4 Main Reasons Why You Should Not Check Your Partner's Phone

by Michelle Devani

One of the problems that a couple have to deal with is trust issue. Many people are worried that their partners have secrets behind their back and thus treat their partner possessively.

Being worried is normal but one should not act too much that their partner will feel uncomfortable. Asking how they are is okay but watching everything they do is only causing them inconvenience. One thing that a person often does but needs to stop is check their partner's phone.

Many people think that checking their partner's phone is normal since they are in a relationship. They think that relationship is built with trust and trusting their phone to their partner is one of them.

However, most people consider a phone as private that no one should has access except the owner. Just because two people are in a relationship does not mean they have to share every single thing including phones.

You might think you need to check your partner's phone to make sure that they do not cheat. The truth is, checking your partner's phone will not stop your partner from cheating if they want to cheat.

There are so many reasons why people cheat that may make you worried it will happen to your relationship. Girls probably often ask themselves why do I always think he’s cheating when I have no proof? and choose to check their partner's phone to find proofs.

Well, if turns out that they really cheat, just leave them because there are enough reasons why you should leave a cheater. But, if it turns out that they do not cheat on you, it seems like you do not trust your partner. Easily suspecting your partner is one of dating mistakes that you should stop.

You should trust your partner and respect their privacy including their phone. Here's the reason.

Why You Should Not Check Your Partner's Phone

1. It shows that you do not trust you partner

It shows that you do not trust you partner

Number one reason why you should not check your partner's phone is because it shows that you put your trust on the one you say you love. When you are in a relationship, you trust your love to someone thinking that they love you like you do.

To trust your partner, you should do it from the simplest to the most complex matters. If you really love your partner, you have to believe that they will not let you down.

Many people think that those who are in love will do anything for their partner including letting them check their. But, if two people are really love each other, they must understand and believe each other. Without having to check the phone, if they know how much their partner love them, they will not have to worry.

2. It shows that you disrespect your partner

What is the best thing you like about your partner? Is it their look? Their brain? Or their money? Whatever it is you like about your partner, a couple must respect each other.

Although you and them are together, you should not force your partner to follow what you think is acceptable. Just because you think checking phone is normal just like sharing sweaters, does not mean your partner will accept that. Maybe they are okay with that, but who knows?

Doing things that you want while you are not sure if your partner can accept it is a form of disrespect. Maybe their love to you is the reason they will do anything for you. But, how can you not give them right to express what they are feeling?

3. It often leads to misunderstanding

The next reason why you should not check your partner's phone is that you will probably think something that is not actually what it seems. You check your partner's message while they are away from their phone and find a message from a person saying thank you to your partner.

Suddenly it comes to your mind that this person have just done something romantic with your partner. Then, it turns out that your partner has just been helping them at work. You and your partner end up fighting because of this misunderstanding that would not happen if you did not check their phone.

4. Your partner might find another way to make their secrets safe

Your partner might find another way to make their secrets safe

You may think there will be no secret if you watch everything your partner does and check their stuff. But this will probably get your partner find another way to keep their secret safe.

Everyone has secrets. If your partner happens to have a secret they will try to keep it no matter what. Just because you know everything about your partner, doesn't mean there is no secret. It's just not revealed yet.

So, those are some reasons Why You Should Not Check Your partner's Phone. Instead of busy checking your partner's phone, check these key habits to build a successful relationship if you want your relationship to last long.

Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.