This Is What to Do When Your Boyfriend Talks to You Like A Crap

Last updated on June 17, 2022 by Michelle Devani

A perfectly healthy relationship is when couples are able to communicate smoothly with each other. Arguments are okay but when your boyfriend starts to speak to you in an offensive way, it's time to think over the relationship. Nobody wants to be talked to in a crap way, especially a girlfriend. But is your boyfriend doing this to you? Check out all these things that you have to do when your boyfriend talks to you like crap.

1. Tell Him that You Don’t Like It

The first thing to do when your boyfriend talks to you like crap is to tell him. He has to know that you don’t like it. You must be honest because he can’t read your mind. Take some time to talk seriously with him. Here are some ideas on things to say to your boyfriend when he's being a jerk to help you out.

The sooner the better, don’t wait until it gets worse. Your feelings matter in the relationship so tell him that the way he talks to you is not okay at all.

2. Ask Him to Change the Way He Talks to You

ask him to change the way he talks to you

What to do when your boyfriend talks to you like a crap? Telling your boyfriend about how you feel might not be enough. You also have to ask him to change the way he talks to you. Even if he says that he will, pay attention to his changes because actions speak louder than words. If he cares about you then he will make an effort to change. But here's how to tell your boyfriend you don't like something he does effectively.

3. Help Him to Become Better

You can also help your boyfriend to become better in terms of how he talks to you. Encourage him to change his behaviour. Based on psychology, positive response will make someone believe that they’re on the right path. Appreciate any positive effort that he makes. However, your boyfriend may not like this. But that’s how you know if he really loves you. A boyfriend who cares about his girlfriend will feel bad and change his bad habits for her.

4. Look at the Situation

The next thing that you can do when your boyfriend talks to you like crap is to assess the situation. Does talk to you like when he’s in a certain mood or all the time? Did you do something that made him upset or angry? Here's all the blessed things to say to your boyfriend when he's having a bad day which may help your situation.

If it’s a one-time thing then you can give him another chance. But if it’s something that he does often then you may need to rethink your relationship.

5. Talk to Someone about It

In case you’re confused or upset with how your boyfriend acts, find someone you can talk to. It could be a friend or someone else who is close to you. Having another person’s perspective can really help you out. They can offer you emotional support or give you the advice that you need.

6. Find Out How He Talks to His Friends

What you can also do when your boyfriend talks to you like crap is to observe how he talks to his friends. Is he nicer? Do you think he treats you worse than how he treats his friends? If your answer is yes then there could be something deeper about how he talks to you. You need to figure it out because this is an unfair treatment for a girlfriend. If it's something related with his baby mama, here's what to do when your boyfriend talks to his baby mama everyday

7. Give Him the Silent Treatment

give him the silent treatment

You can try to give him the silent treatment when you don’t like the way he talks to you. But be cautious because this might fire back to you. Your boyfriend might rethink his actions and decide to change. However, he might become angrier and say more crap things to you.

8. Threaten Him with a Break Up

Only do this as a last resort. When you have no idea what to do, threaten to break up with him if he doesn’t change. This is something that is more extreme than the silent treatment. If he loves you, he will do anything to make you stay. If he doesn’t then he won’t care if you leave. Yeah, that's what to do when your boyfriend talks to you like a crap.

This is When You Know You Have to Leave Him

Does your boyfriend's words hurt you even more? Take a look at the reasons below on why you need to ditch him:

1. He Continues His Behaviour

When your boyfriend refuses to change, you should leave him. It’s the ultimate thing to do when your boyfriend talks to you like crap. There is only a very small chance that he will stop talking in a very rude way.

2. He Becomes More Vulgar with His Words

he becomes more vulgar with his words

Ever notice that your boyfriend uses more vulgar words than ever before? That’s when you have to start thinking about leaving him. According to experts, this could be categorised as verbal abuse. You need to realise that it might only get worse so you have you to leave him as soon as you can.

3. He Starts to Get Physical

Walk away from your boyfriend if he gets physically abusive towards you. You know that’s not right. In case you’re having difficulty leaving him, confide in someone you trust. They could help you get out of the situation. 

4. He Says Sorry but Repeats His Mistake

Yes your boyfriend apologized but he keeps making the same mistake. He still talks to you like crap. The truth is, he doesn’t care. His apology will never be sincere. Here are some tips on what to do when boyfriend tells white lies all the time.

5. You Don’t Feel Loved and Appreciated

When your boyfriend talks to you like crap, it will make you feel horrible. You don’t need this. When you don’t feel loved and appreciated by your boyfriend, you need to leave. Find that one person who will love you with all his heart.

6. You Know You Deserve Better

Sometimes there’s a voice inside you that whispers ‘you deserve better’. Listen to it. Don’t pretend as if he’s the best thing in the world. It’s hard but you know you deserve better.

Think carefully about your relationship when your boyfriend won't stop talking crap to you. Most importantly, listen to your heart.

Finally Solve Your Relationship Problems

If you’re like me you have probably spent endless nights worrying about your relationship and trying to find an easy way that will help you fix it.

I’d endlessly spent hours browsing the internet to find that one golden answer that would finally fix my relationship and allow me to go back to my happy old self.

As I discovered the hard way, there is no ‘one-size fits all’answer that will help everyone. Everyone’s relationship is different.

That’s when I decided it was time for me to talk to someone knowledgeable about the specific issues I was facing, and I found Relationship Hero.

Within 1 minute, I was able to chat directly to a relationship consultant to whom I could explain the specific issues that I was facing in my relationship.

She gave me suggestions that I could immediately start implementing and we agreed to set a follow up meeting to see how it went.

As soon as I started implementing her suggestions I immediately noticed a big improvement in my relationship. This felt like a huge sigh of relief.

Want him to chase, love and obsess over you?
Well, you’ll need to have a much deeper understanding of a thing called the 'hero instinct' which is one of the fundamental drivers behind the behaviour of all men. Once you use that to your advantage, you'll finaly become the most important priority in his life. My friend James Bauer prepared this Quick Free Video that'll teach you to utilize this to your advantage.

Of course, it still took hard work, but at least with my relationship counselor’s suggestions I now had a plan of action.

If you’re in a similar situation, I would therefore highly recommend that you do the same.

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I’m sure you can get your relationship back on track as well!

Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.