12 Important Things You Need to Know Before Dating the Outgoing Introvert

by Michelle Devani

Introverts and extroverts. How interesting. These two types of people are always around. Even in a group of girls consists of three persons, you can find 2 extroverts and 1 introverts, or any other combination. It’s not impossible for you to fall for an extrovert, but it’s also very likely that you’re desperate to date an introvert.

Of course, both need different treatment, if you want it to be successful. However, if you thought that your crush isn’t an introvert because she or he has many friends and is out going, then you might just be wrong. Not every introverts are those who always spend time alone in the corner, in fact.

Before you bother trying to think of ways on how to make an introvert fall in love with you, there's something you need to figure out first. Find out more about things you need to know before dating the outgoing introvert and of course, the characters of these outgoing introvert before you step into their life.

About The Outgoing Introverts

We are thinkers. We are intense. We love spend time alone. But, we do appreciate people and company. A lot of acquaintances around doesn’t seem like a torture for us. If every outgoing introverts could speak their mind out, perhaps that’s what they’ll say about them. Here are few signs of outgoing introverts that will help you to differentiate introverts from outgoing introverts :

  • The way they spend time

One obvious signs here is the way they recharge themselves. Outgoing introvert are those friends of yours who laughs, talks, sticks around your group, but then at the end of the day, or in the middle of it, this person will go and do something on their own. Spending time to think, just enjoying the day all alone without the need to socialize. Perhaps this person will do what they love doing.

  • The secret they keep

An introvert rarely tells story to their friends, unless you assume that ‘friends’ here means paper and pen or note application in the gadget. Introverts will probably ask you how things are going, yet never tell you anything deep about their feelings and thoughts.

  • The way they socialize

Outgoing introverts like being in a crowd, and don’t mind socializing with people. However, this doesn’t make them same with extroverts. In a party, outgoing introverts are those who speak to people then go away to the bar, balcony, or even stay in their own seat but remain silent.

Things About Outgoing Introverts

After evaluating at the signs of an outgoing introvert, did you find out that the guy or girl you’re falling for is an outgoing introvert? If it is a yes, then perhaps there are things you need to know before dating the outgoing introvert. Perhaps even before you try out ways on how to get close to introverts .Here are few things that you need to remember :

1. They don’t really like small talk or unimportant topic

Outgoing introverts might like socializing, but they usually prefer not to waste their energy on unnecessary socializing. Here, unnecessary socializing refer to those small talks, talks about unimportant things. They’d rather spend their time and energy socializing with people who they need to socialize with.

2. You still can’t lie to them

Introverts are known for their ability and natural instinct to evaluate people. It’s really hard to lie to an introvert yet not getting caught. However, it’s still that hard to lie successfully to an outgoing introverts. If you want to get their heart and trust, make sure you stay honest to them. Lying won’t do, since they’ll find out anyway.

3. Unexpected, at times

Since they love socializing just like an extrovert, they need recharge alone, so they can be like an introvert this time, yet become like an extrovert the other time. When you ask her or him out to the club, she or he might refuse if it’s their time to recharge. Despite the fact that on your last date, she or he seemed to enjoy being in the club a lot. Prepare yourself to find such unexpected behavior from them.

4. Not the one to take for granted

If you’re a guy or girl seeking for thrill and playing around with people’s heart, then don’t take these outgoing introverts in the wrong way. They might be outgoing, but they’re thinker and feeler. They like spending and investing their time for useful things. So, they’re not the right people to mess up with or to look down for.

5. They say what they mean

Lucky you if your outgoing introvert crush says that he or she likes you. He don’t like unimportant talk, remember? If they say they like you, they’re not just playing around, but they really mean it. Search for the signs an introverted girl likes you, once you found it and they said it, you're definitely their special someone.

6. They still are good listeners

Not every extroverts are good listeners, as they prefer expressing things out rather than listening for too long. Meanwhile outgoing introvert will listen to every rant you say out loud, they’ll pay attention to what you’re trying to tell, and sometimes can even find out the words you don’t spell out loud.

You might even have to use ways to get an introvert to open up emotionally to these outgoing introverts.

  • Hard to understand
  • Might seem flirtatious
  • Take time to open up, at least after you did first
  • They use their feelings a lot
  • Their mood might swings a lot
  • The environment could affect them

Outgoing introvert might seem so confusing and mysterious for you. However, if you remember well the things you need to know before dating the outgoing introvert, then everything would go smoothly. Anyway, there are reasons why you should date the outgoing introvert that will require you good understanding of these list beforehand.

Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.