6 Signs He's Not Interested In You After First Date And What To Do Next

Last updated on May 4, 2024 by Michelle Devani

They say that the first date is so important, because it can determine whether or not there will be the next date. The first date is also a chance to give your date your best impression. That is why many people can be so nervous on their first date.

After the first date, it is normal to be wondering what is going on next. Will there be any second date? Is he into you? Well, the date went very well and he seemed to enjoy your company, but there is this tiny uncertainty inside your mind that keeps questioning whether or not he is interested in you after the first date.

You might have an expectation that there will sure be another date with him as the first date went unexpectedly smooth. However, do not expect too high, because the perfect first date does not always mean he determines to have another date with you. There is always probability that he might have pretended to enjoy the date just to respect you.


Signs He's Not Interested In You After The First Date

Whatever reasons make him not having interest in you, like you accidentally do things that could make him dislike you, to help you in feeding your curiosity, here are some signs he's not interested in you after first date:

1. He Stops Contacting You

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Before the first date, both of you never forgot to tell everything to each other. He even frequently texted you only to ask how you are doing or texted you just to show you some silly memes. However, he has not texted you ever since the first date. "What is happening?" You thought, "The date went well, but why hasn't he texted me?". As it was mentioned above, the flawless first date does not always translate as the successful first date.

Therefore, if he stops communicating with you after the first date, he perhaps does not have any interest in you. When this happens, try to call him first and ask him directly. Nonetheless, you need to prepare your heart before hearing his answer in case it will be hurtful. This is better than him keeping you hanging on. When he suddenly texts you, this is what to do when a guy texts you after a long time.

2. The Date Goes Short

To find out if he's interested in you after the first date or not, you can easily check how the first date went. Well, this not always works since there are some men that are very shy and timid who does not show when the date bores him.

However, if you notice that your date seems in hurry and he cuts the date early, that might mean he is not interested in you. Many men cuts their first date short if they find the woman they are having date with does not attract them, just not to let her raising her interest in them. This is also their subtle way to tell her that they are not into her. 

3. There Is No Hint For The Next Date

If he has his heart set on you, he will discuss with you the plans for the next date, even when both of you are still on the first date. He will ask you whether or not you are free this weekend. He will also ask you about where your ideal place to date is. One of many Signs A Man Loves You Secretly is that he imagines the next romantic date with you, plan it, and make it happen. Thus, if there is any hint for him for the next date, he is most likely not into you.

4. He Mentions Other Women

There is no clearer sign of a man not putting interest in you than him mentioning other women when you are on your first date. If he tells you about his female friend while you are on your first date, that means his mind is not focusing on you.

His female friend that he mentions is on his mind as well. Well, he may be want to avoid awkward silence between you two by telling a story of his female friend. However, there are still many topics he can bring up to break the awkward silence. He is either stupid or not interested in you by mentioning other women on your date. No guy will bring any woman's name when is on date. He should pay his attention to you instead of other women. This also can be a sign he is player.

5. He Does Not Show Up

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He asks you to have another date with him, but he does not show up on the date even after you have waited him for hours. He does not even notify you beforehand, so you have no idea what happens to him. You try to contact him, but his phone is off.

You wait him to call you until a week after him not showing up, but he still does not call you. He disappears just like that. If this happens to you, then it is either he is abducted by alien or he is not interested in you. Whatever his excuse is, this extremely rude attitude is only possessed by a really coward man. It is actually a good thing that he is not interested in you, because you deserve a better man.  

6. He Always Makes Excuses

A guy who has low interest in you will always make excuses every time you are trying to ask him to meet you. He will say sorry that he is not free next week since he is going to be very busy with work or he will say that he cannot meet you as he is going out town, etc.

If he really likes you, he will make time just to be with you even though it is only a second. There is also possibility that he makes these lame excuses to avoid hurting you. However, if he is a true gentleman, he will be honest with you by telling you his feeling rather than neglecting you and toying with your feeling.

Those are several possible signs he's not interested in you after first date. In short, every man has different ways to show that he is not attracted with his date after the first date. The best way to find out is that to ask him directly about this rather than keep waiting for him to make a move first.

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Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.
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