Should You Be Friends With Your Ex If You Want Them Back?

Last updated on August 11, 2022 by Michelle Devani

Breaking up will make your heart shatter and your life a mess. This is all because you always remember the good times you have with your ex. Losing someone that you have given your heart to is a heart breaking moment.

Signs You Are Still Hooked On Your Ex

To check if you have moved on, here are the signs that you still want your ex back

  1. You Still Stalk Your Ex

Stalking your ex means that you pay close attention to what they do whether in social media or in real life.

  1. Still Trying To Get Your Ex’s Attention

You start doing crazy thingsto get your ex’s attention which is unnecessary and embarrassing.

  1. Still Imagining A Future Together

Showing the Signs He's Thinking of A Future With You really means that you still love your ex.

But, the question remains. Should you be friends with your ex if you want them back?. You might get the opportunity to be close to your ex again although the feelings of love still lingers. Here are the reasons why you should and why you shouldn’t

Reasons Why You Should Be Friends With Your Ex

Being friends with your ex is not that bad because it will give you all of these positive signs into your life ;

  1. Helping You Control Your Emotion

In this relationship, you will learn a thing or two about how to control your emotion to keep a healthy friendship.

  1. Helping You To Forgive

Building a healthy friendship with him stops you from doing the ways to get revenge on someone without getting caught.

  1. Not Losing A Friend In Your Live

You won’t lose a friend that you had because he/she will always be there from now on.

  1. Handling The Break Up In A Mature Way

Maturity shows in how you handle the break up gracefully and even wanting to be friends with your ex.

  1. Reminding You Why It’s Better To Break Up

Slowly, as you get more in depth in the friendship, you will find reminders on why it’s better to break up.

  1. Strengthening Your Emotional Connectedness

Your emotional connection in friendship will get even stronger because you already know each other.

  1. Making You Feel Safe

The real answer to the question ‘should you be friends with your ex if you want them back?’ is yes because you will feel safe to have someone always ready for you.

  1. You Will Get All The Help You Need In Life

Help will come from your friendly ex.

  1. The Happy Moments Will Be More Joyful

You strangely become happier when you know that your ex is your friends because nothing could sever the bond.

  1. Making The Burden Of Committment Disappear

Committment can burden you but now it has disappeared.

  1. Learning How To Develop Unconditional Love

Learning to show the signs that a man loves you unconditionally will really happen.

  1. Not Being So Lonely

Loneliness will not happen if you still have your ex.

  1. The Happy Memories You Had Won’t Hurt Too Much

When you look back to the memories, it won’t hurt because yous till have the person.

Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Be Friends With Your Ex

Now here comes the ugly truth if you do choose to be friends with your ex even when you still have the lingering feeling ;

  1. You Will Lose Your Confidence

When asking for the love of someone that is immune from it, you will start to wonder what is wrong about yourself and it makes you lose confidence.

  1. Always Asking For Your Ex Approval

The easiest way to make him get back to you is to follow your ex’s lead which is entirely unhealthy.

  1. Making You Seem Desperate

It’s not good to seem desperate but it will happen if you still persist on being friends with your lovely ex.

Do you feel like he kind of takes you for granted?
Unfortunately this is one of the most frequent complaints we get from our readers, where they feel they aren't a priority for their boyfriend or husband. They always seem to have some excuse as to why they can't spend some quality time with you like they used to.

To see if he actually likes you take this quick free quiz and we'll let you know if it's worth putting any more time into this guy.

  1. Making Your Ex Go Further Away From You

Because you are acting weird, your ex will notice and instead get further away from you which will hurt you deeply.

  1. The Pain Of Being Left Behind

You will feel left behind when you see that your ex have showed the  Signs You are Ready for a New Relationship

  1. Seeing That Everything Have Changed

When you step in to your ex’s life as a friend, nothing will be the same and you will feel confused and hurt.

  1. Your Relationship Will Be Awkward

With all the history, your relationship will always be awkward even if you don’t want it to.

  1. You Will Always Feel Sad

Feeling sad about not getting what you want will be a theme in your friendship.

  1. Making You Become Someone You Are Not

You become someone you are not because of your unfulfilled wish.

  1. You Forget All About Self Love

Not doing the Ways to Love Yourself and Be Happy with The World will be done by you.

  1. What You Are Searching For Already Disappears

The thing you love about your ex already disappears.

  1. You Will Feel Tired Everytime You Hang Out With Your Ex

Tired because you have poured all your attention to your ex but it doesn’t work

  1. Closing The Door For New Love To Come

If you keep chasing old thing, the new ones won’t come.

Tips On How To Be Friends With Your Ex

You already know the good side and the bad side. Now all you need to know is how to actually do it ;

  1. Be Casual

Don’t be too sensual or too flirty.

  1. Never Intentionally Spark Fights

There’s no use in sparking fights. It will only bring him further away from you.

  1. Accept The Change

Things will change, all you have to do is to accept it.

  1. Pay Attention To Taking Care Of Yourself

It’s so important to do and know the Reasons You Should Know and Love Yourself Before You Love Someone Else

After a break up, everyone still asks should you be friends with your ex if you want them back? the truth is there are the bad side and the good side in doing it. But all you need to do now is to do it and check if you still have that lingering feeling inside yourself.

Does it feel like pulling teeth getting him to say how he feels about you?
Some men can be very guarded and closed when it comes to expressing how they feel - it can almost feel like they are pulling away from you and leaves you wondering whether he's actually into you.

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Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.
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