Does he want me back or does he not? That is the million dollar question I am sure you have asked yourself in your love life at some point. It may hurt to second guess whether or not your ex-boyfriend still wants you but I pinky swear promise it will get better.
One thing for sure is you can never control other people but your own self. Your ex-boyfriend is only going to come back if he wants to. Never try to guilt or pressure him to make his way back to you when his heart is not ready or worse, telling him otherwise.
If your ex-boyfriend wants you back badly, he would find a way to contact you and let you know.
It is like a jigsaw puzzle combined with master mystery, isn’t it? You have the need to learn what kind of signal to look for and plug it into the factual behavioral information you already knew about your ex-boyfriend. From there, you will be able to get a good idea in your head of whether your man is running or coming.
There are a lot of clear-cut signals that hint his comeback and one of them is non-stop contact. You may think it is an easy peasy signal to figure out but no, not always. Why is that? That is because he may just be bored or want to do something randomly when he contacts you.
However, if we are trying to be more positive in thinking, he may really be missing you and gradually working on a way back to you. In general, a man is not going to put any effort into keeping in touch with you unless he wants you, at least to some degree. Another fact is that they generally do not have any problem moving on from someone they do not want any more whereas women generally have it because of those natural intense feelings that often override logic.
In short, if your ex-boyfriend is reaching out to you when he really does not need to, it is safe to say that he indeed wants you back.
Another subtle but often true signal that your ex-boyfriend wants you back is when he is constantly curious about how your day went. If he did not want you or care about you, why would he ask? He would have texted some other girl and never bothered to text you again, at least on a daily basis.
If you want your ex-boyfriend back badly too, then reciprocate. Give him your own subtle signals that you want him too. If you do not, then pull away from keeping in touch with him such as taking longer to respond to his texts or telling him right away that you have moved on.
If you are so happy to know that he wants you back in his life, make sure to roll slowly. You should not be in a rush to reconcile. Something caused that breakup in your relationship and you need to make amend with it rather than sweeping it under the rug, otherwise, that something will rear its ugliness all over again in your relationship.
And if you think he is too slow on the move and thing is not going on your favor, be willing to admit the defeat and acknowledge that perhaps it is time to cut ties. If you cannot deal with it and he is crazy slow and neither of you can pick up where you left off, cut bait.
Despite what you may think about the reasons why your ex-boyfriend does not pursue you strong enough, the ultimate and real reason is the bitter fact that he is simply not into you enough. Let us just settle this once and for all. If he wants you back badly, no distance will stand in the way. But if he does not, you can live next door, and that may as well be too far for him to go.
Two people who are truly in love will make time for each other no matter how crazy busy they are. They will go as far as to set plans up ahead of time and make sure it happens.
If your ex-boyfriend has not contacted you for a while or all of a sudden decides to stop talking to you on a regular basis, perhaps it is time for you to start guessing his real intentions. Chances are he does not want to get back together with you and wanting to move on when he gets the guts to do so.
A man has an intense desire to be the initiator in a relationship. That is just a part of his manhood. A man wants to seize the challenge and if your ex-boyfriend does not have that, then all you need to do is walk away from the relationship.