Relationship Advice If You are Dating Someone With A Kid You Need to Know

by Michelle Devani

Like we said on things you should do if you fall in love with someone’s lover love is a mysterious thing that may come and go whenever it likes. It's so relative depends on who we are talking about. Love can be formed to the one who tall, curly hair with the beard or the one with exotic skin, wearing eyeglass, and humorist.

No one has the same kind of person that they love. You can fall in love with someone that already with you for a long time as a friend or even with someone you just meet a few minutes ago.

That is normal because no one can judge any shape of love, included if you are falling in love with someone who had a child from their previous relationship.

Either your crush had a divorce or his or her partner has died, you can try to go inside her or his heart especially with these special tips on first date conversation ideas.

You don't need to hear someone else opinion about your choice because the one who will live it is you not them. The point of falling in love with someone is because you are happy with her or him not because your crush is liked by the people around you.

After dating tips on you should not do during the first date, this is a few tips if you want to date someone with a kid :

  • Realize that Your Lover Has a Kid

Dating someone with a kid will be totally different from dating a single. When you marry your lover, you do not just marry them but also your their children.

Realize that your lover's children may distract you sometimes or even make you can't meet them for some time. Do not show any gesture that you don't like their children and try to show love. Prepare yourself so you will ready to love both those people. 

  • Try to Get to Know Their Kid

To make your love journey easier, if you want to marry someone with a kid then try to get to know their kid. Find out about what they like or their hobbies will help you to be closer to them.

If you are still on the approaching level, it will be very helpful if you can get their heart first before your crush's heart. Approaching your crush's children not only help you on approaching them but also make your future relationship will be much easier. 

  • Learn to be a Good Parent

Married a single parent will make you a mother or father instantly so make sure before you marry your single parent lover you know something about parenting. Try to read some books about how to take care of the children especially stepchildren and how to be a good stepfather or mother.

Make sure that you are giving the purest love to them like you love their mom or dad instead of showing some fake smile or crocodile tears because believe it or not a kid will know it.

Give your spare time to accompany them playing video games, have a light conversation, ask about their school or college life is the basic things to be a stepparent.

  • Give Your Crush Space

You have to know that you are not the only one who wants quality time with your lover but alsotheir children. Give them some space to breathe and talk to keep their relationship good.

Try to get away and respect their privacy. You can just do your daily job or hanging out with your friends to show it. Also, tell your crush that you are welcome if they want to have some quality time with his or her children and you are okay with it.

  • Focus on the Future

The other thing that is also important on build a relationship with someone with a kid is you need to focus on the future. You need to realize that she or he may have a more happy memory with her or his ex-partner or even bad memory and you need to let it all.

Ask them about signs you are already ready to start a new relationship after a heartbreak and try to tell your lover nicely if you don't like they mentioned their past too often. Focus on how to build a second marriage successfully, how to grow children as well, how to manage family finances, and other positive things to discuss.

Extra tip: If You are Also Have a Kid

If you also have a child or children, you need extra effort to marry your crush. You need to double all the tips that have been written before both from your side and your lover's side.

Tell your lover about all of your condition, your feeling, and your expectation before you asked about your crush's readiness. Try to make both your child and your lover's child as close as you can and be fair to them.

Well, marry someone who has a kid is not an easy thing but it does not mean you have to give up. You can prepare everything as well and doing some kind of training to be a good parent so you will be able to build a successful second marriage for them. Maybe you also like to read dating tips in your 30s.

Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.