What You Need To Know When Dating Someone With Borderline Personality Disorder

Last updated on February 7, 2024 by Michelle Devani

Someone with a borderline personality disorder is a serious mental disorder that you should know. While your friend even your partner has a borderline personality disorder, what to do?


What You Need To Know When Dating Someone With Borderline Personality Disorder

What do you need to know when dating someone with a borderline personality disorder? You may see some tips below here how to handle someone with a borderline personality disorder. So, let's check it out.

1. The Real History

Someone with a borderline personality disorder has a bad history in their life, family, relationship and also around social. The history of kidnapping, rape, and even abuse that they have experienced in the past.

2. The Genetic

Yes, the gene could be the reason why you or she can have a borderline personality disorder.

3. Brain Disorders

Every doctor says that someone with a borderline personality has a brain disorder (mental health problem). This way they cannot control their emotion well.

4. Just Specific Personality

just specific personality

Well, this mental health problem just happens in a specific personality. The person that is very aggressive also has impulsive behavior. Some of them have this disorder.

5. Breaking Up With Someone

It is one of the reasons someone can get this disorder; being a widow or a widower is very hurtful. They cannot admit their hurt, so they overreact with it.

Signs That You Have A Borderline Personality Disorder

Well, below here are some signs that show a borderline personality disorder, are you? Okay, let's check it out.

1. The Real Fear

A fear disorder, if you or she has a lot of fear (always when she feels it or you) while someone left behind you, such as broken up (in a relationship). In here you will overreacting, stressful and angry. You can see more some fearful signs she wants a relationship but is scared.

2. Always Make A Mess In The Relationship

Sometimes, you think that everyone is not your friend. Your mind is complicated, so you hated them for many reasons. This a reason why you always make a mess in the relationship even in your family.

3. She Cannot Control Her Emotion

You or she cannot control your emotion. You always over to show your emotion, you cannot handle it well.

4. The Impulsive Behavior

Use some drugs, plays poker, even lots to use much of money are the behavior of borderline personality disorder. Well, they prefer to choose to make a mess then make a positive thing in sociality.

5. Try To Kill Herself

While she or you in under pressure feels lonely even angry. She always tries to kill her self by doing something that hurt her self, such as hit her own hand on the door or mirror. 

6. The Mood Always Change

The mood always changes, it is very fast. In an hour she thinks fine but another minute she can feel angry even hates with someone. We cannot know what is in her mind or feel about you.

7. Always Feels Lonely

always feels lonely

Someone with a borderline personality disorder always feels lonely. She daydreams about something that is not the reality. Her mind is so complicated. She is a super sensitive person.

8. Stress-Fully

Stress-fully, it happens because she always feels lonely and too complicated to think. She does not know how to face the problem well. How to resolve her own problem and there is no friend that cannot help her.

How To Face Someone With A Borderline Personality Disorder

Do not to worry if you face someone with a borderline personality disorder. Well, with some proper tips it will resolve your problem better than before. Now, let's see how to handle this disorder.

1. Dialectical Therapy

It is one of the therapies that the doctor does. You can do it this therapy too to your girlfriend or your partner. The aim of this therapy is someone with this disorder can accept how the problem is, how to face this reality and also how to solve the problem in a proper way.

2. Apply Some Rule Or Control

This may be a successful plan to make someone with a borderline personality disorder can control her self. It is good for her. Naturally, she will control her self well. It really needs much time.

3. Explain Something With Positively

While you apply some rule or control her, say that all that you do is positive. It is not a reject. It is about how we must part the time. When is the right to work time and play time? You should explain it positively to her?

4. Shows Her About Looking At The Positive Side

Well, they always see something with a negative side. So, what you must to do here shows to her. That is a positive side when she looks at this. It is not always negative. 

5. Stay With Her

If you can stay with her, just stay. She needs a friend or someone that can support her in any case. You also can do this tip on some things to do to stay in touch with him or her beside texting.

6. The Right Communication

Communication is a thing that important. Say a positive thing it can reduce her problem also. Try to communicate with her face by face.


Lots of shares it can help the borderline personality disorder. With this little discussion, they may know how to face her problem and resolve it in a proper way.

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8. Refresh Time

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Well, you can help her make a plan to going somewhere. A place that very calm and it can refresh both of your minds. See nature, go camping or just play on the beach. You can choose one of them.

Hopefully, the above on what you need to know when dating someone with a borderline personality disorder may give you some knowledge about how to handle her or him with a borderline personality disorder. In here, you can also know what are signs that show you, he or she has this disorder or not.

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Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.
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