All The Blessed Things To Say To Your Boyfriend When He’s Having A Bad Day (51 Tips)

by Michelle Devani

Are you wondering what you can do to cheer up your boyfriend when he comes home with a grumpy face?

Do you get confused about what to do or what to say to make him feel better? 

Maybe you're currently wondering whether you should do some grand romantic gestures, or write him some little notes…but maybe that hasn’t proved to be enough in the past?

Read on if you’re desperate to help make your boyfriend’s day better. Below, I have created an epic list of things to say to your boyfriend when he's having a bad day.

However, before we get into that list, I want to share a story that I think you’ll find very interesting and useful. 

Recently, I have been studying and experimenting with a barely-known part of male psychology. 

This is a primal part of the male mindset, which has a significant impact on how attracted he feels to the women in his life. It’s mostly referred to as ‘The Hero’s Instinct’

When a woman can learn to trigger this part of the male mind, she can begin to make him feel proud, joyful and purposeful whenever he is around her - the emotions men crave from romantic relationships. 

He naturally becomes drawn closer to women who can consistently make him feel these emotions. I’ve been doing it myself!

If you’d like to learn more about how this works, click to read my personal account about how I discovered the power of the ‘Hero’s Instinct’.

This concept is more powerful than any set of words you can say to a man, yet so few people seem to know about it. 

With that said, here is my list of nice things you can say to a man who is having a bad day.

Sweet Things To Say To Your Man When He’s Having A Bad Day

We all have bad days when things are just not going our way. It’s hard, but somehow we get through it, but what happens when it’s not you who is having a great day? Are you wondering all the blessed things to say to your boyfriend when he’s having a bad day? 

Hopefully, this article will help you come up with some really nice, sweet things to say to your man!

After all, you know what it’s like to have a bad day; it’s no fun; you just want someone to do or say the right things so that you can feel better. You need to now be his rock as he seeks love and comfort from you. You do want to be a supportive, loving girlfriend, don’t you?

It’s important that you encourage and try to cheer him up; you are his support and comfort. When you are in a relationship, we often depend on our better half to help us get through the tough times. What do you say to your boyfriend when he’s having a bad day? 

Let’s explore the topic more in-depth to find out exactly what you can say to cheer your man up!

sweet things to say to your man when he's having a bad day

Sometimes, just being there for your partner as he is going through a bad day is enough. He may need time and space in silence to process what has happened, and he may not be eager to talk about it. It’s okay to ask him how things are going; if he needs space, go ahead and give him all the space he needs. You don’t need to butt in where he doesn’t want you to be.

Remember, this isn’t about you and your relationship with him. Rather, it’s more about him and what he needs to feel like things are going to be okay once again. As you meet his needs and show him real love, the mood of your partner is likely to turn around and be happy! Provided you are sweet and understanding, almost anything you talk about will be appropriate in this situation.

People respond well to being supportive and loved when they have bad days. Your partner may want to talk about what is going on, or he may just need time to think about it. Regardless of his needs, if you can illustrate more love in your relationship, you are bound to nourish what the two of you have together. Think about what he needs the most after a bad day, and you’ll succeed.

  1. Are things going any better, yet, my dear?
  2. Just remember that this, too, shall pass, honey.
  3. Would you like to talk things out with me?
  4. I know this isn’t easy, but try to hang in there, my love.
  5. I am so sorry you are going through this. I can’t even imagine what it’s like. 
  6. Would you like a good massage from me when you get home?
  7. If I could trade places with you, I would. You definitely do not deserve this.
  8. You are the strongest person I know; let your light shine over this evil mess!
  9. Would you like it if I cook your favorite dish for dinner tonight?
  10. I know that you will get through this. I have complete faith in you.
  11. I’m here to support you in whatever way you need however I can. 
  12. Do you want to go do something fun to clear your head tonight?
  13. I understand that you are upset. You have every right to feel like that.
  14. You are the most courageous person I know. Your bravery will get you through this!
  15. What can I do to turn your frown upside down?
  16. Don’t let this shake you up too much. I know it’s very hard, though.
  17. Is there anything I can do to make you feel better?
  18. I’m your number one cheerleader, so just let me know what you need!
  19. What can I do to distract you from this nightmare? 
  20. I’m here for you day or night - whatever you need. 
  21. Is everything okay now?
  22. Try to have a good rest of your day and put this behind you. 
  23. Can I cheer you up in some way?
  24. Do you want to tell me more about what happened?
  25. I’m ready to come up there and kick some butts! Are you taking names down?
  26. Tell me all about your day, my love.
  27. I have complete faith in you and know you will triumph in the end.
  28. Try not to let it get to you too much; this crap isn’t worth it. 
  29. You are a competent, bright person who can achieve anything you want in life.
  30. I know this is hard, but I love your persistence. 
  31. Has anything good happened today to offset this mess?
  32. Remember to count your blessings, too, my dear.
  33. No matter what happens, I am right here for you, always.
  34. I will help you get past this in any way that I can.
  35. You mean the world to me, baby. I’m proud of you. 
  36. Maybe some deep breathing exercises would help?
  37. I know things will turn around for you. Just get through this moment. 
  38. You are so strong! I know you can handle this.
  39. You are a success despite this minor setback in your day.
  40. Stay strong, and know that no matter what, I am right here by your side.
  41. Whatever needs to happen, we can do it together as a team
  42. I’ve got your back no matter what.
  43. You are my best friend and soulmate, and I feel your pain.
  44. Try to think about tomorrow and how much better it will be.
  45. I believe in your 100% - no matter what life throws at you.
  46. I’m proud of you for handling these challenges with such grace.

What NOT To Say To Your Boyfriend When He’s Having A Bad Day

what not to say to your boyfriend when he's having a bad day

While it is very important to support your partner after his bad day, it’s even more important to understand what not to talk about with him. People don’t like to feel as though they are in competition with others as to who had the worse day. Sometimes, we just need to talk about one thing without it being a battle or anything like that. Your relationship is about more than you.

You want to treat your partner with some respect, showing you value what they have to talk about. Does he even want to talk about his day, or would he prefer to process it at home in silence? Think about your past relationships. What were those guys like? Now, think about your partner; he is a completely different individual than your past boyfriends were. 

This means that his needs vary from those of others. However, no one wants to be mocked, made fun of, or belittled when they are trying to share more about the bad day they had. If you respond in one of these ways, there’s a good chance he won’t want to open up to you again in the future because of the response he received on the matter. Be a supportive, loving partner.

  1. Whatever. Just toughen up, you big baby. 
  2. Do you actually think that’s bad? You should hear about my day!
  3. It’s not that bad. Just grow up and deal with it. 
  4. Suck it up! You’ll be fine. I don’t even see what the big deal is.
  5. I’m sure there’s someone out there worse off; heck, I’ve had worse days!

Top Tips To Follow When Cheering Someone Up After A Bad Day

1. Encourage him to do his best

As you reach out to your partner, make sure you encourage him to continue working through his day, as tough as it may be. Show him you have all the faith in the world that he can succeed despite these setbacks. No one wants to be told they cannot do something or that their feelings are unimportant. Give more than you take to show love.

This means that you should listen with your whole heart. Try to feel his feelings to see how he needs to be encouraged. Does he need to know what a great leader he is to understand his talents better today? What do you think he needs to hear about the most? What will help him get through the situation best? Think about his needs.

2. Be there for him as he goes through a difficult time

Your boyfriend may not want to talk about his bad day. It may just be more of a personal thing for him, making him feel like it’s better for him to handle it solo. If that’s the case, it doesn’t mean you need to let your partner fight battles alone; you just don’t need to know more details than he is comfortable sharing. 

Be in the same room as him. Let him know you aren’t going anywhere unless he needs you to. By doing this, you are showing him he is not alone but also not pressured to share more than he wants to. He may just want you to sit and watch Netflix or something like that, alone in silence. It’s not easy to do, but sometimes, we have to suck it up. 

3. Have faith in his abilities, skills, and talents

As you coax him through his bad day, you may find that he just needs to know that you trust in him and his abilities. Tell him, you know, without a shadow of a doubt, that he can conquer this bad time with ease. Sometimes, a partner just needs to know someone out there believes in him, his abilities, skills, and talents. Show him this is the truth.

4. Allow him to vent about his bad day

If your partner is more than happy to share about his day and why it went so bad, you have one good thing going for you - you get to practice listening and responding appropriately. It’s pretty hard to know how to respond to a partner if you don’t know what happened during the day. If he is sharing, you are succeeding already!

Now, you just need to listen intently and respond accordingly to what he talks about. If you aren’t sure that you understood the situation fully, repeat back what he’s just said in summary form, and ask him if that’s what he meant by that. If he agrees, take time to process what he’s said so that you can respond honestly

If you need more time to think about the problem, ask him questions about what he’s said. What did he think about what happened? Who was around him, and what did they think? How could things have happened differently to improve the situation? What would have turned everything around for the better? Ask him details like that. 

5. Cheer him up to the best of your ability

cheer him up to the best of your ability

You may find it most helpful to try to make your boyfriend laugh or smile. What is his favorite movie or joke? Pop in the DVD or turn it on Netflix and let the laughter cheer him up! If you want to look up some funny stuff online, be sure to show it off to him to try to change his mood from a bad one to a great one!

6. Come up with solutions to his problems

This is never an easy thing, but it can be done. If he has a complaint about work, mention to him to discuss the situation with his superior if it is serious enough. It may be time for him to escalate the issue up the ladder. If he is upset over his lunch plans falling through, suggest rescheduling those plans for a day that would work better. 

You don’t have to be combative or argumentative, but often we don’t see the solutions in front of us when we are upset or angry over a situation. Being an outside party, you have the chance to speak up and voice a solution that might just work for what he’s going through. You just never know unless you try. Try having an empathetic attitude.

That means you are putting yourself in his shoes, except, in reality, you are still in yours. What I mean by this is that you can still speak objectively because you are not actually living his life. You can offer up possible ways for him to triumph over his problems, which may just help him see things in a new light. Give it a shot and see what happens.

7. Be supportive and understanding

A big part of every relationship is showing you care about more than just one thing; you are there for the big stuff and the little things. It’s all a crucial part of being in a serious relationship. You can’t snap your fingers to make him jump out of his bad mood, but you can give it your best effort. Show him you care about what he’s going through. 

Hopefully, you really do care about what’s going on, but if not, at least fake it sincerely. Pretend to care; put yourself in his situation and act as though it has happened to you. The more real the situation is to you, the better you will be able to respond appropriately. Just make sure he knows you really do care about his well-being and suffering. 

8. Show appreciation for what he’s done

One thing you can do to make your boyfriend feel better about his day that was so bad is to let him know the good that he does. Tell him about the many things you appreciate about him. Consider explaining some of the ways he has swept you off your feet. What do you love the most about him? Share some real examples of how he’s special to you.

9. Try to make him feel better

Of course, all of the items on this list are meant to make him feel at least a little better. So, what else can you do? Have you tried some practical jokes or baking some of your famous spaghetti that he loves so much? Get creative as you think of some ways to make him feel better after a bad day. You never know what will do the trick! Keep trying!

10. Compliment him in an appropriate way 

There are times when we all have bad days and are in funky moods because of it. Sometimes, we just need to know that we have the ability to overcome the challenges we are facing. You can help your boyfriend realize his talents by listing some of them off to him. Explain how proud you are of him but that you always believe in his abilities.

How To Be Empathetic To Someone Else’s Bad Day

how to be empathetic to someone else's bad day

According to Psychology Today, there are some key components to being empathetic with another individual. This is especially important with your significant other; you should know how to listen and put yourself in their shoes in a real way. If you want to help them feel better about their bad day, being empathetic is a key part of showing that you love and care for them. 

As the article suggests, focus your attention on what your partner needs. Find ways to relate to them, showing you hope to understand what’s going on in their head, what has turned their mood bad, and how you can understand what they are going through. This isn’t an easy thing to do because you do not live in their space, their body, or their mind. 

How can you best connect with your partner in a non-judgmental manner? One thing you can try is reflection; listen intently to what your partner says and try to relate. Empathy is something you must practice over and over again if you hope to help your partner get out of his or her bad mood. As you practice, you will start to develop this skill naturally, and it’ll help all around.

FAQs

How do I cheer my boyfriend up over text?

One thing you can say to your boyfriend is that you will make him a hot cup of cocoa when you both get home. Help change his mood and redirect his attention to positive reinforcement (a cup of cocoa) after having a negative day. He’ll appreciate the thought.

How do you make him feel better when he's down?

Your boyfriend may want to talk about his bad day; sometimes, it just helps to know that someone is listening, offering a genuine presence when they need it. Make sure you keep a positive presence when you are around him. The last thing he needs is negativity in his partner.

What to say to your boyfriend to make him feel special?

Explain to your boyfriend that his bad day means something to you. You are here to listen to whatever he wants to talk about. In relationships, we often have to give more than we take to come out ahead. Let your boyfriend know that you are here for him.

What are some romantic words to say to a guy?

Tell him that you are proud to have him as your boyfriend and want him to know that you feel lucky to be his. Men often need reassurance and validation; by saying something like this, you are showing love and acceptance. You are also showing him you care about him.

What to text your boyfriend when you miss him?

Let him know you cannot wait until he gets home after his bad day because you miss him. Men like to know we think about them during the day. It shows him that you love him and look forward to when you can see him next at home!

To Sum Things Up…

What do you say when your partner has a bad day? What does someone need to say to you to get inside your head and make your day better? People often just like to feel that they are being listened to and cared about. Leave a comment, and please share!

Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.

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