I Am Not Being Able to Move On After Breaking Up with My Girlfriend. I Broke Up Because I Did Not Love Her Anymore. What Should I do?

Last updated on June 17, 2022 by Michelle Devani

If you are positive that you do not love her anymore but feel really bad about ending things then you do not actually have issues moving on. You are just facing what most humans do not: Guilt.

You have a conscience that does not allow the idea of hurting other people and that is the only reason I could think of given you are positive you no longer love your girlfriend.

Everyone usually focuses on the hurt person left by someone feels. Little is spoken about the hurt felt by the other party who does the leaving, breaking someone's heart, hopes, and dreams. It is hard both ways.

You need to stop feeling guilty about the decision you took to break up with your girlfriend by removing the guilt from its roots. Know that there are bigger things in life than break-ups.

Eventually, we all move on. A little clarity and maturity are what we all need to move on to better, bigger things in life. In this article, we will learn about things you may do in order to be able to move on from the said situation.

  1. Acknowledge Your Honesty

Know that you have every right to feel good about the tough stand you have chosen in your relationship because it is not easy to tell someone you do not love them anymore. There is always pain and discomfort on both ends of a break-up and the person who has instigated the break-up deserves a lot of credit for being honest.

Think about how much worse it would be if you just sucked it up all the way through and stuck around in a relationship that made you unfulfilled. That does not make much sense.

There may be an astounding number of people who end up doing such a thing when they know things are not working out but that is unhealthy in every way. This is why you have to fix or leave an emotionally draining relationship.

So, pat yourself on the back for being brave and being able to muster the courage, to be honest about how you actually felt because not everyone has the ability to do what you did.

  1. Think of the Break-Up As A Favor

You could have dodged the responsibility of breaking up fair and square by cheating on your girlfriend. You could have kept lying to her about your real feelings. You could have manipulated her by still being in the relationship just for your own benefit.

You could have kept on pretending to love her just so that you could continue physical intimacy. But you did not do any of these and you decided to cut the crap and tell it like it is.

However angry, down, or betrayed your girlfriend feels about your decision to end the relationship, you should still be able to find comfort in the fact that you were being honest and did the mature thing by bringing the relationship to an end before either one of you could feel any more heartbreak.

However heartless it may have seemed, you have done the right thing by breaking up with your girlfriend, especially if you had lost all hope in her. You may seem like the bad guy but deep down there, you should remind yourself that you might have as well given your girlfriend a favor by bringing a quick end to the relationship.

  1. Realize Everyone Moves On

You might not be on speaking terms with your girlfriend after the break-up, and you certainly should not further your feelings of guilt by reaching her out on Instagram or in person to see how she is doing after the break-up. However, if you happen to see that she has moved on, it could help you stop feeling so guilty about your decision of ending the relationship.

Use this kind of occurrence as motivation to stop feeling guilty. Look at how your girlfriend has moved on and see it as a clear-cut sign that she is now happier than before. If she has not moved on yet, realize that everyone moves on and so does your girlfriend. It is just a matter of time.

  1. Evaluate More

Give yourself a month or two to evaluate as to why you should be with her and why you should not be. If you strongly feel you cannot revive the love, then there is no point of feeling guilty. It is what it is. Stop lacing everything up with any blame game. Instead, keep being honest and help her move on slowly if possible.

So, those are a few things you can try to ease your guilt and move on from the situation. Good luck.

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Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.
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