If you’re out to make a Cancerian realize his mistake, you’ve got your work cut out for you.
These men are known for quite a few things. Cancer men are loyal and amazing. They are also pretty stubborn, can be selfish, and are known for always thinking they are right. That makes it quite a challenge to get them to realize that they might be wrong about something. However, it is possible.
If the two of you are just getting settled in a new relationship, you’re still getting to know each other. It can be an adjustment if you’ve never dated a Cancerian before.
Cancer men can be somewhat selfish. They can also be moody. However, most of this is because they are very sensitive.
Communication is also not their strong suit. You might notice them withdraw back into their shell because you unintentionally hurt their feelings. Along with them actually being selfish, there are a lot of aspects to their personality that make it look like they are being selfish when they aren’t.
They are also known for having anxiety. This can make them more defensive than other zodiac signs, which might actually be the cause of many arguments.
When you want to discuss things with a cancer man, make sure to do so in a calm manner. Ensure that you have an even temperament. This will help relieve some of their anxiety.
Cancers are very protective and loyal, especially when it comes to their family. If you go against his family, especially his mother, he’s going to have a problem with it.
However, this loyalty can also spill onto you. Once you have established a relationship and he is in love with you, he’ll feel fiercely loyal towards you as well. Check out these tips to help your cancer man fall in love a bit faster.
If you want to make a cancer man realize that he’s made a mistake, there are a few different tactics that you can try. You need to understand the personality behind Cancerians first. Then, you’ll need to address the problem. How you do that can determine whether he realizes that he made a mistake or whether he continues to think he’s right about everything.
It can be easy to focus on getting him to admit that he’s wrong, which often comes with expecting an apology. However, that’s not always necessary with this sign. Instead, consider focusing more on changed behavior. This takes away from who is right and who is wrong, but you still get to work on what you think is wrong with the relationship.
Because a cancer man can get offended, and hurt, easily it’s best to use a gentle approach. Try to avoid aggressive tones or body language when approaching the subject.
When you talk to a cancer man, make sure that you use I statements. For example, avoid accusing statements such as “you never take out the trash” or “ I always have to do everything because you’re selfish.” Instead, try something like “it makes me feel like I have to put in more housework than you do when you don’t do things like taking out the trash. It’s exhausting, and I would like your help.”
When you use I statements, it will not make him feel defensive. This is because the focus is on how it makes you feel, and what behavior can help instead of focusing on negative things. (Communicating this way can be effective with family members, in the workplace, etc. too.)
Have you ever pointed out how someone felt, and then had to comfort them? Often, we see this as being manipulative, but that’s not always the case. Cancer men might do this because their feelings are genuinely hurt. When you don’t acknowledge them, it hurts their feelings more. These men are the crybabies of the zodiac.
It’s always more respectful to have serious conversations in person, but this is especially important if you’re dating a cancer man. When you text a person, it’s easy to misunderstand their tone. This can make a cancer man feel defensive, which is going to lead to another fight. In the end, nothing will get resolved. You’re more likely to reach a resolution when having important conversations in person.
You can’t control anyone except for yourself, and this is especially true when it comes to a cancer man. If you try to make a cancer man change or force him to apologize, he’s just going to be more stubborn and refuse to acknowledge your point of view. They’re like children that have Oppositional Defiant Disorder in that way.
Instead, focus on effective communication. Then, let him do the rest of the work.
These guys are the definition of moody. Cancer is ruled by the moon, which goes through frequent changes. That means that this zodiac sign is also going to go through frequent emotional shifts.
Simultaneously, they also carve stability. Because of that, you’ll need to pay attention to your man to know when the timing is right to bring up the subject. After a stressful day or day full of chaos is not the right time. He’s already stressed, and this can cause him more stress. Instead, make sure he’s had a good day before gently approaching the subject.
A cancer man can be a deep thinker. Even if he doesn’t flat out say that he was wrong, it doesn’t mean that he doesn’t realize his mistake. In fact, he might have realized it and is now disappointed in himself. He’ll need some time to think before he takes any action. Don’t give him the complete cold shoulder, but do enjoy some tv time in the other room for a little bit.
These guys take their relationships very seriously. They are often so protective and caring that it can be smothering. Cancer men also take a problem with the relationship seriously. Make sure that you let him know how his behavior, or mistake, is affecting the relationship. This alone could be reason enough for him to take a good look at himself and his actions.
Making a guy jealous so that he puts more effort into the relationship is an age-old trick that we’ve all used a time or two. However well this may have worked in the past, don’t try it now. This trick usually backfires when you’re in a relationship with a cancer man. Instead of him admitting his mistake, he’ll retreat, possibly leave you and it will be almost impossible to reverse the damage once it’s done.
A little empathy always goes a long way, especially in relationships. It can be hard to do this with one of these sun signs, but it’s possible. Ask him the reason behind his behavior. Try to genuinely understand where he’s coming from. Not only will you understand him, but it also can help him realize that he might be wrong if you understand him yet still disagree.
Do you feel like he kind of takes you for granted?
Unfortunately this is one of the most frequent complaints we get from our readers, where they feel they aren't a priority for their boyfriend or husband. They always seem to have some excuse as to why they can't spend some quality time with you like they used to.
Due to popular demand, our friend prepared a quick video (click to watch) that'll show you to one easy but often overlooked thing that you can say to him today that'll help him realize how lucky he is to have you (hint: it's something that taps into how men are wired).
These guys tend to get used to no one liking them. It’s why they have such a fear of rejection. That’s why it’s a great idea to try a compliment sandwich when you’re addressing conflict.
To do this, start off with a compliment. For example, tell them how much you appreciate everything that they do. Then, bring up the thing that bothers you. End the conversation with another compliment, such as telling them they’re handsome or how much you love them. It’s hard to be defensive when someone is complimenting you!
One of the biggest downfalls of dating a cancer is that they are accused of being over-emotional so much it typically leads to them holding in their emotions. Those emotions have to come out sometime, and it’s the equivalent of a volcano exploding.
When they aren’t feeling confident in confrontation, a cancer man will turn to someone that he trusts for a second opinion before discussing the subject further. This is another reason why it’s a great idea to give him space. He’ll ask his friends and family for their opinion, especially on a woman. Then, they’ll continue with whatever decision they have reached.
When you have decided that you’re right and he’s wrong, it’s going to be impossible to get a cancer man to realize his mistake. Instead, approach a cancer man with the attitude that you are both a little wrong and both a little right. This sets the stage for you two to reach a compromise, which a cancer man can definitely get on board with.
A cancer man doesn’t want his woman to feel hurt or unloved. If you tell him how you’re feeling, he’s more than likely going to want to have that open dialogue with you. He’ll take the time to address those feelings and the behavior that caused them.
A cancer man appreciates a woman that takes care of the home. He wants a woman that shares the same family values, including a cozy home. This isn’t going to make him instantly realize that he’s made a mistake, but it will make him feel better about communicating and put him in a good mood. That’s always a great idea when addressing conflict with a cancer man.
First, understand why he is angry with you. You need to know that even though something might not matter to you if it matters to your partner it is still important. Give him space to calm down. Then, ask him what’s going on. He’ll appreciate the open, honest dialogue that doesn’t instantly turn into an argument.
Focus on him when you’re together. Don’t flirt with other men. Mention some good memories to bring out his nostalgic side. Pay him plenty of attention without being aggressive. Take things slowly. Don’t expect a quick fix. Instead, encourage open communication.
He tends to withdraw into himself. A cancer man that is hurt might appear to be brooding or depressed. These guys will have a hard time opening up to people, so it might be a while before he shares his personal feelings with you. If his trust is broken, he’ll withdraw emotionally from the relationship.
He does everything to tell you that he’s done with you, except actually telling you he’s done with you. You won’t hear a word about him feeling done, actually. Instead, you’ll get passive-aggressive behavior. He will be cold and distant, and somewhat rude. Communication simply stops.
Cancer men often forgive people, but they never forget. This sun sign is known for holding onto things longer than others, and they are known for holding a grudge. Even if he forgives you, he might still bring up what you did, be distant and find it very hard to trust you. If you’re still in a relationship, have patience and take things slowly.
A cancer man is going to be stubborn. It’s hard to read their emotions, too. However, their loyalty and love make them one of a kind. Have you ever been in love with a cancer man? How did you get him to finally realize it when he made a mistake?
Does it feel like pulling teeth getting him to say how he feels about you?
Some men can be very gaurded and closed when it comes to expressing how they feel - it can almost feel like they are pulling away from you. Many women make the mistake of pushing their man to say how they feel, but this is actually one of the worst things you can do as it can push him away further.
To get him to really show you how he feels and communicate how much he appreciates you, there's one simple thing, although often overlooked, thing you can say to him today that taps into how men are wired and can often lead to them suddenly pouring their heart out. My friend recorded a quick free video (click to watch) that shows exactly how to do that.