5 Dating Mistakes That You Should Stop Before You Start New Relationship

by Michelle Devani

What do you think is the key of a long-lasting relationship? Trust? Communication? Or maybe money? Anyone has their own sight about how to maintain their relationship.

A couple should keep the key habits to build a successful relationship if they want their relationship to last long. Other wise, they will only waste their love to finally break up.

There are so many reasons why a relationship does not work. If you are currently dating somebody and want your relationship to last long, there are some mistakes that you need to stop.

Dating Mistakes That You Should Stop

1. Being too possessive

Being too possessive

The first dating mistake that you should stop is being too possessive to your partner. Yes it is true that they belong to you and you want them all to yourself. But if there is too much of possession you give to them, it will only cause you two to start a fight.

How so? At the beginning of your relationship, it will look cute when someone always wants to be with their partner that they will not let their partner go without them. But, if it keeps going on like that until that person lose their freedom because their partner limit their connection with others, it is not cute at all.

Just let your partner do the things they want and go wherever they feel like. Know that they are yours and do not worry about them cheating or stuff, because if they really love you they will not make you worry. And, if they want to cheat, they will do it don't matter how hard you try to keep them.

2. Suspect your partner

The next dating mistake that you should stop if you want a long-lasting relationship is suspect when you find something suspicious. You see them smiling on their phone and suddenly you ask them if they have been chatting with another person and having an affair with them.

What if they are just looking at a funny memes or a funny animal video? Of course it will ruin your relationship if you easily suspect them over things you should not worry about. Trust your partner.

You will better communicate with them if you find something that makes you questioning rather than judge them for something they may not do. Boys, before you say your girlfriend is cheating on you, learn the signs your girlfriend is cheating on you.

3. Being over-jealous

This is one dating mistake that has ruined many relationship. If you want your relationship to last, you need to stop being over jealous. Well, we often heard that jealousy is one of the signs that someone really loves their partner. But, if it is too much, it will actually cause trouble. There's no use of being over jealous.

They are your lover, why so scared that they may be close to someone else? Of course you are the one who means for them. You do not have to be over jealous to keep your partner. If they really love you they will not do things that make you jealous too much.

Being over jealous will only make you tired inside and out. How can you stress over the fact that your partner is meeting somebody else for work? It's not like they will easily fall in love with somebody they meet at work or on the street. If you keep being over jealous, it is because you are not confident with yourself.

Trust your partner for choosing you. Cause if they really mean to cheat, they will do it anyway cause there are so many reasons why people cheat. You will see that they are not good for you and there are so many reasons why you should leave a cheater. And, keep in mind of what you should not do when caught your partner cheats.

4. Talk more and listen less

Since communication is one of the main keys of successful realtionship, you need to build a balanced communication woth your partner. The other dating mistake you do not realize that you should stop is talking too much but listening too little.

The problem that will arise when you just talk, talk and, talk while your partner is trying to tell you something is misunderstanding. Ironically, people only listen to reply not to understand. If you only listen to your partner so that you can reply and argue better, you really need to see if you have been missing the point of communication.

You should listen to understand what is going on inside their mind. You are their partner, their lover so you are the one who is supposed to see what others don't in them. So, try to listen more to understand.

5. Let the dishonesty take control

Let the dishonesty take control

The next dating mistake you should stop is letting dishonesty take control of your relationship. Building a relationship when you are hiding a secret is like keeping a timebomb. Sooner or later it will blow up and ruin everything.

If you think the truth will only shut them out, you really need to think again why you are dating them. When you keep something a secret just so you do not lose them, just wait until the secret is revealed and things can never be the same again. Even the kindest person will find it hard to trust someone who lies to them.

So, when you start dating someone, you need to tell them who you really are and what happens to you. If they are okay with that, you have to be thankful. But if you lied to them when they were actually okay if you told them earlier, they would be disappointed. And if they leave, they are just not the right one for you. Let them go.

Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.