Tips On How To Tell A Friend You Like Him Without Ruining Your Friendship

by Michelle Devani

There was an old saying that goes “there’s nothing such friends between a guy and a girl”. Well, we can’t say it’s wrong, especially if you had experienced it yourself. Now the question is, how to tell a friend you like him without ruining your friendship?

Because, yes, love is the biggest threat for a guy and a girl’s friendship. If you fall in love to each other, you will be together. But if things doesn’t end well, it will be hard to restore things the way it used to be. In other words, your friendship get ruined.

But is there any other way to avoid or minimize the damage? Is there a chance to save the friendship? It is possible to remain friendly if you have a one-sided love?

Also read: Signs Your Best Friend is in Love with You

Good news, for you, we are here to solve your worries. We will give you the best tips to tell him you love him without ruining your friendship.

1. See How Close Both Of You Are

To confess your feeling to him, you must consider how close your friendship with him is. If he is your BFF, then you have to think a thousand time before saying you like him. But if he’s someone that is not very close to you and losing him will not affect you that much, you can safely tell him.

So if things go south, you don’t have to risk the friendship. He is not so close to you after all.

Also read: Quotes About Your Crush Liking Your Best Friend

2. Bring It Up In A Casual Manner

bring it up in a casual manner

If you are not so sure how to bring it up, then talk lightly about the possibility what if one of you like the other. Even if he answers it jokingly, at least you know what he thinks about friendship turns into relationship.

3. Be Careful When You Say It

Hiding your feeling to him probably not best thing you should do. If it bothers you that much, then you should tell him about it. But make him understand that you wish nothing is gonna change, because you just want to say what you feel but you don’t want to burden him to reciprocate it.

It may sounds ridiculous, but you don’t have many choices.

Also read: Signs Your Friendship is Becoming Something More

4. Don’t Ask Him Out Right Away

Upon hearing your confession, he might be dumbfounded and find it hard to believe. He surely needs some time to absorb it, so let him be. Don’t be in a rush to ask him out if you really don’t want to ruin your friendship. It’s not easy to date someone who have been your friends, especially one of the closest.

5. Get Ready For The Worst Reaction

Another tips how to tell a friend you like him without ruining your friendship is by accepting whatever his reaction might be.

Also read: Signs A Friendship is Coming to An End

He might feel betrayed because he thought of you as a good friend all along, now you suddenly say you love him, something that he is not ready for. So be understanding if he walk away from you for a while.

6. Don’t Try To Ruin His Relationship

If he is in a relationship, then you have to respect it. You even have to consider whether you should tell about your feeling or not. You never know what does he feel about you as well, right? What if he has been liking you all along, but he decide to let go and give it a shot with other girl instead?

Wouldn’t you ruin his relationship? If you really love him and care about him as a friend, wait until they break up on their own and you may have your way.

Also read: What Do I Do When My Crush Likes My Best Friend?

7. Show Some Hints

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If you’re not ready yet, then constantly send hints to him. For example, start to get pissed off when he takes a long time to reply your text. Or ask him to hang out more often than usual.

You can also show your feminine side by dressing up to impress him. He might not notice it first, but if you do it over and over again, he will notice that you change.

8. Make Sure He Doesn’t Have A Crush

Not less important than him not being in a relationship, make sure he doesn’t have crush on anyone. If you are close enough with him, it will be easy for you to find out about his relationship status. Things will be easier if he is single.

Those are what we got about how to tell a friend you like him without ruining your friendship. If you had experienced this thing, share your thoughts with others in the comment section below.

Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.