30 Tips To Move On From A Long Term Relationship

by Michelle Devani

We will try our best to make our relationship last long. But once it ended, letting go of it and move on becoming even harder. We are getting used to him every day, and suddenly he's gone. No more good morning text, or phone call until late at night. However, we have to accept reality and get our life going on. If you still find it hard to move on, here are some tips to move on from a long term relationship:

1. Take Time To Be Sad

First thing first, you have to cope up with sadness. To let everything go and finally move on, take time to be sad. If you want to cry out loud, the cry. But don't do it all the time, it's a good way to Move On After a Bad Relationship.

2. Talk To Your Friend

Call the emergency when you are in danger. Talk about your concern with your friend. Because sharing is caring, you will feel less burdensome once you have shared your thought with your friends, and let them take care of the rest.

3. Hang Out With Your Friends

hang out with your friends

Distract your thoughts by hanging out with your friends. It's a very good way to entertain yourself, and your friends know the Ways to Make a Best Friend Feel Better especially when you're down.

4. Write Down Your Feeling

The best inspiration comes out when you're in a sensitive state. Write down your feeling in your diary or personal blog. A lot of writers often use their own personal experiences as stories. Who knows it would be turn out to your first novel!

5. Stop Taking All The Blame

When something is not going right, we tend to blame ourselves. Stop doing it now. Taking all the blame will not make you feel any better and even make it harder to move on. You are not the only one who is making mistake, so don't be guilty.

6. Forgive Yourself

Rather than blaming yourself and make things worse, forgive yourself is better. By forgiving yourself, you take a step further in moving on and things will get easier once you did. Everyone makes mistakes, and that is how we can do better.

7. Go On A Vacation

Release all the bad hormones that have been stressing you out. Whether you are traveling alone or together with your friends, go to some new places. It is the best Way to Forget Your Ex. Vacation heals you inside and out and helps you lift all the burden off your shoulder.

8. Take A Hiatus From Social Media

After the breakup, avoid the use of social media for a while. Going online too much won't do good for you, as you might end up stalking your ex. You will never be able to move on if you do that.

9. Be Busy

be busy

Have no spare time but don't overuse yourself. Keep your weekends be full of events and plans, so you have no time to mourn over your long-term relationship.

10. Get A New Haircut

Do something to mark the beginning of your life after the relationship ended. Go to a beauty salon and pamper yourself. Get a new fresh haircut and take care of yourself more. And you also try to put on some makeup and going out with full confidence.

11. Make Some New Friends

When it's still too fast to be in a new relationship, you can start to make some new friends. Without any intention to start a relationship, you can meet whether male friends or female friends. It will open up your eyes that you are not losing anything because of the breakup.

12. Do Things You Never Be Able To

While you were in a relationship, your weekends full of plans and dates with him. Once it over, you will have many free times. Do things you will never be able to do before. Meet your friends over the weekends or make some time for yourself.

13. Better Things Gonna Comes Along

Motivate yourself to move on because better things gonna comes along. We never know what the future holds, and a better person with a better story will come your way eventually.

14. Learn From It

Breakups happen due to many things. Miscommunication between two persons or ego who always comes first. Make this as lessons you can learn from, so your next relationship can be better. That is how a past relationship is supposed to be, not a burden that weighs you down.

15. Don't Contact Him For A While

Being friends with your ex, especially when he is a long term boyfriend, stay away from him for a while. Avoid any contact or delete his contact from your phone. Everyone has their own coping mechanism.

Things Not To Do To Move On From A Long Term Relationship

things not to do to move on from a long term relationship

Note those tips to move on from a long term relationship and remember the note on what you shouldn't do on a long term relationship below:

  1. Trying to contact him.
  2. Frequently checking him, curious whether he is okay.
  3. Keep in touch with his friends (it will remind you of him instead).
  4. Stalking his social media.
  5. Rereading your old conversations.
  6. Visiting your favorite places.
  7. Having lunch in your favorite restaurant.
  8. Listening to the music you used to listen to together.
  9. Sending signals to him that you still haven't get over him.
  10. Begged him to come back to you.
  11. Talking endlessly about him.
  12. Locked yourself in your room and crying for days.
  13. Take revenge on him by dating some random guy.
  14. Thinking your life is over without him.
  15. Endlessly blaming yourself.

So those are some useful tips to move on from a long term relationship. Moving on from a short relationship is already hard, let alone the lengthy one. But if it's ever happened to you, take it as a life process you have to get through with. If you pass this, you will be a better person.

Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.