How To Deal With A Douchebag Boyfriend (Give Him Lessons!)

Last updated on June 8, 2022 by Michelle Devani

Every girls want to be in a perfect relationship with the right man. Unfortunately, some have to gone through a long way before reaching that level. For example, dating a douchebag. Just by imagining it seems scary. A douchebag knows how to make you feel bad over things that you didn’t do but you can never get over it.

You give him love, but all he gave you was hurt, betrayal, and treating you the way he wants to. Well, well, well. You always deserve better. No, the douchebag doesn’t deserve anything. That sound more right. He never know how to love so he shouldn’t be loved.

Also read: Signs of a Bad Boyfriend Material

You can just walk away and say goodbye, but a douchebag really need some lessons in life. Instead of taking him too seriously, the moment you know who he really is, let’s find out the ways how to deal with a douchebag boyfriend. Show him you’re not that easy to be winded up.

1. Hold The Grudges And Polish It

A douchebag knows how to make you feel awful. Instead of lashing out every time he acts like a jerk, pile up all the grudges you have and hold it inside. It’s not healthy but you’re preparing your best weapon. On the right time, pull it out like a sword you’ve been polished so that it’s so sharp.

If you let go of yourself every time, it only makes him happier. The more he knows you’re annoyed, the more he feels superior to you. Let it pass like it’s nothing to you. But. Never. Forget.

2. Forgive And Let Go

forgive and let go

Never forget the way he treated you, ever. But don’t let it define your happiness either. Never forget, easily forgive, and let go. It’s the only way to make you happy. A douchebag is a douchebag, and he hardly ever realize about it. 

Also read: Ways to Move On After a Bad Relationship

Here are the ultimate rule to deal with the douchebag: never forget, don’t be ignorant, but forgive immediately. It seems difficult but this is for your own sake, not his. You deserve to be happy.

3. Move Forward

Some of you would think that it’s too easy to say forgive and let go. Not everyone can deal with the difficult situation in the same, exact ignorant way. Most of you must take it seriously that you spend bucks to go to counseling and therapy. You try to let go but you can’t, you ended up stressed.

If you can’t let go, then don’t. But do move forward. If holding on to him only cause you harm, then don’t. It is actually as simple as that. Nobody told you to hold on to that hot stone. Nobody will judge on you when you let it go.

4. Prove That He’s The Crazy One

Sadly, a douchebag thinks highly of himself. For him, you’re the weird and crazy one. Of course this is not true. Don’t let him win with his thought by staying at his side. Leave him for good and let the time proof who’s the real jerk.

Sit by the side with relax and enjoy the view. When it’s all too late, he’ll realize that you were right. But it’s too late. 

Also read: Things to Say to An Ex Boyfriend to Make Him Feel Bad

5. Treat Him With Respect

This is how to deal with a douchebag boyfriend: treat him with respect. Yes, you’re listening it right. It’s always best to treat your enemies with respect. No matter how bad he treat you, always put smile on your face. Like it’s not a big deal.

It’s how you can keep your enemy closer and make them comfortable. When he has put his guard down, it’s the right time to shot. Never let him ruin your day.

6. It’s All About You, Not Him

it's all about you, not him

There are a saying you must have heard million times: your happiness depend on you. Your douchebag can make you cry, sad, and hurt because you let him to.

But if you stay strong and put yourself above everything, he can do whatever he wants but it doesn’t affect you at all. 

Also read: How to Make Your Boyfriend Understand That He Hurt You

7. Don’t Let Him Get Away Freely

You can let him do whatever he wants to you, but you shouldn’t let him off the hook freely. Make sure he knows what he did and how horrible it was. Before leaving for good, do all the revenge you have prepared. He must know how much you have holding in all these time.

8. Love Yourself

When nobody doesn’t love you enough, love yourself. So retreat if everything seems too hard for you. As if you’re in a war, your enemy is in a dangerous state and you’d likely to be defeated. No better choice but to retreat.

You’re now an easy prey to him so if you force to move forward, he’ll hurt you way easier than before. He’s mean and you won’t descend to his level. Go away and move on. 

Also read: Ways to Love Yourself and Be Happy with The World

9. Be Confident

The wrong thing every women often do is that they think too lowly of themselves. She’s not so sure if she can survive on her own, so she’d rather stay with the douchebag. Let the confidence glow. You know you can handle this.

Do you feel like he kind of takes you for granted?
Unfortunately this is one of the most frequent complaints we get from our readers, where they feel they aren't a priority for their boyfriend or husband. They always seem to have some excuse as to why they can't spend some quality time with you like they used to.

Due to popular demand, our friend prepared a quick video (click to watch) that'll show you to one easy but often overlooked thing that you can say to him today that'll help him realize how lucky he is to have you (hint: it's something that taps into how men are wired).

Women are made of steel that they are strong and not get broken easily. Don’t show him how hurt you are. Walk away like a badass. Close the door once for all, don’t let him walk through in the future. Yes, you’re that awesome.

10. Talk It Out

talk it out

You don’t have to keep everything for yourself. You’ll explode. Meet your BFFs and share everything with them. Tell them about the douchebag you unfortunately met and what you’ve done to him. You clearly feel better the moment you let it go.

So that’s all we got in the store about how to deal with a douchebag boyfriend. One thing to remember is that he’s not worthy. Don’t stay with him for whatever the reason. You deserve to be loved and staying with the douchebag will never get you to feel how wonderful it is.

Does it feel like pulling teeth getting him to say how he feels about you?
Some men can be very gaurded and closed when it comes to expressing how they feel - it can almost feel like they are pulling away from you. Many women make the mistake of pushing their man to say how they feel, but this is actually one of the worst things you can do as it can push him away further.

To get him to really show you how he feels and communicate how much he appreciates you, there's one simple thing, although often overlooked, thing you can say to him today that taps into how men are wired and can often lead to them suddenly pouring their heart out. My friend recorded a quick free video (click to watch) that shows exactly how to do that.

Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.
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