All the Signs You're Ready to Leave Your Abusive Relationship

Last updated on June 8, 2024 by Michelle Devani

Abusive relationship place the victim in a situation like they’re living in hell. Sadly, they find it hard and challenging at times to gather courage and strength to take a step and leave.

Not their fault, as they are always manipulated and made believe that they’re helpless. The victims feel they can never survive in life without the significant other.

Many, many people are in this unfortunate situation. Probably you’re one of them that you landed here. It’s good when you feel like you’ve had enough, because it’s among the earliest signs you’re ready to leave your abusive relationship.

It’s okay if you still unsure and feel like not ready yet. You don’t need to be in a rush. Take time to read this article and find strength again. You’re always more that you think you are.

  1. You Can Take Care of Yourself

The worst thing about being in an abusive relationship is you start to belittle yourself. They make you believe you won’t be able to survive alone in this world. When you start to take care yourself on your own, you even picture yourself as an independent person, you’re really ready to go.

The fact is, you came to this world alone, you had survived 9 months inside you mother’s womb, and so what makes you not capable to be on your own? Also read What to Do When Your Husband is Verbally and Emotionally Abusive

  1. You Don’t See Them in Your Future

For to future you have envision, do you see them? Or you don’t want them to be anywhere near you? If you have that kind of vision, means you are sure that you live your life without them. You know it’s time to leave this abusive relationship.

When you don’t want someone/thing to be in your future, you better cut them as soon as possible. Especially when they’re in the way between you and your future.

  1. They Can Survive without You

In this cruel world, people who are too kind still exist. Such as people who choose to stay in an abusive relationship for the sake of their significant other. You hold on all this time because you know they need you. They’re the one who can’t survive without you, not the other way around.

At some point, you’re going to realize that (finally) they can survive without you. It’s time for you to leave the relationship. Enough with their lives, now you must get your life back and live it the way you want it. Also read Signs of A Bad Relationship with Your Boyfriend

  1. Being Selfish is Okay

Are you that kind of a person who put others before yourself? Then no wonder you’re in an abusive relationship. People like that tend to sacrifice themselves because they don’t want to be branded as self-centered. A selfish person often associated with bad person, and you’re afraid of it.

Honestly, it’s okay to be selfish. It is called loving yourself. Before you love others, you should love yourself first. It’s okay to be selfish and the time you realize it is the signs you’re ready to leave your abusive relationship.

  1. You Prioritize Yourself Over Him

As the result of you being selfish, you reorganize the priority in life. You start from putting yourself before them. You do everything to make you happy, you go to places you want, you make saving for your future, and setting boundaries with them.

You can start from either way – you may have your own to-do list, but make sure you act. Breaking down you thought into action is the most important thing. Also read Signs That A Friend Is In An Abusive Relationship

  1. You are Being Honest with Yourself

All these time, you might have been warned by your friends of the abusive relationship. But you keep lying to yourself to put up with the unfortunate situation. You blind your eyes from all the bad things that keep happening to you.

Now that you’re being honest, you start to see that this is not how a relationship supposed to be. Congratulation! You have taken one step closer to freedom.


  1. You Want to Spend Your Time Better

One thing that is most valuable in the world is time. You can’t take it back, you can’t turn it around, you only have once in everything. You could have just realized that you waste your time keeping up with their antiques. Also read Ways to Leave An Emotionally Abusive Relationship

As the time pass by, you start to think you want to spend your time wisely. Being in an abusive relationship is clearly not one of them. Ending the relationship is one of the best thing you can do, so you don’t have to waste even more time in the future.

  1. You Don’t Let Him Take All the Credit Anymore

In an abusive relationship, they are more dominant than you in every way. They take credit of all your achievement and blame everything on you when things go wrong. They don’t even mind lying to others, saying they did all the hard work, giving all the money in time while in fact, none of them is true.

But now it’s the story of the past. You don’t let him do that anymore. You’re no longer afraid to call them out every time they lie. You don’t care about them because all you see is you.

  1. You Initiate a Breakup

This is the most crucial point, the real deal of all of this. You initiate the breakup, purposely creating problems so that separation is inevitable. At this point, you don’t mind with breakup dramas you have to deal after because it’s worth it.

But you have to be careful, in case they become vengeful and don’t let you live in peace. Also read Ways to Move On After a Bad Relationship

  1. You Know You are Loved

The thing is, losing them doesn’t mean losing the world. You still have your family and friends to support you. They love and cherish you more than your abusive partner. They will help you to go through the hard time until you find your life back.

So those are the signs you’re ready to leave your abusive relationship. If you happen to be one of the victims or know somebody close to you is one of them, give some help – to yourself and to others. Everyone deserve to be loved rightly.

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Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.
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