Still in the theme of love, but maybe for now this discussion will be a little hard but happy. Because now we will discuss “Christian Wedding Traditions.” After all the happiness and all the sadness that you pass through, this will be final step in your relationship. Yep, that is a wedding. Many of the couple want their relationship reach this step. Because wedding is a sacred moment for a couple that want to live together as one. With many religion in this world, the wedding ceremony will go through many forms as the religious rules about wedding. But for now, we will discuss about christian wedding traditions.
As we see know the wedding ritual of some unique tradition, the Christian wedding tradition is enough that we know. Every steps and actions in process to wedding ceremony, every of it has a meaning and value for the couples. It has to be lived by every couples. Next is every steps of christian wedding traditions.
1. Have to Go to Church to Worship Together At Least for 6 Months
This steps is always have to do it in every church. Because this will show their commitment, the couples, with God. And in addition, some church give some adjustment. Example: have at least baptize and have a letter of it, at least was doing communion, at least was doing some sacrament. This steps have meaning and purpose in every requirement. In general, the purpose and meaning is to keep strong their faith in God.
2. Approval and Bless from Each Parents
Approval and bless from each parents is the more important things. Almost every pastor in church not want doing counseling premarital if each parents not bless the marriage and approval. Because parents is trustee from God. The parents will be responsible to God about their children. (Matthew 15: 4, “For God said: ‘Honor your father and mother’ and ‘Anyone who curses his father or mother must be put to death.”). And some people believes that if parents not bless the marriage, they will against the God, they will don’t have a peace, joy. Until their parents agree with their marriage.
3. Have to Do Counseling Premarital
As we know, every traditional have their rules. In Christian, counseling premarital is one things that have to before wedding. Counseling premarital is placed in church with key notes a pastor. Materials that given is around how to make a happy family, responsibility in family, build family based on strong faith with husband as head of family and wife to support husband in every condition, and respect each others. In addition, maybe the bride’s family adjust some information and give advice about building family.
4. Doing a “Bidston”
Maybe not in every church to do this. But, there are a few church that do it. Bidston is pray together with bride and groom become special guest and sometimes the bride become a singer as an opening. Purpose of this is give thanks to the Lord that the bride and groom have met and will married tomorrow. The main event in bidston is singing worships song, worshiping a God, preach, and prays.
5. Groom Enters First
In the wedding day, the groom enters first in the church. This initiated from bible, that Christ called and come for his bride, the Church. Christ in this position as the Groom, came for His Church.
6. White Wedding Dress
Sometimes some people curious about the wedding dress. Why it has to white? Why not blue or red or purple or others? After collecting some information, it very meaningful. First, White Color has meaning of purity. Second, as symbol of righteousness of Christ described in Revelation 19:7-8, “7) Let us rejoice and celebrate and give Him the glory. For the marriage of the Lamb has come, and His bride has made herself ready.8) She was given clothing of fine linen,” linen bright and pure. For the fine linen she wears is the righteous acts of the saints.”.
7. Seating of Parents
As in the wedding day, each of the parents have to come in church. But, if the parents is can not go for some reasons, they will choose closest people who can go to Church in exchange. Usually, the parents have to seat in front of altar, the place nearest with pastor, the bride, and the groom. This is a symbolize about their responsibility to unite their children in front of God, and as symbolize their agreement with the wedding.
8. The Worship Song
Usually in every christian wedding traditions, they always sing worship song. At least minimum two songs. (Colossians 3:16,”Let the word of Christ richly dwell within you as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom, and as you sing psalms, hymns, and spiritual songs with gratitude in your hearts to God.”). Because worship song is very importan in christian. This is can be symbolize that how they, the bride and groom, family, and guests, thankfully to God whom unite them and bless the wedding.
9. Preaches of Marriage
After all of the traditions, this is the event in the middle wedding’s day. Yep. The Preaches of Marriage. This is the last message and support from the pastor about marriage. It can be the relax time of couple before the promise of marriage doing. The Preaches of Marriage can talk about some jokes about marriage, and some suggestion in marriage.
10. Wedding Affirmation Ceremony
After Preaches of Marriage, the pastor will ask the couple about their wedding and their commitment as servant of God. This is the last ask from pastor about their commitment as symbolize in front of God. Usually, pastor will ask about their love. Are the couple really want to make the wedding as one individual in the eyes of God? Are they do the wedding without any pressure? Are they truly love each others? Are they really acceptance each others in good times and hard times? Are they really want to share each others as one individual? And the others question something like that.
11. The Wedding Vows
This is very crucial moment at wedding. Because They have to loudly and earnestly say their loyal promises as a married couple. This situation have to free from suppress and fear. If one of the couple not say with loudly and earnestly, it will repeat until it can acceptance. But remember, if it repeated the guest and family will really disappointed. Because they will think the couple is not serious about the wedding. Remember they say it not only in front of human, but in God too as we believe.
12. Acceptance from The Family and Guests
This is the last step of regret. Why? Because the wedding will held a minute if there is anyone whom not accept their relationship. After the couple, the bride and groom, say the Wedding vows, the pastor will ask the audience, the family and the guests. Are they acceptance this relationship? Are they acceptance this covenant? If they are not accept it, the wedding will be held until they acceptance or the wedding will be continue in another time.
13. Exchanging of the Rings
Ring has a shape full circle, without a break line. It will symbolizes the eternal quality of love. It can symbolizes a become one, no one can separate. So if this events is done, as symbolize they have to love each other no matter what.
Ring has another meaning too. Ring can use as a seal of authority. It means if the couple wear it, they have to demonstrate their submission to God’s authority over their marriage. Their marriage is brought by God, so that they have to allow God in every breath and steps in their marriage.
Ring also can represents resources. Because usually the wedding use golden ring, and gold is represent a resource. But in this modernity, the wedding ring is not always golden ring. It can replaced by diamond ring. Whatever it, can represent the resources. It means when the couple exchanges wedding rings, they agree to giving all their resources to build family. And it will symbolizes the covenant relationship.
Similarly, when God chose a rainbow, which forms like a circle, as a sign of his covenant with Noah ( Genesis 9: 12-16, “12) And God said, This is the token of the covenant which I make between me and you and every living creature that is with you, for perpetual generations: 13) I do set my bow in the cloud, and it shall be for a token of a covenant between me and the earth.14) And it shall come to pass, when I bring a cloud over the earth, that the bow shall be seen in the cloud: 15) And I will remember my covenant, which is between me and you and every living creature of all flesh; and the waters shall no more become a flood to destroy all flesh.16) And the bow shall be in the cloud; and I will look upon it, that I may remember the everlasting covenant between God and every living creature of all flesh that is upon the earth.”).
14. Pronouncement of Husband and Wife
The pronouncement officially declares the couple, the bride and the groom, have to live as wife and husband. They will share everything in every breath of their live. In this moment, they are officially as one individual in the eyes of God, not two.
15. Bridal Veil
Usually the wedding dress have bridal veil. This will use as one of the crucial moment in wedding in the event: Open the Bridal Veil. This event as symbolize the purity of the bride, and her reverence for God. It can means like this: Before the bridal veil, the bride live as an individual. After open the bridal veil, the bride will live as one with the groom. Just like Matthew 19:6 says: “So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate”.
16. The Reception/Celebration
After all the events, this is the happy event. Yep. The party. The reception is a ceremonial moments which will look like sweet seventeen party. In this events, there will be some show off by the couple or the guests. In this event, the guests sometimes have to give a speech to the couple or some motivated words.
17. Cutting and Feeding of The Wedding’s Cake
Usually in the reception, there is a wedding’s cake. The wedding’s cake has to cut off by the couple while joining their hands with knife. After the cake was cut off, the couple have to feed each others. This is the happiest and funny moment happen. Because most of wedding event, there will be a accident in this event. The groom’s face is a full of cream cake. The bride feed it first.
18. Throwing Wedding Flowers
This is the moment guests wait for. Because there is a myth that says,”If you get the flowers, you will get your spouse as soon as possible”. I don’t know that’s true or not. But some people believes that will happen. So if you are in christian wedding, don’t be shock with this event. Or if you still single, you cant try to get this one. Maybe you will get your spouse as soon as possible after get the flowers.
The Steps of Christian Wedding
As the others tradition, usually in christianity there is always have of some steps. So this is the steps of christian wedding:
1. The groom enter the hall and the family and guests stand up
Usually this accompanied by some music and the groom walks to the altar.
2. Prologue from pastor.
This is can be pray in the opening from pastor or some speech to thank God and ask for blessing the wedding ceremony.
3. Sing a worship song
In this steps, there are various steps about it. There will a opening worship song and some prays and continued by.
4. Pray before preaches of marriage
This is just like pray before the preaches usually, but pastor will pray especially to the couple. The pray will like about ask God to open the couple heart, so the couple can accept the preach.
5. Preaches of Marriage
Just like the explanation above. The preaches of marriage will be spoken by the pastor. This is the last chance of pastor to give the last message about marriage in wedding ceremony. Because there will be a chance that pastor forgot to say something in premarital counseling. Usually this event filled by some joke about marriage.
6. Wedding affirmation ceremony
This is the last chance from pastor to ask the couple as servant of God. To make sure they really want to marry without any pressure, but pure with love each others.
7. Wedding vows
This is the crucial event. Each couple have to loudly and earnestly say about their vows.
8. Acceptance from the family and guests
Everyone have to accept about the couple vows. If not, the wedding will held a second to make everything clear.
9. Exchanging of the Rings
This is the sacred moment. The couple usually put on the ring on right hand in ring finger each others.
10. Pronouncement of Husband and Wife
After the acceptance, the pastor will pastor will announce the couple as husband and wife, as one individual.
11. Bridal Veil
The groom will open up the bridal veil. Others tradition, after open up the bridal veil, the groom will kiss the bride.
12. Pray to closing wedding ceremony
Just like the pray to close usually but with some blessing wedding.
13. Throwing wedding flowers
This step is optional. This step usually do in europe and some asian church. Usually after the closing wedding ceremony, the bride facing back the guests and throw wedding flowers. Why doves? Because doves symbolize love, peace, happiness, and prosperity.
14. Releasing the dove
This step is optional. There is some church or people do this after wedding ceremony. Usually the pastor lead how to release it, then the couple hold on the dove together and release it.
15. The Reception
This steps is optional. This step is the party where guests and family group together to eat and take some photo.
Meanwhile, wedding is the most important moment in everybody’s life that wish to held it once only in a life time with the lover we love the most.
Wedding Tips for Everyone
Yep. So that is all the christian wedding tradition that I know about. Oh I almost forget, there is some little tips that I want you to know:
- Don’t Invite Your Exes
Why? Because almost your ex maybe still in love with you. They will ruin out your wedding with their disagreement in step acceptance family and guests.
- Make Sure the Food in Reception is Enough for People Whom You Invite
This have to check. Because if the food is not enough, your wedding will be ruin out and the guests disappointed with you and your couple. It will a bad mark in all your life.
- The Wedding Dress Looks Good On You
Many wedding ceremony feel awkward moment caused by the wedding dress. Make sure your wedding dress is suit to you and comfortable with you. Because sometimes happen when the bride dress is too long and make the bride fall.
Meanwhile, every religion in the world had its own rules and traditions of wedding. Yet, the most important of it it’s the couple who promises it. After all, wedding is all about how you hold your couple hands forever in front of God, family, and all people forever. It’s about how you are going to be your couple for worst or better, for now and forever. So, for whoever that is who is about to getting marry or already get married, may the spirit or love will always blink around you. In case you ever heard, always spread love on every corner!
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