wants to get back together:
Whether it’s to return the toothbrush you left in his apartment or to ask you for that carrot cake recipe, he comes up with tons of lame reasons to see you.
This one is as obvious as it can get. If he shares old photos of the two of you on social media with a sweet caption or heart emojis, he’s hinting that he wants you back.
It’s nothing when it happens once or twice, but if he calls you drunk five nights in a row, you have the right to raise questions. Is he really drunk, or just making excuses to tell you how much he loves you?
He approaches your friends to ask what you’ve been up to these days. Maybe he’s not trying to hide that he wants to get back together with you, but is still too scared to ask you directly. Or he doesn’t want you to know how sad the breakup makes him feel…
You seem to run into your ex a lot. Last week it was at your favorite café, three days ago in the boutique near your workplace, yesterday you saw him at your aunt’s restaurant and this morning… you bumped into him during your jog. It’s probably not a coincident at all.
Remember the beginning phases of your relationship, when you couldn’t exchange enough ‘I love you’s? If he behaves romantically like when the two of you first met and seems infatuated by your outfits, he probably wants a second chance.
He lingers when you gave him that friendly hug and somehow his hand ends up holding yours as you two queued for coffee. It’s like he forgets he’s not your boyfriend anymore, thinking things are still as they used to be.
The conversation is about is how fun that movie marathon last Valentine’s was and how exciting that Sunday at the new theme park had been. He makes a point of how much he enjoyed spending time with you. Likely he wants to do it over again.
If he steers the topic about the future and what his dream life is like, he’s probably trying to lure you back into that habit of daydreaming about your future family together…
He doesn’t try to hide his feelings from you. Exes who aren’t interested in getting back together usually won’t want you to know his inner thoughts. But if he openly talks about his sadness and loneliness without you, he clearly wants you back.
No, he doesn’t put the blame on you. He genuinely wants to figure out what happened that led to the breakup so he can improve future relationships. Perhaps a fresh one with you.
If he’s pointedly showing that he’s trying to change parts of himself which might have caused the breakup, it’s a good signs your ex-boyfriend wants to get back together.
He doesn’t want you to find out about his dating life, whether he’s single still or already engaged in another relationship. If he hides this part of his life, you can be pretty sure that he wants you back in his life.
He’s straightforward and doesn’t pretend like he doesn’t care. He says he tried, but always ends up thinking about you and ends a rehearsed speech with three words, “I miss you.”
This one is a no-brainer, also the last resort. He's desperate. Your ex boyfriend wants to get back together and doesn’t know what else to do, he’ll straight up tell you. He won’t mask or hide the truth; he will simply face you and say it himself.
Does he really only want to know what you’ve been up to lately? Or does he feel like he’s missing out?
This doesn’t necessarily mean he wants to get back together, but it’s a possibility.
Maybe he doesn’t straight up tell you, but his friends have noticed enough to tell you how bad he wants to get back.
He always seems to be available if you call him and complies when you ask for help. This may also be signs that your ex still cares about you.
He’s envious when you go out with another guy. He still feels like your boyfriend, even though the relationship ended long ago.
Try to work it out together and see what happened that led to the breakup. It could be beneficial for you both, and is also useful ways to get him back after a breakup.
Should you get back together or can you stay as friends? Do you need to part ways for good? Talk to him, only both of you knows what’ll work best.
You need to tie up loose ends and determine what happens next, so that both of you get a sense of finality. Neither will be left rooting for a love that the other has moved on from.
Maybe it’s best that things end with the two of you. Pick up new hobbies to distract your mind from him for a moment. Maybe even try these fast ways to move on after a bad relationship or some easy ways to make yourself happy after a break up.
Does it feel like pulling teeth getting him to say how he feels about you?
Some men can be very gaurded and closed when it comes to expressing how they feel - it can almost feel like they are pulling away from you. Many women make the mistake of pushing their man to say how they feel, but this is actually one of the worst things you can do as it can push him away further.
To get him to really show you how he feels and communicate how much he appreciates you, there's one simple thing, although often overlooked, thing you can say to him today that taps into how men are wired and can often lead to them suddenly pouring their heart out. My friend recorded a quick free video (click to watch) that shows exactly how to do that.