How To Know When Your Ex Is Truly Done With You (19 Ways To Know)

by Michelle Devani

Are you looking for closure after your break-up?

Perhaps you split in a way where you’re not sure whether it’s truly over? 

Maybe you’re holding onto hope that he might come back one day - but not knowing is driving you crazy…

This article is here to help you. It features the clearest signs that your ex is well and truly done with you.

However, before we start, it’s important to know this…

With these signs you can only speculate as to how your ex feels. 

After all, you can only really use the information that he chooses to show you…

And often that’s not enough to know what’s really going on in his head and his heart. 

That’s why I want to recommend this powerful online tool that I discovered just recently.   

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If you’re able to enter a few of his basic details into this tool, it will be able to deliver you a detailed report featuring his recent communications history. 

You’ll find out: 

  • who he has been calling and messaging;
  • who he has been contacting most frequently;
  • what apps he is using to communicate with people;
  • what alternative phone numbers and other contact details he has registered; 
  • and those are just the main highlights of what you will discover 

Hopefully, you can see how this information will present a clearer picture of how your ex is feeling about you. Within seconds, you’ll be able to see whether he has moved on. 

So, if you really want a clear picture of how your ex feels about you, click to download this tool now.

For a list of the behavioral signs that he is completely over you, scroll down and the rest of this guide.

19 Signs Your Ex Is Done With The Relationship

Moving on after a break up can be challenging. Beyond the tears and hurt you’re experiencing, there is also the denial - the inability to accept your new reality.

For many of us, when we are in a relationship, we give it our best, and it becomes a part of our identity. We build a life around our partners and project a future with the mindset that they will always be in love with us. 

This idea of a future with our partners could make it difficult to let go after a breakup. We stalk our exes and silently pray that they come to their senses and realize they are making a mistake by walking away. While an estranged ex can return after a breakup, there are instances where they are genuinely over you

This article will provide you with 19 signs to know when your ex is indeed done with you. Knowing these signs will save you the time and stress of struggling to win your ex back. 

19 signs your ex is done with the relationship

1. He returns your belongings

Your ex returning your belongings is a clear sign that he is ready to move on from the relationship you once shared. He knows that by keeping your things, he is holding on to the possibility of makeup, so he wants them out of the way. 

You see, some people are sentimental, and they put meaning to everything. That’s why this sign is particularly true if he returns the gifts you gave him. If he wanted to get back together, he would still hold on to them. So, if you’re still trying to get back together with him at this point, it may be a lost cause.

2. He takes back his belongings

Similar to returning your belongings, if your ex still wants his belongings back, it means he wants to move on. The act of coming for his things can be confusing, and that’s because, sometimes, exes use this as an excuse to see you again or make conversation. 

However, you can always see the signs your ex is serious about retrieving his things through his demeanor. He won’t engage in small talks, and in some cases, he will suggest that you mail it to him. That means he’s not trying to get back with you, and he simply wants his property back.

3. He does not care about your love life

There is a famous saying which insinuates that the opposite of love is not hate but indifference. You can tell that your ex still wants nothing to do with you from the way he reacts to seeing you with other people. Does he get jealous or start asking questions?

A person who wants to get back with their ex will be jealous at the thought of them moving on or getting into a new relationship. However, in the case of an ex who is over you, he does not care about who you spend your time with.

4. He stops communicating with you

Communication is a key player when it comes to maintaining a relationship. So if your ex has reduced or completely cut all forms of communication with you, then he is over you and wants to move on with his life. 

You will notice the signs your ex is over the relationship when he stops responding to your messages or returning calls. This sign is particularly evident if he could not go a day without communicating in the past. As an ex, you have an idea of his phone habits, so chances are he is always with his phone, but he is choosing not to pick your calls.

5. He does not respond timely to your messages

he does not respond timely to your messages

In the past, whenever you message your ex, he would respond immediately. However, now that you are no longer an item, he takes forever to reply to your messages, and even when he does, the message is short. 

The difference between his behavior then and now is based on his feelings for you. It is evident that he no longer cares about you, and is ready to move on. He does not see the need to be at your beck and call anymore, and won’t make the move to call you if you don’t reach out to him.

6. He avoids physical contact

You can always tell that an ex wants to reconnect with you by how he seizes every opportunity to be in your presence. However, if someone is over you, they are not keen on being in the same room with you. This is one of the major signs that your ex is either dating someone else or is simply ready to move on.

Even though you bump into each other in public, he’ll keep the pleasantries short. Another thing to pay attention to is how he reacts whenever you try to hold his hand. If he flinches or pulls away, then he is done with you.

7. He no longer remembers important dates

An ex who no longer remembers anniversaries, birthdays, or special moments with you is one who is over you. Whenever you are with your ex and talk about a song you both liked or a restaurant you still go to, pay attention to his reaction. 

Does he share the same enthusiasm? Does he recall these things, or does he refer to them as irrelevant and meaningless? These are signs that he is over you, and he has moved on to the next phase of his life.

8. He relocates

Nothing screams ‘I have moved on and will never come back’ like an ex who decides to relocate to another city. It means they no longer make decisions with you in mind. Your ex moving to another town can be a positive development for both of you as it gives you the time and space required to heal. 

It means the possibility of running into each other at the cinema, grocery store, or city center is close to zero. If your ex relocates to another town, it means he is ready to start another chapter in his life that does not include you. It’s time to get used to it and focus on moving on too. 

9. He is not nice to you

Remember the early days of your relationship when your ex was loving and willing to do whatever it takes to win your affection? Perhaps, even after the breakup, he was still kind to you, but he does not put effort into pleasing you these days. 

He must have been kind to you then because he was hopeful about getting back together, but now, he is over that, and your feelings no longer control his actions. If you want to get your ex back at this point, you’ll only be embarrassed and regretful. If he’s not pleasant, it’s one of the signs that your ex has moved on.

10. He changes his number

he changes his numbers

In his bid to get you out of his life for good, he may even change his number. It does not take a soothsayer to explain that this means he does not want to communicate with you. A change of number is an extreme step anyone would take to heal after a relationship. 

The possible reasons why your ex would resort to this are, first, if your breakup was bitter and you hurt him deeply; secondly, if you have been clingy or overly emotional after the split. 

11. He does not ask your friends about you

Mutual friends are an easy way to sniff out information about our exes. You can always tell when an ex is hopeful or has plans to get you back. They will ask your friends about you or use mutual friends to communicate with you. However, in a case where he is over you, none of that happens. 

12. He makes decisions without telling you

When you are in a relationship, it is expected that you carry each other along when making decisions, especially if they are life-changing. While this behavior is not likely from exes, an ex who wants to reconnect will not hesitate to involve you when making important decisions. 

Therefore, if your ex does not inform you about a decision he is about to make, like taking a job offer in a different town, he is over you. 

13. He is happy to see you with someone else

I’m sure you have told your girlfriends about how much you miss your ex and wish you could get back with him. In their benevolence, they suggested that you make him jealous, and one way to do so is by dating someone new. 

While this trick may work on an ex who still has feelings for you, it will not work on an ex who is over you. One of two things will happen, either he will be indifferent about your new relationship status, or he will express genuine happiness to see you with someone else. 

14. He takes on new hobbies

Many people take up new hobbies as a way to get over a relationship. Suppose your ex has taken up new hobbies or gone back to old ones that he abandoned while in a relationship with you, that can be a sign that he is over you. 

This sign is more concise if these hobbies are things you do not like. Taking up new hobbies means he has begun a new chapter in his life, and he is ready to live by his terms and not your expectations. 

15. He blocks you on social media

In recent times, social media has been used as a means to give the world a glimpse into their lives. Social media can also come in handy if you are trying to make your ex understand their position in your life. 

In this vein, your ex may decide to block you on social media to get over you, especially if the relationship ended bitterly. 

16. He is in a new relationship

he is in a new relationship

Your ex getting into a new relationship is just about the most obvious sign that he is over your relationship. Not only has he moved on, but another woman has also taken your position in his life. While this can be painful to know and witness, I will advise you not to try to compete with the other woman. 

In fact, don’t get involved at all. Now is the time to stop and see things as they are - your ex is over you, and he will most likely not come back. Instead, you should focus on yourself and open your mind towards meeting new people.

17. He is upfront about his non-existent feelings for you

Sometimes, irrespective of how many signs you give a person, they will not get the message until you come out clear and express their intentions with words. This might be the situation with your ex; because you are still in love with him, you are blinded by your feelings and have failed to see all the other signs he has been giving you. 

The only option left is to tell you bluntly that he doesn't love you anymore, and he wants to move on with his life, away from you.

18. He stops engaging with your posts on social media

Some people do not allow breakups to stop them from maintaining a good and healthy relationship with their exes. However, if your ex has seized every form of social media interaction, from the likes to retweets and sharing of memes, it means he is over you and doesn’t care anymore.

Since he is yet to unfollow or block you, it means he can see your posts and activities but chooses to ignore them all the same. It’s possible that he does not want to unfollow you for fear of being tagged as acting childish, but if he had his way, he probably would.

19. He encourages you to date other people

he encourages you to date other people

If all the other signs in this list are not convincing enough, then this one should do the trick. When your ex encourages you to join dating forums and date other people, it means he is over you and would like you to move on with your life. 

He still loves you and cares about your happiness, it is most likely platonic and he would prefer that you share that happiness with someone else.

FAQs

How do you know when your ex is truly done with you?

You can tell your ex is over you from how he treats you. First, you are no longer a priority in his life, so he will make decisions without informing you. Secondly, he will not pick your calls and will delay in responding to your messages.

How do you know if your ex is not over you?

One way to know if your ex is not over you is by how hard they try to prove that they are happy. He might even go out of his way to post excessive pictures on social media to prove his point, but you can always tell when it is genuine and when it’s an act if you look closely.

Will my ex regret leaving me?

The truth is, there is no way to confirm if your ex regrets leaving you except he says so himself. However, regret is normal in every relationship, and it could come in many ways. Perhaps, he regrets how he treated you or wishes he had treated you better. 

How do you make someone regret hurting you?

The best thing you can do to anyone who hurt you is to remain happy. Show him that with or without him, you are happy. Focus on whatever you are doing and make sure you excel at it. When he sees that you are doing well, he will most likely regret being a douche.

Does silence make a man miss you?

Ever heard of the contrast principle? In this case, it is when you distance yourself from a person with the intention of pulling them closer. When you make yourself scarce or cut off communication with a man, he is more likely to miss you and treasure every moment he gets to spend with you.

In Conclusion

Many of us get into relationships with hopes that we can establish something meaningful that will last forever. However, breakups rob of this dream. While some people still stand a chance to reunite with their exes, I hope this article is able to make you see the signs of an ex who is over you. If you enjoyed this list, don’t forget to leave a comment and share it with friends.

Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.

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