19 Sad Signs Your Girlfriend Isn’t Over Her Ex Husband
There’s nothing wrong with having a relationship with someone who has divorced. She’s still a woman who need a man in her life. As long as both of your soul meets, both of you can accept one and another fully, then just go for it. But ow..ow… if your girlfriend who has an ex husband seems to get stuck in her past, or in other word, not over his ex,…you might feel sad. However, you need to understand these probable reasons underlie :
Why is She not Over Him?
Just imagine, your girlfriend has to struggle, trying to get over her long time memory with her ex husband. They have been together for long, spending time in marriage is clearly different from just a relationship. She might needs time to recover fully, you should be there supporting and comforting her whenever she needs you.
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- The reason behind the divorce
Divorce happens out of various reasons. Some because of affair, economic problems, overloading fights, or just any other things that people can’t name one by one. If what happens is that her ex stops loving her, then it will probably be hard for her to move on. If she’s the one who did something bad and regret things, she might finds it hard to just let go without trying to do something about it.
- Heart wants what it wants
This is the most probable reason somehow. We all know moving on is a process, which isn’t easy at all. All you can do is to try your best at impressing, caring, loving her as much as you can for her to forget her past easily. For you girls, here are tips about How to Move On from a Relationship when You are Still in Love.
Signs She’s Not Over Her Ex Husband
Here’s Signs Your Girlfriend Isn’t Over Her Ex Husband:
- She talks about him a lot
It’s okay to talk about ex to a new boyfriend. But when she started to talk about him too much, like she can relate a lot of things to him, then he’s probably still in her mind.
- She compares
When she still has reason to compare you with her ex, then she probably can’t stop admiring him yet.
- She feels distant
If she can’t open up to you that much, well you can feel it yourself when she’s keeping a distance from you. She might keep a boundary, trying to just talk about light things and won’t let you get into her personal life too deep. That might be when she’s still stuck in her past.
- She’s jealous
What’s more signs your girlfriend isn’t over her ex husband? If her ex meets someone new and somehow she knows it, you can try to check her reaction out. Does she get irritated, annoyed, and jealous? She won’t be bothered by her ex husband’s love life is she has moved on completely.
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When your girlfriend stays in touch with her ex husband, in this case not just casually about kids or stuffs, then you might get suspicious. As long as the contact is not too deep, then it’s nothing. But hey, if she’s keeping that interaction quite intense and she’s happy with that,… what could it be?
- She remembers
People have memories, and erasing those is not possible. But if she brings up her old memories unconciously, remembering the whole detail, thinking about that a lot, then it might be something more than ‘remember’.
- Look at her eyes
When accidentally she passed by her ex husband, search for clues in her eyes. It might be tricky but try to sense the look. If she looks so excited or maybe her eyes show something like sparkle, then maybe there’s something fishy
- She stalks
If you happen to find out that she’s stalking her ex, keeping an eye on her ex husband’s life, then maybe she still lives in her past. She wouldn’t feel curious if she has let go of her ex completely, would she?
- Keeping stuffs
Old photos, gifts from ex husband, if those stuffs are still with her, then probably she still wants to look at it somehow.
- She ‘protects’ him
Ever heard your girlfriend frequently says things that shows she’s on her ex side? She’s trying to protect him by saying things that put him in a good position. You can simply say, she’s defending him.
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Dealing with Her
Knowing that she’s not over her ex husband might be upsetting, but don’t stay still. Take a close approach to the circumstances to know better what to do as her new boyfriend. Here are few tips on dealing with a girlfriend who’s not over her ex husband :
- Be there
Things aren’t easy. She might be struggling hard by herself trying to get over her ex husband. As her new guy, you should stay still and be there as her new hiding place. Let her lay herself on your chest whenever she feels depressed. Be there, she needs your support. Try to do things according to these Ways To Make Your Girlfriend Want You More.
Sometimes it’s just hard to go through a divorce on her own. Do something to distract her, help her to shift her focus from his ex husband. Maybe you can ask her out, taking her to a new place, doing activities that will excite her, and try to avoid things that can remind her about her ex husband.
- Be understanding
You need to be patient, give her time and space to fully recover from her divorce without frustating her.
- Don’t force things
Although you love her, you can’t force her to move on completely to you. You have to learn to do your best and accept the fact.
Making speculations is the worst. You can get jealous all the way, then it turns out she’s fall for you and forgets her past. You never know what’s in her mind. Asking directly in the right way will help you to build better relationship with her.
6. Tell her
Support and tell her how much you love her with some of these Creative and Cute Ways To Tell Your Girlfriend You Love Her.
Heart is a complicated things that no one can read or predict. Feeling is also something people can’t force. Knowing how she’s stuck in her past is not a good thing. But being there for her is definitely the best thing a guy can offer to a girl.