Signs He’s Cheating In A Long Distance Relationship (#3 You Need To Know!)

Last updated on January 29, 2024 by Michelle Devani

Are you worried that your long-distance partner is cheating on you?

These fears can be enough to make even the most loving long-distance relationships crumble…

Perhaps you’re looking for a way to ease these fears? 

This guide will provide that by listing the most common signs that a man is cheating in a long-distance relationship

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With that said, here is my list of signs that you should worry about his behavior.


Clear Signs He's Cheating On You In A Long Distance Relationship

Long distance relationship can be tough sometimes. You don’t get to see the person you love everyday, you are lonely, you feel like no one to talk to, and you are unable to touch your loved ones. It feels like you’re single but you are in a relationship. But for some people long distance relationship could be challenging, but for other long distance relationship could be a disaster. You’d spent your whole time wondering what’s your boyfriend doing over there, or get jealous because someone tagged your boyfriend on their Instagram or Facebook. We know that this feeling ain’t comfortable and will annoyed or probably ruin your beautiful day you might will face.

Ever think that your boyfriend might have an affair with other woman behind your back? The truth (but sadly) cheating on long distance relation is very common but it depends on the quality of your relationship, if you have happy-loving and trust each other relationship it might be not possible if he is cheating right? But if you always fight or argue while you still together, there might be possibilities if he is cheating.

If you are feeling suspicious how do i know if he's cheating in a long distance relationship, then we here we are to help you, we will give you signs that your boyfriend might be cheating on you.

1. He Took Long Time To Text You Back

he took long time to text you back

It’s must be really frustrating to not get a text back from your loved ones, and the ‘what if’s’ thoughts kicks in. This is the first signal that he might be cheating. Why? Because when you love someone you’ll make them as their priority and wouldn’t mind to text them back even if they’re busy and telling you what’s up with their life and what they have been up to.

Communication in long distance relationship is very important since we could get miscommunication and it will lead to fighting to each other. Then, if he's taking like hours just to reply your text, then you must be worry about it. The possibilities why he took a long time to text you back or even not texting you are he might probably in remote area which he couldn’t be able to get internet, he might be super busy and have no time to hold his phone and see your text, and the third possibilities are he might be with someone else and don’t want to get exposed by texting you back (OH NO!).

2. He Avoids Video Call Or Call From You

We know that in a relationship, it is important to see each other, and long distance relationship doesn’t work that way so the video can possibly call help you out with this case. But, what if he avoid to have video call with you? You might need to pay attention to this, because it’s easier for them to text you so you don’t get to see his guilty-cheating face through video calls. Or she probably lying about where his life and other possibilities could occur. Since you are not meeting him in person, then he might be somewhere with someone else. Who knows?

You may also read: Things to Say to Your Ex to Make Her Feel Bad

3. He Is Being Secretive

Have you ever asked him about how was his day, or what is his plan today, or just simply asked him what he had for breakfast but he doesn’t say a word about what you asked and instead he asked how was yours. This is him being secretive and not open up to you, even you only asked simple things to him. This is a sign that he hide something from you that he can’t focus on what you said to him.

He also never told you about the details. For example, He told you that he will go to the club tonight but when you asked him with whom you will go to the club, he won’t say the details or just mention ‘with people from work or with my new friends’ we know that this isn’t the answer we want, so it’s better to ask him nicely to mention who is going with him one by one.

4. He Don’t Say 'I Love You' Anymore To You

Wanna know more signs he's cheating in a long distance relationship? You feel that your relationship turned cold and boring and did he say cute or sweet text to you or you used to say I love you or I miss you or I need you often but then suddenly decreased or even stopped? This could be clear indicator that he cheating on you, the suspect (or in this case your boyfriend) would feeling guilty to say ‘I love you’ to you since he started having an affair with other girl, even for him, it gave him the feeling that he didn’t deserve you or you’re too good to him. I can say that saying ‘I love you’ while cheating is the worst thing you would ever say.

5. He Hides His Relationship With You Amongst His New Friends

he hides his relationship with you amongst his new friends

As a girl, we prefer not to hide our relationship right? But what if he did that? And why he hide the relationship amongst his new friends? This could be suspicious right? You should talk to your boyfriend and ask him why he doing it and probably it’s better if you get to know about his new friends. If he is cheating on you he won’t act like he is in relationship or talking about you otherwise his new lover will leave him. The conclusion you should do is make an open conversation with him and explain him that telling people the relationship status is not a shame. And by being so far away, doesn’t mean he can cheating on you!

6. He Doesn’t Want You To Visit Him

Instead he told you that it would be better if he come visit you. This is suspicious, don’t you think? This mean that he is being so close to you that he don’t even wants his girlfriend visit him. He is scared that he get exposed by you whilst you visiting him, this is a clear sign that something is wrong with him. Try to give him a surprise by visit him without telling him and see his expression. Does he looks happy or in fear? On this case, he doesn’t want you to know about his life in his new place, new work, new friends. If he is serious about the relationship he would introduce you to his new friends and would be very happy if you tell him that you want to visit him and get to know his new friends.

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7. He Gets Angry Easily

You were having a good day and then you got a text from your boyfriend and it was about accused you for simple problem (and probably from the past), this happen very common when somebody is cheating. This is like how they get rid of their couple without getting exposed and put the blame on someone. Puts you into a fight till you can’t handle it anymore and then on some point you choose to stop. This mean that he is winning this game. If he ever gave you a sign like this, I would recommend you to check out what he’s been up to in his new place, did he see someone else and ask about his behavior to his colleague. That's one of the signs he's cheating in a long distance relationship.

8. He Doesn't Care About You Anymore

You cut your hair, you get your body goals, you got new clothes and then you thought ‘I’m gonna share this with my boyfriend and see how he will reacts’ and then you took fire selfie and send it to your boyfriend. 1 minutes passed, 1 hour passed, then on 2 hours you noticed that your boyfriend has seen your picture but he say nothing. Ouch, this is painful isn’t it? What happen next? You start wondering what is wrong with you and why he doesn’t even give me a feedback about the picture I sent him. Normally, he will get excited to see your latest picture or knowing what you have been up to lately.

9. You Found Him On Dating Site

you found him on dating site

This is an obvious sign that he is planning on seeing other significant other, I mean come on girls… Dating site isn’t the same as Facebook, the aim of dating itself is to get ‘someone’ to like you and meet you and dating site could be only for hookups. You literally need to call him right away if you ever seen him on dating site. Make it clear if this him or people using his picture to create the profile on the dating site. You need to investigate him but try to do it without anger and calm. Because anger will trigger him to say rude or mean things to you and this will hurt you even more.

10. No More Sweet Talks 

Well, when you were in the same place, face to face, he used to talk really sweet to you. But then, everything has changed. You can't barely talk to him. You don't talk to him anymore. Thus, your LDR lover may be hiding something from you. Whether he found someone new or he just can't hang with you anymore. Bad signs he's cheating in a long distance relationship, uh.

11. He Turns To Be Someone Else

Long distance relationship is never be easy as the lovers need to deal with everything. Different time zone, different places, different bedrooms, and different in everything and anything. By time, you may be getting bored of not meeting each other. The lover may found somebody new in his/her new town, new job. And the worst thing about it is, he turns to be somebody else that doesn't love you.

12. He Doesn't Want To Come Back Home

The common conversation of a long distance couple fighter is, "When you come back home?" As you've been missing him/her and you just want to hold them tight. If your long distance lover ever said something like, "I don't know, I still have things to do here!" Then, you maybe wonder. Let's pretend he is really into something important right there like maybe job, business, family, college, or anything. But, if he really loves you still, he will tell you at least the season when he will be back. At least, he will tell you how much he wish he could be back soon. If he didn't, then watch out, maybe brace yourself for a goodbye.


I hope this blog helped you to find out whether your boyfriend is cheating on you or it was just you being insecure about him. Gather the information before accuse your boyfriend for cheating. Thus, there are many signs if he’s cheating in a long distance relationship and you just need to pay attention. Because it wont be nice if you don’t have much proof but you accuse your boyfriend for cheating. Indeed, love is never about the distance. You can be apart with her/him, thousand miles away, but when it comes to love, it will open the door for you. In case you ever heard, always spread love on every corner!

You may also read: How to Propose Someone You Love

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Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.

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