All The Blessed Things To Say To Your Boyfriend When He's Having A Bad Day

by Michelle Devani

Are you wondering what you can do to cheer up your boyfriend when he comes home with a grumpy face?

Do you get confused about what to do or what to say to make him feel better? 

Maybe you're currently wondering whether you should do some grand romantic gestures, or write him some little notes…but maybe that hasn’t proved to be enough in the past?

Read on if you’re desperate to help make your boyfriend’s day better. Below, I have created an epic list of things to say to your boyfriend when he's having a bad day.

However, before we get into that list, I want to share a story that I think you’ll find very interesting and useful. 

Recently, I have been studying and experimenting with a barely-known part of male psychology. 

This is a primal part of the male mindset, which has a significant impact on how attracted he feels to the women in his life. It’s mostly referred to as ‘The Hero’s Instinct’

When a woman can learn to trigger this part of the male mind, she can begin to make him feel proud, joyful and purposeful whenever he is around her - the emotions men crave from romantic relationships. 

He naturally becomes drawn closer to women who can consistently make him feel these emotions. I’ve been doing it myself!

If you’d like to learn more about how this works, click to read my personal account about how I discovered the power of the ‘Hero’s Instinct’.

This concept is more powerful than any set of words you can say to a man, yet so few people seem to know about it. 

With that said, here is my list of nice things you can say to a man who is having a bad day.

Things To Say To Your Boyfriend When He Is Having A Bad Day

Is your boyfriend coming home with a grumpy face? Is he upset, sad or in a bad mood? Can you sense from his phone call that he is not having the kind of day that he wants? Maybe you feel helpless on how to cheer his mood back up?

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Do you get confused about what to do or what to say to make him feel better? Maybe you're currently wondering, should you do some grand romantic gestures, or some little notes are enough? Surely you would like to be a part and the reason for your boyfriend's happiness, and help to make him feel better. Worry not, cause here are some things to say to your boyfriend when he's having a bad day.

  • Are you okay?
  • Do you want me to give you some space?
  • Do you want to talk about it?
  • What can I do to make you happy?
  • Do you want me to do something for you?
  • Let me make you a cup of tea / coffee.
  • You're having a bad day and it's okay to feel upset.
  • I believe you can take care of yourself, but is it okay if I help to make you feel better?
  • I am sorry that you're having a bad day.
  • Sorry you're upset, is there someone I can kill?
  • I can understand you, days like this just sucks.
  • Just relax and chill, take your time.
  • Even just being with you makes me happy.
  • I'm so lucky that I get to have you as my boyfriend.
  • How about playing your favorite game together?
  • Let's eat your favorite food tonight.
  • Though it's still a bad day, it could have been worse if ...
  • Since you've had a bad day, you can ask me for anything you like and I will try to grant it for you.
  • Do you want to watch your favorite movie together?

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  • Do you want me to help you get your mind off things?
  • I'll catch you when you fall, and hold your hand anytime you need me to.
  • Enjoy your me time if you'd like to and call me if you need help.
  • Want to go for a walk and venture the nature?
  • You gotta smile, it suits you so well.
  • Come home soon, I have a surprise for you.
Come home soon I have a surprise for you

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  • I'll rub your back when you get home.
  • Breathe, and know that it's okay if you want to let your feelings out.
  • It's okay to be upset for now, but don't dwell in it for too long.
  • You're amazing and you mean a lot to me. 
  • Don't let this challenge stops you from going even stronger.
  • I can't promise to fix all your problems but I can promise you won't have to face them all alone.
  • We'll get through this together.
  • In good times or bad times, I'll stand by you.

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  • This too shall pass, and things will get better.
  • We're a team and you can count on me.
  • Hang on, man up, and I'm sure you'll be a stronger and better person after this.
  • I know you can handle this.
  • Do you remember that time when you succeed at ...?
  • I am here if you want to talk about it, but take your time.
  • You are not alone.
  • Stay strong, baby, and cheer up
  • Can I hug or kiss you?
  • You know, kissing releases endorphins, which can makes someone happy. Wanna kiss?
  • You still are the best thing that ever happened to me.  
  • You're still the best boyfriend I've ever had.
  • I hope you'll cheer up soon.
  • I'm sure tomorrow will be a better day. 
I'm sure tomorrow will be a better day

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  • I believe in you.
  • I will support you all the way, no matter what.
  • I am still proud of you.
  • I got your back.
  • I love you anyway.

Those are some things to say to your boyfriend when he's having a bad day. The main thing is to ask him first, whether he would like to have some space when he is in a bad mood, or whether he would like it if you give him extra care and attention. Though you mean well, it is best to not directly bug him by inquiring questions about his bad mood or push him to talk it out.

When you bombard him with questions and coming up with ways to fix things, the problem might feel like it's a bigger deal than he had thought. Ask him, let him initiate the talking, and if he does not want to talk about it, just talk about something else.

You should also avoid making him feel weak, give him some space to decide for himself how much he wants to share with you and the kind of input from you that he wants. This kind of independence makes him feel strong and feel better as well.

Additionally, keep in mind that you should never compare, nor telling your boyfriend that his bad day is not so bad. Just show him that you're ready to make him feel better, be emphatic and accompany him while he also tries to make himself feel better. Show him that you care for him. You can also show that you're happy and he does have a part in making you happy. Men likes to achieve something, and knowing that he can makes you happy can also makes him feel successful. If your boyfriend likes to joke around, it would also works to say some funny things and be a little sarcastic. Don't directly shower him with judgments, opinions, or any solution.

Ask him if he has calmed down, what can you do to make him feel better. If he chose to vent, listen carefully and be present. Listen to understand, and offer some solution in case he feels hopeless. If he chose to stay quiet for a while, don't be discouraged. You'll find that sometimes, your comforting presence is all he needed to feel better. In conclusion, offer your time to listen to your boyfriend, respect him, and love him through the way.

Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.