I don’t feel any excitement when I’m with my boyfriend anymore but I don’t feel like letting him go. I don’t want to. Why?

by Michelle Devani

We’ve all being there and its part of life: breaking up and making up relationships. You feel that you had enough of him but you just can’t let him go. Its probably you still hold beautiful memories with him, its your inner though that wants to continue to stay with him.

Here are some reasons as to why you cant let him go even though you have no feeling for him anymore.

  1. Insecurity

Its alright to feel insure when you loss something that you care deeply. Most people would build a wall around themselves in order to overcome their feeling of sadness and fear.

Unfortunately there are some who suffers deeply and is unable to escape this anxiety. They feel so helpless and hopeless, and can never trust or love anyone else.

Once you found that someone you feel comfortable and secure its without a doubt quite hard to let go.

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  1. He is someone you can count on

When you’re feeling down, there is always someone there for you. He might not be able to solve all your problems but he will help in giving suggestions and ideas.

This is another reason as to why you can’t leave him. If you need a shoulder to lean on, he will be there for you.

  1. Fear of being alone

There are two definition of being alone, once you have decided to break with your boyfriend, it might take a while to find someone new as a result you are left alone on your on.

On the other hand, if this one sided relationship continues it will be even hard to let go because you will feel guilty of leaving him. Thus ending up sticking with him.

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  1. He cherish every moment with you

Your partner lives in the moment by this I mean that he not only help you but indirectly teaches you to do things more better.

His encouragement to ensure you try new things. In a way, it is sort of nice to have someone there to support you but again if you don’t feel the same as he does it would be different.

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  1. Fear of failure

Once the relationship is over, you might have this fear of failing. Failing in different context such as love, work and many more. The reason is when you and him were still in a couple, you had someone to encourage you to not give up easily.

Its different from the comfort of your friends and  your partner. Your partner is someone special who knows more about you.

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  1. Role model

There are times that you are stuck, don’t know what to do next or how to continue. He will always help you, in expanding your skills. He’ll be a guide to you, probably another reason why you cant let go because you looked up to him

To sum up, you might feel confused right now why you no longer have feeling for your partner but can’t let go. Its best to considered both side first then make your decision.

Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.