Being ignored is one of the most painful thing that can happen to you, especially by the one that you love the most, your boyfriend. When your boyfriend ignore you, maybe there are a lot of speculations that comes in your mind; does he abandoning you? is this going to lead to a break up? does he have another girl in his heart?
As a person who has been involved in a long term relationship I have been involved in this kind of situation numerous times, its a common thing that can happen in a relationship so don't worry to much about it.
Here are some things that I think are the reason why he is ignoring you and some suggestion on what you should do in this kind of situation.
Here's the reasons why your boyfriend is ignoring you:
Did you do something unpleasant to him? Did you talk about things that he doesn't want to talk about? were you being unfair to him?. Have you done one of the things that I mention? If yes do some thinking to understand the reason why he is ignoring you after the fight, you might come up with a solution on how you can end his silent treatment over you.
Is this fight is about something silly that the both of you have been fighting over and over? like fighting about where to eat and you replied him with "up to you". If yes, ignoring you after the both of you having a fight means that he wants you to realize by yourself that he doesn't like that kind of attitude, what he wants is you to do is for you to give some recommendation on where to eat, not throwing all the decisions making to your boyfriend and get angry whenever he makes the wrong decision.
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Have you ever had a bad day? What do feel after those kind of day? tired both emotionally and physically right? maybe he is having those kind of day at work where his boss just keep yelling at him for the little mistake that he made.
That is the reason why he got sensitive and starting to have an argument with you that leads to him ignoring you after the fight. The solution to this is giving him some time to calm himself and find the fine line between caring and bothering him.
What to do when your boyfriend ignores you after a fight? One of the reason that he is ignoring you maybe after you had a fight with him is perhaps something really important preoccupied his mind, for example, he has some family issues at home. Of course that is not an excuse to not contacting you at all, but you must understand the circumstances that he is going through to avoid any misunderstanding.
As I mentioned earlier when your boyfriend needs an alone time, just give all the time that he needs. He may not speak loudly about this because he was scared that his decision will disappoint you, so instead he just ignore you altogether.
there are several reasons why your boyfriend needs an alone time, maybe he is very disappointed in you, maybe he is tired going through this over and over, maybe he is cheating on you. there are endless possibilities about why he is ignoring you, try to keep your mind in a positive state or you will get depressed about this situation.
What to do when your boyfriend ignores you after a fight? There are numerous signs of your boyfriend is cheating on you, ignoring you after a fight is one of them. When your boyfriend's interest to make a simplest interaction with you such as texting is one of the most common sign that he is cheating on you. He may already planned a situation where he put your relationship in a fragile condition so he can make an excuse for spending time for the other girl or maybe even dumping you.
So, what to do when your boyfriend ignores you after a fight?
Fights usually happen for a reason, did you do something that upset him? Is he waiting for you to say sorry for your mistakes? Is he trying to cool down so he don't do anything reckless when he's angry?
After you analyze the situation, you can start thinking about the solution of the problem that you and your boyfriend are having. For example, if he needs time to cool down give all the time that he needs, if he already emotionally stable usually he will try to contact you and laid it all to you whatever is wrong with your relationship and if it is because something that you do, starts apologizing don't be eaten by your ego and think "my boyfriend should contact me first than me trying to reach him".
When you feel you are the one who caused the fight, apologize and mean it. Tell him how much you are sorry about the thing that you did, explain what are the thing and what you feel after you have done it. He may get flattered and comes into an understanding to finally forgive you and end his silent treatment.
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If you are not able to heard from him because he doesn't reply to your messages or answer your calls, try to ask for his condition and his whereabouts through his friends and family. Ask someone who you trust because if he/she tells him that you are currently stalking on him he will feel disturbed, but some guys feel somewhat happy that you still care for him even though there is still an ego war raging on between the both of you.
Tell him that you want to go on a date with you, make sure you had everything already planned earlier so he may set aside his pride to decide to go. Dress your best in order to steal his attention, it is impossible not to steal his attention when you are the prettiest girl around.
Pick a comfortable place so you can have a discussion with you about the problems that you both are currently having. If the date goes south tell him that you are hoping this date can reconnect both of you, if he doesn't seem to care, tell him that you are breaking up with him because he doesn't appreciate all the things you do for him.
Of course you need proofs for this, if you have all the proof that shows that he is cheating on you, demand him to have a talk about this with you. If he come up with excuses when you are trying to get explanations toward the proofs or even don't want to have a talk with you because of stupid excuses, break up with him instantly because the things aren't working for the both of you.
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Do you feel like he kind of takes you for granted?
Unfortunately this is one of the most frequent complaints we get from our readers, where they feel they aren't a priority for their boyfriend or husband. They always seem to have some excuse as to why they can't spend some quality time with you like they used to.
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