What is friend zone? Is she or he friend zoned you? This article will tell you the definition of friend zone, the signs that you have been in a friend zone and how to get out and avoiding from friend zone.
First of all, what is the definition of friend zone? So friend zone is a terms of many guys and probably some girls use when they have been rejected, whether it’s straight out or unsaid. People would tend to claim that it was the other person fault or that they are friend-zoning the other, despite the facts that the person may really like the other as a friend, which is a false move to seeing as the other person believes they should fake feelings and be in relationship.
But in a simple way, friend-zone is a happy place for a girl, because it is a place where a girl and a boy ct sit and talk about anything and get really friendly to each other. But for a guy, friend zone is the worst place ever, especially when the guy likes the girl who always behaves like a just friend. So here are some signs if she or he is just messing you around and friend zone you:
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1. They don’t find you funny
Even as a stranger, some girl will most likely laugh at guy’s joke, his is completely normal social interaction. But in the other hand, if she never laugh at your joke, you might need to worry that you might nor interest her.
2. She asks you about other women
There are 2 probability if she asks you about other women, first that she wanted to know what kind of women you would like to date and the second she would probably like to give you an advise to get a girl, so… this mean she have no interest to build relationship with you.
3. We are just friends
You and her might hang out together and texting each other quite often, yet she still introduce you to her parents and her other friends just as a ‘friend’.
4. She does not want being seen when she was only with you
While going out she always avoid to be seen with you around her friends. She might be available for you but not during the night. And she don’t want to go have a bite to et with you or just simply watch movie in the cinema.
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5. They talks about their hookups
This is possibly the worst part of being in the friend zone, is being known about the other men she hooked to while you are not one of them.
6. When she’s drunk and she doesn’t show any sign
When you finally asked her out and went to the bar, but then afer she got drunk she still give you zero sign. Not even an inch she would get close to your arms, that’s a clear signt that she just not into you.
7. No physical contact between you and her at all
You guys might be hug each other as a friend, but hug doesn’t count as physical contacts since there are some people who likes to hug every time they meet each other.
8. She needs you some advise and tips
You find her asking you about other guys, but she doesn’t ask about you, just anybody else out there. She clearly has an eyes for other guy and she must be wondering how to get the guy she likes and ask your advise instead.
9. She ships you with the other friend
If she constantly make a joke about how good you are with ‘that’ friend or how good you’d be if you date other girl, this mean that you are not her type or not good enough for her.
10. If she has a boyfriends, her boyfriend wont see you as a threat
If she has a boyfriend but you still catching feeling for her and still hope she will be with me but her boyfriend never see you as a threat this could be suspicious. Because she definitely already tell her boyfriend that you just a friend and nothing to be worry about you and her.
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11. You do stuff for them that really their partner should be doing
You bring her food, you drive her back home from school, you always tried to satisfy her but she does nothing in return. This is just a clear sign that she just use you for her needs.
12. She is completely comfortable sharing bed with you
She completely alright and maybe invite you to sleep with her, but just sleep in literal meaning. She enjoy spooning and cuddle with you but not more than that and not in sexual way.
13. Best Fiends Thingy
You help them in every single thing. Somehow, that crosses the border of what best friend should be. Then, things like sharing, hugging, spending time together, camping, singing in the car, and all the great things become just usual but that things are never personal.
15. Know each other but nothing happen
You guys been spending so long together, been through good and bad moments together, but there is just nothing happen. You tell her she is beautiful but it goes t be just nothing, that’s usual.
16. You want more than just a friend
You want them really bad to be more than just your friend. But, that friend-zone smells really on point and you can’t say a real thing. But honestly, you just want to hug them like a true lover.
Indeed, there are many signs of a friend zone that may be happen on you and your best friend. However, just bless yourself that some love may seem so painful. Close yet so far.
How to Avoid Friendzone Things
There are various ways to prevent ‘friendzone’ to be happen and make sure that everyone is satisfied, those are include:
1. Just be a friend and behave like a friend
Don’t talk too much or spend your time a lot with he or she, and don’t always to her text about her problems in her life. But instead, it would be great if you and them talk about places, or movies she wants to see.
2. Give her a compliment if she deserves it
Do not always give her a compliment, give her compliment when she deserves it. For example, when she is wearing beautiful dress and she looks beautiful, tell her that she looks beautiful or hot.
3. Try to ask her out when she is alone
If there’s so many people around, it would be awkward to suddenly ask her out for a real date. Instead, ask her out when she is alone.
4. Make her feel special
You can make her feel special by get her small gift, that will definitely makes her really happy and don’t foget to tell her to keep it as a secret.
5. Treat her like she is your girlfriend
But you need to do it respectfully, for example, protect her while she crossing the street with you. Open the door for her whenever you hang out with her. Make her feel like a queen and give her a lot of attention, but if her friends are around, please don’t do this otherwise she would feel awkward.
6. Flirt with her – Flirting is fun and it is a playful way to let a woman know that you are into her without being blunt about it. Also, avoid those signs of a friendzone relationship.
How to Escape from A Friendzone Relationship
If you think you already stuck in friends zone, we already prepare some tips for you how to get out from this evil circle a.k.a friend zone.
1. Be less interested to the other person
The relationship between you and them is already imbalance because you value more than the other person and you put too much efforts than the other person. You need to take a step back. Desperate people will end up with what others give to them and not what they want. Then become less interested to other person and act like you ready to walk away from the relationship have the power to guide the real relationship.
2. More ‘me’ time for you
You need to try to spend some time away from your friend or lets say someone who friendzoned you and do less for them. If they really appreciate your presence, then your absence will make them miss you and want you more and try to put an effort to be with you. If you are no longer to be around them or tending to their needs, they will most likely feel the loss about your absence. This will increase their feeling to you and the desire to see you soon. If they don’t show you this sign, it just mean that they are not into you.
3. Create some competition against them
Hang out more and make your circle bigger. Get a new friends that you are interested in. then talk about these new friend with the friend who might be fiendsoned you. A competition and jealousy are another way to develop scarcity. Like as usual, people will value more what they think they might lose.
4. Get them to invest and put an effort
You might fee that you are the one who always put much effort to them and invest your time and feeling for them. Not it’s time to put it otherway. Ask your friend to do stuffs for you, people will do more if they likes you rather than when you do favor for them. The more other people invest to the relationship, the more you will mean to them. So it is time to stop doing favors for them and start asking for them.
5. Give them reward
Don’t forget to be grateful and rewarding to your friend if they behave like what you desire. If they are good to you, you need to be good to them as return. And ignore them if they behave badly to helps reduce unwanted behaviors.
Indeed, the signs of a friend zone relationship is a painful feeling. Yet, you must love your best friend like you love yourself. By then, let love runs for the right one to love. In case you ever heard, always spread love in every corner.