Tips on How Do You Start a Conversation with a Girl on Instagram?

Last updated on April 11, 2024 by Michelle Devani

Thank God there’s Instagram! The social media has been a very useful tool for human’s life as it helps us in almost everything in life. Whether you want is to advertise business, showcasing your life and interest, and even as a medium to get closer to your crush.

Many love stories started off from Instagram. From following each other to constant communication, the Instagram makes it happen. If you haven’t try it yet, who don’t you now? But you must be wondering how do you start a conversation with a girl on Instagram? Also read What to Do When Your Crush Unfollows You on Instagram

In this article we are going to give you the most useful tips on how to do it without sounding too awkward and fail it.

  1. “Thank You for Following Me Back”

Start lightly by talking about all the following things because it is where everything started. You want her to see you as such a tryhard so when she replies “You’re welcome” don’t drag it any longer. You can send sticker instead.

Or if she hasn’t follow you back yet, you can ask her for it. Whether it’s via DM or comments (DM is more recommended, though), make sure both of you are mutually connected. That way you can have a comfortable conversation. Also read How Do You Ask A Girl For Her Number On Instagram

  1. Like or Comment Her Photos

This can be considered the next step. Surely it will be awfully awkward if you message her randomly so liking or commenting on her post is a way to tell her about your existence. So when you say hi to her later, she doesn’t feel weird.

But remember not to do it excessively. You may like all her photos – but not down to her first post, just humbly – but commenting on every single of it makes you look like a stalker. You don’t want her to think about you negatively, right?

  1. “Hey, How are You Doing?”

Now this is the real deal. “How are you doing” indeed cliché yet the safest way to start a conversation through Instagram. Assuming that you don’t have her personal contact yet (why would you chat through Instagram if you already have) so don’t act you are close with her. Also read Signs a Girl Likes You on Social Media

This phrase works best with an old friend. Somebody you haven’t meet for years, old school mates, or ex co-worker. Just wait for this to be replied by her and you can continue the conversation by staying some old good stuffs to get nostalgic with.

  1. Discuss the Recent News

Well, this one sounds boring but this is one of the best way how do you start a conversation with a girl on Instagram. It depends on the topic you want to bring up, though. Don’t bring just any recent news unless its somehow related to her.

For example you can talk about Ed Sheeran’s most recent album or his upcoming concert near where you live. This works best for any girl because nobody won’t like to talk about something she loves. However, you need to find out what she likes first. Also read How Do I Chat With An Unknown Girl In Instagram

  1. Trigger Her with Your Posts

If you don’t want to discuss it directly, why don’t you send some triggers? Using the same logic from the previous point, post something that she likes. Probably reposting newest trailer from her favorite actor? Or it could also be something that wake up her curiosity and makes her to ask you in person.

  1. Ask Her Questions Through DMs

Bad news is, the girl might never start a conversation first. In fact, due to their pride girls prefer guys to message them first. So this is what you can do to start a conversation with her. Instead of trigger her with your posts, get triggered by hers. Also read How to Get Your Crush's Attention on Instagram and Other Social Media

DM her to ask about everything she posts that is interesting to you. From general matters to a more personal ones. For example she is posting what she has for lunch, which is happens to be your favorite dish (if not, make it so). Ask her where she eats it and tell her how you’ve been dying to eat it.

  1. Obtain Her Personal Numbers

The last but not least, yet the most important step. As long as you don’t have her number, you don’t have a hope to take it to another level. After some interaction through Instagram, which is a very public, ask for her personal number.

So those are our tips on how do you start a conversation with a girl on Instagram. Now pluck up the courage and start to get in touch with her. If you have another tips, do share with others through the comment section below.

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Michelle Devani
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