When you fall in love with a guy, all you can think is the relationship proceeding in a good direction. You think you have seen all the signs when guys fall in love in him, only to find out that he disappears like a bubble one day.
A guy ghosts you.
After numbers of unanswered called, ignored message, you finally can't reach him at all. You wonder where would he be? Why doesn't he answer my calls and texts? When did it go wrong?
What to Do When a Guy Ghosts You
It's only about time until he completely disappear. You're hurt, you're shock, you're being left. But you can't stay like this forever. You must rise up and find strength. At the beginning you don't know what to do when a guys ghosts you. Stay strong with some of these tips:
1. Let Him Apologize
Rather than going the hard way, make peace with the reality and acknowledge that he's making mistake. Everyone does and this is maybe not what he intended to. He could ghosts you with a good reason that he doesn't want to hurt you because he's not sure with his own feeling yet. Even if he doesn't ask for apology, be the one who forgive him.
2. Find Your Own Closure
It doesn't end if it doesn't really end. You find it hard to find the ways to move one because you haven't find the closure yet. Why did he leave you out suddenly? Maybe something really bad happen or his life turns upside down after he got fired from his job or even worse, he was just playing with you. It's okay if you want to know his reason. Try to reach him out by any means for one final explanation.
3. It's Not Your Fault
You can't help but thinking could it be your fault that you're being ghosted? Throw away the thought because you did nothing wrong. As long as you've done your best and sincerely love him, he could be the one who missing a diamond. Don't be so hung up over the loss.
4. Get a Grip of the Reality
Ghosting happen without prior notification or you think so. Actually the signals that he's going to ghost you have been there all the time but you didn't notice. Women tend to take any relationship seriously while actually he's not into you.
5. Cut Him Off of Your Life
You don't really want to keep such jerk in your life. Get it all done for once by cut him off of your life. Delete his number as well as his social media account. Start a new fresh and erase him for good. Pretend like you never know him if you must. It's the best ways to forget one sided love anyway.
6. Admit the Pain
To feel pain and despair means that you're still human. You may cry if you want and admitting that you're in pain. Embrace the pain for the mean time until you're ready to move on. Tell yourself it hurts, tell your friend it hurts. Even if it still hurts, it's okay.
7. Love Yourself
No matter how hurt and heartbroken you are, you must take a good care of yourself. It's normal to feel the pain but it shouldn't last for a long time. Eat well, go back to work, find your own happiness while getting ready for the new love. See all the reasons you should know and love yourself before your love someone else.
8. Talk It Out
Sharing is caring. When everything seems hard for you to bear alone, talk to your friends especially the one who have similar experience. They'll know how to deal with the pain and help you to move on. Do a lot of things with your friends to make you happy. Being sad for a long time consume you.
9. Know That the Best is Yet to Come
Life doesn't end juts because you're being ghosted. It doesn't mean that you don't deserve to be loved as well. The best thing always come in the end and with him leaving, the best is yet to come. Find someone who loves who sincerely, without doubt and without any insecurity. Let go of all the bad things and take the lesson.
Be thankful that he leaves you before you even start any relationship with him. He could be still unsure of his feeling, maybe he's not falling in love with you yet and he doesn't want to hurt you. He's leaving for good.
Not everyone is up for commitment. It's the most important signs you're ready for a new relationship and the fact that he ghosts you means he probably not ready for it. He still wants his freedom and he doesn't want to give you a false hope.
There must be a good reason as to why he doesn't want a commitment yet. It could due to his past experience after being betrayed and he ended up having trust issue. The traumatic event leave a deep scar for him.
You don't have to think too hard about what to do when a guy ghosts you. It's enough to proof that he is not worthy for you. Be thankful that you find this out before officially dating him. There will be another guy who sincerely loves you. It's never your fault since ghosting often happen to people because they are too good. Consider him as a real ghost who disappear for good. His existence only makes you freak out anyway.