Ramadan is a month full of blessing. On that particular 30 days, all Muslims should bury their desire so that they can be cleansed mentally and physically. Just making yourself starving for the whole day is not enough if you don’t follow other rules set for Ramadan.
Many may have been aware about the Ramadan rules for marriage and intimacy that should be followed by all Muslims couple in the world. So here are the particular rules to follow during Ramadan.
Just like Ramadan, marriage is also a sacred act in Islam. So what if two Muslims want to get married during the Holy Month of Ramadan? Unlike the month of Hajj where marriage was not permissible, Muslims can get married during Ramadan.
However, the marriage ceremony will not be the same as in normal days. There won’t be eating, drinking, and intercourse during the dawn until sunset when the fast is over. Also read Things Couple Should Do Together During Ramadan
But the person who are about to marry must be sure of themselves that they will be able to perform self-control, not to do anything to break the fast.
Intercourse during Ramadan is strictly prohibited, especially when both the man and woman are fasting. But if they commit the act, expiation is inevitable. There are several choices of legislated expiation, that is freeing a slave. Also read Can A Haram Relationship Become Halal?
If one is not capable to do it, then there is another option to fast for two consecutive months. If, again, it’s not possible, the last option is to feed sixty poor persons. And the expiation is for one committed act. If a Muslim do intercourse several times, then the expiation must be repeated for the same number.
As explained briefly above, Muslims who break the rule during Ramadan must expiate it. The number of expiation depends on the day a Muslim break the rule.
Not the number of the acts, but the number of the days. So if someone did intercourse 3 times in one day, then he must do the expiation once.
For Muslims who is in perfect condition, physically and mentally, they should never eat, drink, or having intercourse during the day of fasting. But if they break the rule, knowing that it’s strictly forbidden, they have to redeem it by expiation.
However, if a Muslim break the rules in ignorance, he has to offer expiation. Also read What Does Islam Say About Having A Girlfriend?
Fasting begins at dawn and completed when the sun has set. To mark the beginning and ending of fasting, Muslims use adzan in Fajr and Maghrib. While doing intercourse during the day in Ramadan is highly forbidden who Muslim men and women who are obliged to fast, they are allowed to do intercourse in the night.
But they have to get their body cleansed before the dawn, so that they can perform fasting for the next day.
“It is made lawful for you to have sexual relations with your wives on the night of As-Sawm (the fasts). They are Libaas [i.e. body-cover, or screen, or Sakan (i.e. you enjoy the pleasure of living with them] for you and you are the same for them. Allah knows that you used to deceive yourselves, so He turned to you (accepted your repentance) and forgave you. So now have sexual relations with them and seek that which Allah has ordained for you (offspring), and eat and drink until the white thread (light) of dawn appears to you distinct from the black thread (darkness of night), then complete your Sawm (fast) till the nightfall. ” (Quran – 2:187)
Human being has so many desire within themselves it’s almost impossible to hold it completely. When they are together, they want to shower each other with love.
However, intimacy may wet someone and the discharge of semen arguably doesn’t cause a Muslim to do expiation. Also read Is Having A Boyfriend Haram In Islam?
How to Get Intimate with Your Spouse without Violating Rules in Ramadan
There are number of Ramadan rules for marriage and intimacy to be obliged, but you can ignore romantic relationship with your loved ones. So here are the tips on how to get intimate with your spouse during Ramadan.
As been said before, you get busier during Ramadan. However, you have to make time for your spouse. Create a quality time to please each other. You don’t have to be physically intimate but you can please them by saying only good words, controlling your anger, and treat the nicely.
You can eat together countless times in the future, but suhoor and iftar only happen in Ramadan. Make the most out of the moment by spending every single of it together. Preparing for the meal together creates a bond that strengthen your relationship and make you grow fonder with each other. Also read How is the Relationship After Engagement in Islam?
Ramadan is a good month to show your significant other how much you care for and love them. For every husband out there, you can help your wives a little by sharing household activities they usually do on her own. You don’t have to help her in the kitchen though. Help them to watch out for the kids when they prepare the food is one of the best you can do.
The blessing for every religious deed a Moslem does is multiplied during Ramadan. It’s going to be more beautiful if you do it together. Remember to encourage each other to recite Quran daily, perform night prayer, doing charity, etc. The reminder for them to always do good is also how you show them you love them.
Those are all the Ramadan rules for marriage and intimacy in Islam. Ramadan is a holy month indeed, but it shouldn’t hold you from getting intimate with your spouse. It is okay as long as you don’t violate the rules.
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