The Reasons Why He Won't Commit But Won't Leave You Alone?

Last updated on April 11, 2024 by Michelle Devani

We all have goals and dreams in life. Our goals and dreams are not always about material things but it can also be emotional goals. Such as to be with someone and loving him as long as we breathe. But what if the reality we face is different? Why he won't commit but won't leave you alone?


1. He Doesn't Want A Relationship With You

The first reason is because he doesn't want to have a relationship with you. There are two possibilities by what it means and those are he is just playing around with you and you totally didn't see the signs of a man who is a player.

The second possibility is he is not a player but he enjoys your company. He is that type of person who loves his freedom and doesn't want to be tied down. So now you can understand why he decided not to have a serious relationship.

2. He Has Fear Of Commitment

he has fear of commitment

Maybe you feel like you and him are connected in so many ways and he feels the same thing too. But, this is not the basic reason why he should pursue a serious relationship with you.

There are a lot of factors that affect his decision such as he doesn't know how to tell someone you dont want to be in a serious relationship. He might afraid of commitment because he had a terrible experience before.

3. Different Purpose Of Relationship

Another reason on why he doesn't want to commit is because he has a different purpose he wants to have in a relationship. Maybe you want to have a serious relationship and he just want to have a fun relationship for a rebound.

You need to know what are signs that can show that someone was used as a rebound in a relationship. You will also need to make sure that he and you have the same purpose by asking him directly to avoid a longer time of heart broken.

Signs He Wants To Commit To You

Now, you already know why he won't commit but won't leave you alone or even if you don't know it yet, you still have the time to figure it out. If you are so sure that you want to be together with him and he does too then you need to know when he will be ready to commit with you.

1. He Wants To Be Around You

He knows exactly the ways to get your arm around a girl. Because he enjoys your company surely he wants to spend as much time he has to be around you. You can see that he keeps wanting to be around you when he ask you to go out and always spare the time to see you and meet you.

He is not seeing you just because he feels lonely, there is a huge difference there. Once he cares about you, he will make the time to see you no matter how busy he is.

2. You Can Freely Express Yourself

you can freely express yourself

You know the ways to love yourself and be happy with the world and of the ways is by being yourself and accepting yourself for it. Someone who is ready to have a committed relationship surely already accepted you for who you are.

So if you happened to be in a relationship where he can accepted you for who you are without directly or indirectly asking you to be someone else, then you know that he wants to have a serious relationship with you. At least, this is the first sign you can see through him.

3. You Can Count On Him

Once you care to someone you love, you surely will do it your best to make that person happy and working on the relationship at your best. This also means that someone who is ready for a serious relationship won't keep you hanging and dry when you need him the most.

You can actually count on him when you needed something, his help. This what differs a man who has a serious relationship and the one who doesn't. For that, you might also want to know the signs he's faking the relationship just to sleep with you.

Again, the problem of why he won't commit but won't leave you alone doesn't always mean that he is a player. And you need to know how to know you are dating a player to see the difference. Because the problem of having issues in committed relationship can be based on past experience and it's hard to let go of the inner wounds.

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Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.
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