This Is How To Fix An Emotionally Draining Relationship

Last updated on June 10, 2022 by Michelle Devani

Relationships has their own ups and downs. And it can be toxic as well. There are many things that can make a relationship become unhealthy and toxic, but it surely makes you drained emotionally.

As the saying goes when the light bulb of your house broken, you change it instead of changing the house. You want to save your relationship and it’s totally alright. But how to fix an emotionally draining relationship? One thing for sure, it won’t be easy.

An emotionally drained relationship takes the toll on you but if you want to keep going you should find solution to deal with it. Here are how you can fix a relationship that has drained you emotionally.

1. Figure Out The Problem

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Everything has a cause. If you want to stop feeling emotionally drained, first of all you have to find out why. By acknowledging the problem, it will be easier to find the solution.

It can either be your intimidating partner or you haven’t been feeling happy lately or anything. Just make sure the spot where you stand so you can fix it for good.

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Keep all the possibility open. It doesn’t always have to be you or your partner. It can also caused by external factors such as stress from work that got carried away in your relationship.

2. Talk About It

There are two people in the relationship, so you must involve both parties in order to solve the problem. Communicate what you feel with your loved ones.

Remember that you don’t want to start a fight – because they might feel offended because of what you say or feel. There may be a long way ahead to fix it, but at least you have taken one step ahead.

Pick the right time to talk because it can really lead to a big fight. Try to put yourself in their shoes, imagine your partner comes to you saying they are emotionally drained in the relationship out of the blue.

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Keep your tone calm and don’t sound accusing. You’re trying to find solutions not causing another problem.

3. Prioritize Yourself

Instead of becoming selfish, you take care of yourself first. Before you talk it out with your partner, figure out why you feel emotionally drained and what do you want. You have to make sure that everything you do is for the sake of your happiness. Especially when you are trapped in a toxic relationship.

Stop feeling sad over what your partner do – if they are the centre of all problems. Make peace with yourself and change inside. The main purpose is to make you happy again. If they’re the reason that makes you hardly happy, what’s the point of holding on?

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4. Focus Only On What You Can Do

In regards of you feeling emotionally drained, it can either because of you or them. If you feel that there’s something you must change, it’s all start from you. You can’t change anyone, you can’t control what others think, but you can do yourself. Focus on the things that you can change.

When you feel everything is too hard and it’s impossible to make them change, then maybe it’s time for you to change your mind and let go. Don’t feel helpless because there are always something you can do.

5. Believe In Yourself

Doing all the ways how to fix an emotionally draining relationship could be harder than you think. So you have hang on and find strength. You have to believe in yourself that you can do it.

Every time you feel down, look inside and see that you’re the one who suffer from all of this. Don’t let this be because you deserve to find happiness.

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6. Take Care Of Yourself

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When you feel emotionally drained, your body suffers too. It’s really not worth it to let yourself go because of the relationship. Take a good care of yourself. Eat healthily, meet your friends, and exercise your body.

It doesn’t seem related with fixing a relationship where you find yourself emotionally drained. But by having a healthy body, your mind will be clearer and you can think more thoroughly of everything.

7. Get Away From Each Other

A relationship can be emotionally drained when someone asks too much more than their significant other can give. Spending time in each other’s company only make it worse. Probably the best thing is for you to get away from each other for the time being.

You can travel and find peace within your mind. Spending the whole weekend with you best friends and family is another good idea to refresh your mind.

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Maybe you need time to miss each other and appreciate their presence. That’s how a relationship should be. A place for each other to feel safe and coming back.

8. Listen Their Perspective

Another important thing is don’t feel like you’re the victim of all this. You need to gain perspective as well. That’s why an open communication is very needed to solve the problem in your relationship. Listen to what they said.

After your opinion, they must have their own saying. Pay attention to whatever they say and open the possibility that you might be at fault as well.

So those are all the ways how to fix an emotionally draining relationship. Fixing it doesn’t mean you have to hold on. Nobody tell you to. When the light bulb in your house broken, surely you have to change it. But what if light bulb is not the only things broken? What if the roof is about to fall? Doesn’t it better to move out and buy a new house instead?

Finally Solve Your Relationship Problems

If you’re like me you have probably spent endless nights worrying about your relationship and trying to find an easy way that will help you fix it.

I’d endlessly spent hours browsing the internet to find that one golden answer that would finally fix my relationship and allow me to go back to my happy old self.

As I discovered the hard way, there is no ‘one-size fits all’answer that will help everyone. Everyone’s relationship is different.

That’s when I decided it was time for me to talk to someone knowledgeable about the specific issues I was facing, and I found Relationship Hero.

Within 1 minute, I was able to chat directly to a relationship consultant to whom I could explain the specific issues that I was facing in my relationship.

She gave me suggestions that I could immediately start implementing and we agreed to set a follow up meeting to see how it went.

As soon as I started implementing her suggestions I immediately noticed a big improvement in my relationship. This felt like a huge sigh of relief.

Of course, it still took hard work, but at least with my relationship counselor’s suggestions I now had a plan of action.

If you’re in a similar situation, I would therefore highly recommend that you do the same.

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I’m sure you can get your relationship back on track as well!

Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.