How To Make A Girl Fall In Love With You Just By Texting Message (35 Tips)

Last updated on April 14, 2024 by Michelle Devani

Are you useless at texting girls? 

Do you consider yourself to be quite good at meeting girls in real life, only to get regularly flaked on or ghosted?

Maybe you're able to attract lots of matches on Tinder but unable to convert any of them into dates? 

In both these scenarios, your texting is nearly always to blame. 

It's a shame because it is possible to make a woman MORE excited to meet you by texting, once you know how to do it properly.  

In this guide, you're going to learn some tips to make a woman OBSESS over you through text message. 

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It's annoying for all of us when men don't understand the concepts in this course, because it ruins what could have been a huge crush. 

Remember, this concept when you read the rest of this guide, which focuses on winning girls over by text specifically.


Tips To Use When Texting Girls

Today, you’ll spend more time getting to know someone via texting than you will be talking to them. Whether it’s through an online dating app, on social media, or through a mutual friend, you’ll find yourself texting someone more as the two of you get to know each other. That’s why it’s important to have amazing texting skills. You want to show off your charm, be amazing and do it all without her hearing the tone of your voice or seeing the expression on your face. 

If you want to make a girl fall in love with you via text message, it’s not that hard. All you have to do is remember to use these tips when you’re sending text messages back and forth. 

1. Ask her when she’s free

If you want to go out on a date with a girl, open the door for that conversation. Make sure that you have gotten to know each other for at least a few days first. She’ll love that you’re willing to discuss things and that you want to meet her. 

Make sure that you are respectful if she doesn’t want to meet right away. Some girls prefer to get to know someone a little bit more before meeting in person. If that’s the case, tell her that you’d love to go out to dinner when she’s ready. 

2. Text her within a day of meeting her

There’s a general rule that you should wait three days before sending a girl a message. Today, women expect men to text them sooner than that. Waiting three days will instantly lead to her thinking that you aren’t interested. Instead, text a girl a short “I had a great time and would love to see you again!” within a day. 

3. Consider having a playful attitude

While it’s important to be serious when the occasion calls for it, you also have to be able to play around. Consider asking her some open-ended questions, such as “If you could have any superpower what would it be and why?” to start a silly conversation. 

4. Ask open-ended questions

When you ask a person a yes or no question, it can kill the conversation. Instead, text a girl open-ended questions to keep the conversation going longer. 

5. Make texting her back a priority

When you’re going to text a girl, you don’t just want to text her casually in your free time. That’s a great way to let her know that she’s not a priority. You can also give the impression that you’re playing games. 

Instead, try to text her back more often. If you can’t have your phone on you while you’re working, try to check it at lunch. It’s a great way to show her that you’re interested in her. 

6. Don’t blow off what she’s saying

This seems like a given, but it happens. Sometimes, it happens unintentionally. You ask how her day was. She tells you about her day. Then, it reminds you of something and you start talking about yourself. She feels like you don’t care about her day. 

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Instead, take the time to text her about what she’s telling you. When you spend time talking about what she said in her last message, it shows that you care and that you’re listening to her. 

7. Avoid WYD texts

This is guaranteed to lead to dull text conversations. The natural answer is “not much, you?” Do you see how uninteresting that is? Instead, make an effort to spice things up. 

8. Make her smile

make her smile

As a girl, I would rather go out with an okay-looking guy that can make me laugh versus a super hot guy that is serious all the time. Sometimes, you need to stop thinking about texting a girl and how to send the perfect text messages. Instead, just send her a funny TikTok video or a meme. She’ll instantly be more interested in you once you make her smile. 

9. Ask her opinion

Believe it or not, there are still plenty of guys that do not care what a woman thinks. It will instantly make her smile if you ask her opinion on something. 

This is a great way to get a conversation going when you’re texting a girl too. Find out what the girl is interested in, and then ask her a question about it. She’ll send you paragraphs of messages. 

10. Text about cool things

Those getting-to-know-you questions will only get you so far. They can also get boring after a while. You need to find some cool things to talk about with a girl too. 

This can be a bit challenging in the beginning when the two of you are still getting to know each other. Pay attention to her reaction when you mention certain things like the news or beautiful places to travel. 

11. Keep her interested with different topics

Telling her about your great life is a wonderful idea. However, she doesn’t want to hear about your job all of the time. A girl will even get tired of talking about beautiful places like Bora Bora at some point. Instead, keep the conversation both fun and interesting by switching things up. If you’re not sure what to say when you’re texting a girl, here are some good conversation topics: 

  • Astrology
  • Crystals and their purposes
  • Plants
  • Animals
  • Traveling
  • Hobbies
  • Favorite foods, places to go, etc. 

Not only will this keep the conversation going, but it will also help you learn a lot about her. 

12. Send her a good morning text

When you text girls and want them to fall head over heels, you want to make sure that you send a good morning text. For example, tell her “good morning beautiful.” When you text girls first thing in the morning, it’s definitely going to put a smile on their faces. 

13. Send a paragraph on occasion

When you text a girl, you’re bound to stick to your personal texting style. For some, that’s short sentences. For others, it might be long, detailed paragraphs. Guys that fall into the first group should make an effort to text a girl a paragraph every so often. Girls love to get a paragraph telling them everything that you love about them. 

Writing a paragraph requires a little bit of thought if you’ve never done it before. You should text a girl what you love about her. Even if you think she’s pretty, don’t focus too much on her appearance. It makes you sound shallow. In fact, don’t focus too much on any one thing. Instead, make each sentence something different that you love about her. 

14. Don’t forget the good night text

When you text a girl, the conversation naturally comes to a stop. However, that doesn’t mean that you’re done texting for the day if you want her to fall in love with you. Before she goes to bed at night, make sure to send her a good night text. 

This shouldn’t simply say good night. Tell her that you hope she sleeps well, too. 

15. Don’t use pet names too soon

If you haven’t met the girl yet, she’s not your baby. Instead, call her by her name. Then, after the two of you meet and hit it off, you can start safely calling her pet names. 

Breaking out calling her sweetheart or baby too soon can be a huge turn-off to a girl. It can also imply that you’re more interested than you are. Right now, stick with calling her by her name or preferred nickname. 

16. Use proper grammar

use proper grammar

Some people don’t mind when you don’t use proper grammar, but others do. Make sure to at least use question marks at the end of a question. Using proper grammar when texting girls can also make you look more educated and professional, which is something that girls love. 

In general, the older a woman is, the more she appreciates proper grammar. This also includes useless abbreviations, such as using the letter Y instead of typing out why. Avoid misspelling words if you can. 

17. Let her set the tone

When you’re texting a girl, you should mirror the way that she texts. This is how you let her set the tone. If she uses emojis at the end of every message, you should use an emoji here and there. When girls text longer paragraphs, they appreciate getting them back too. How fast she responds is how fast she expects you to respond. 

18. Don’t just compliment her looks

Texting girls involves a lot more than simply telling her that she looks pretty. Complimenting her is always a great idea, but you don’t want to focus on her looks. Instead, tell her what else you like about her. It could be that she’s smart or always knows cool facts about things. 

This doesn’t mean that you should never compliment her looks. If you’re Facetiming, there’s nothing wrong with telling her that it’s great to see her face. Any time it comes to a girl's face, timing is a great time to compliment her. 

19. Send the longest message while she’s sleeping

This is one of the best tips you’re going to hear. Girls love getting paragraphs. It’s even better if she’s asleep. As soon as she wakes up, she’ll check her phone. Then, she’ll read your paragraph and start the day with a smile on her face. It’s the perfect way to make her fall in love. 

20. Don’t overuse punctuation and emojis unless she does it first

Remember that you want to match her tone. So, if she ends sentences frequently with several exclamation points, it means that you can too. If she doesn't, the overuse of punctuation can be overwhelming. This same rule applies to using emojis. Don’t put multiple smiling faces unless you see her do the same. 

21. Text her for a reason

To find out what she’s doing is not a good reason to text a girl. Instead, you should be texting her with a purpose in mind. Do you want to ask her out on a date? Are you trying to learn more about her? When you keep this in mind, you’ll realize it’s one of the best tips that you need to follow. You’ll instantly start steering the conversation toward that goal, eliminating awkward silences too. 

22. Make her wait a little at the beginning

It might sound like a dream come true to have someone right there to text all day, but emotionally healthy girls that are looking for a healthy relationship aren’t okay with that. They’d prefer it if you have a life outside of them. You need hobbies, a job, friends, etc. 

That means that you shouldn’t have time to immediately text back. If you’re not busy and in between jobs, either find something to do or at least wait to text her back. 

You should match her texting speed, but not until after the first date. This is one of the best tips for making a girl fall in love over text that you need to remember. 

23. Role play

When you role-play over text, it doesn’t have to be sexual. You can both get into character and have some fun with this! Check out this article for more tips on role-playing over text. 

24. Avoid double texting

avoid double texting

If it takes her a minute to respond, don’t double-text her. Triple texting is even worse. Even if the girl did like you, it’s going to fade away when you come off as needy. This is another reason why guys need to have a life outside of their relationship. You can’t depend on a girl to keep you entertained all day. It simply isn’t going to work out. 

Instead, put your phone down after texting a girl. Find something to do. Then, go back to it later. Or at least don’t look at it again for fifteen minutes. Go do something fun to keep yourself distracted. 

25. Compliment her the right way

Every girl loves to get compliments. However, there are plenty of guys that send generic compliments. For example, calling a girl pretty or sweet. These are probably the same messages that the girl has in her inbox from random strangers too. You don’t want to have anything in common with them. 

Instead, you want your compliments to stand out a bit. Make sure that she realizes that you notice her, and things about her when you compliment her. Tell her that you love her new purse or that she does a great job dying her own hair. Send her messages that let her know that you love how friendly she is. Texting that message will help you stand out, and let her know that you notice things about her. 

26. Be sweet

We still live in a society that is packed with toxic masculinity. Guys are under the impression that they have to be strong and tough all the time, including when they are texting a girl. That isn’t the case. Granted, a girl loves a guy that is big and strong. However, there is nothing wrong with being fun, silly, or sweet either. 

For example, send her pictures of you smiling. Share a sweet story that is guaranteed to warm her heart. Tell her a funny joke every once in a while. Send her a message that is a sweet poem or song lyric. There are ways that you can still be manly and sweet at the same time. Finding that balance is essential to getting a girl to fall in love over texting. 

27. Show her how great you are

Every guy wants a girl to know how awesome they are. Unfortunately, this can lead to sending one message after another telling her how much money you make or about your great personality traits. Don’t do that. It’s going to make you look cocky. 

Instead, you want to show a girl how fun and amazing you are. Send her text messages to get her to go out on a date with you. Then, make sure that the two of you have fun. Don’t constantly tell a girl how great you are. Instead, tell her what you love about her. 

28. Don’t brag

Even if you’re proud of yourself, try to avoid mentioning your accomplishment too much if you mention it at all. For example, saying things like “Looks like I’m the top donor at my charity again!” sounds arrogant. It also makes you look like an attention whore. You are texting a girl to get to know her and have some fun, not to get her to stroke your ego

29. Avoid jokes that could be inappropriate or offensive

There’s nothing wrong with having some fun with a girl. There’s also nothing wrong with telling a girl a funny joke. However, what you consider funny she might find offensive. Avoid jokes on topics that people might not find funny, such as race, religion, or politics. It’s a great idea to stay away from controversial topics such as abortion, gun control, etc. as well. Once you get to know a girl better, you’ll find out what style her sense of humor is. 

30. Make a mental note when she tells you something

If a girl takes the time to talk to you about something, that’s a good indicator that it’s important to her. Remember things that she tells you, especially if it’s about her life. This could be her job or favorite color. Remembering intimate memories or stories that she shares with you is especially important. If you don’t, she’ll assume that you aren’t interested or don’t pay attention. 

Then, show her that you remember by mentioning it to her. Ask her if she’s ever taken her pet to a certain spot, and make sure to call the pet by its name. Inquire about things that she mentions. For example, if she says that a family member is sick, ask her how they are doing the next day. This not only shows that you were listening, but it also shows that you care about her. That’s how you get her to care about you through texting. 

31. Don’t just tease her all the time

Being playful is wonderful. It shows her that you can have some fun. Telling jokes and smiling are also great. However, you can’t rely on playful teasing to get you into and through a relationship. In fact, this single tactic can actually keep you from a relationship. 

Girls like a guy that can be playful. However, they prefer a relationship with guys that can communicate. You should be able to speak about your feelings and properly communicate your ideas. This includes when something bothers you. If all you’ve got is being playful, don’t expect her to stay interested in going on a date for long. 

When you do tease her, don’t be insulting. We’re not in grade school anymore. Saying she’s cute for a blonde and that you usually prefer redheads is not going to earn you brownie points. Instead, it can make her wonder if she’s even your type. Avoid that type of teasing. 

32. Try calling her

try calling her

Sending long texts is a great idea, but you need to call her every once in a while. As the two of you move towards a relationship, you’ll find that you should be texting, calling, and spending time together. After so long, she’ll start to wonder why you don’t call her or FaceTime her. It’s natural for people to call other people when they are excited about something, so make sure to do just that. Then, she’ll reciprocate and call you when she is excited about something and wants to share it with you. 

It can be a bit awkward to randomly call someone if you’ve never spoken on the phone before. You can make it more comfortable by asking if you can call them. Another great idea is to say that you would love to hear her voice. Then, see how she responds. This can tell you whether she is on board with talking to you on the phone or not. 

33. Let her know when you have to go

Don’t leave a girl wondering. It’s common for guys to stop texting in the middle of a conversation to make a girl wait. However, this can be seen as rude. Imagine if you were having a conversation in person, and she just suddenly stopped responding. You would find yourself wondering what was going on. She’ll think that you lost interest or don’t want to speak to her anymore. Don’t make a girl think that. 

Instead, let her know when you have something to do. Close the conversation out by telling her that you have things to do, and you’ll talk to her later. If it’s close to your bedtime, tell her that you are about to get some rest and you’ll talk to her tomorrow. If you don’t, she’ll get tired of wondering whether you still have an interest in her or not. 

34. Flirt with her

If you want to make your way out of the friend zone, you need to flirt with her every once in a while. This can also show a girl that you have an interest beyond just being friends. You want her to know that you like her as more than a friend. 

Learning how to flirt with a girl over text is essential to make a girl fall in love with you. You can’t touch her like you normally would in person so you have to make up for that. Use lines like “Make sure you get plenty of rest for when I see you tomorrow” to make her smile. If you can make a girl smile, you’re flirting with her. You can also use flirty emojis like the faces with heart eyes to make a girl smile. 

35. Don’t mention sex all the time

I think it’s important to know whether you and someone else are sexually compatible before moving forward. However, you don’t want to mention sex all the time. This can easily make a girl think that you just want to sleep with them. She’ll think that you’re just excited about the possibility of her in the bedroom and don’t want to date her. Forget about getting out of the friend zone if you don’t express that you like her for more than sex. 

If you do mention sex, make sure that you mention other cool things too. Tell her what else you like about her. Let her know that you enjoy her personality or are fascinated by her hobbies. 


How do you get a girl to fall in love with you over text?

Take the time to get to know her as a person. Don’t focus too much on her appearance or skills in the bedroom. Make sure that you remember things that she tells you to show her that you care. Then, flirt with her to let her know that you like her as more than a friend

What to text a girl to make her catch feelings?

Let her know that you care. Ask follow-up questions about things that she mentions, such as a sick pet or family member. Let her know that you are there if she needs anything. Show her your sweet, sensitive side and express yourself appropriately. 

Should I text a girl every day?

Yes, you should. If a girl texts you every day, you should reciprocate that. Don’t try to play games or follow the cliche three-day rule. Girls expect to hear back sooner than that now. It only takes two seconds to send a text. Not texting shows lack of interest. 

How do you make a girl miss you?

Don’t text her, but make sure you tell her you will be busy. If you suddenly stop talking to her she’ll think that you don’t like her anymore. However, if you say that you’ll be busy and can’t text her, she’ll know that you still like her and she’ll miss you. 

Is texting every day clingy?

Sometimes. It depends on how often you’re sending a message and if you expect to maintain that same amount of texting. If you spend all day texting a person back and forth, it’s definitely clingy. You need a hobby. 

In Conclusion

If you hope to make a girl fall in love with you, these are the best tips to follow. Remember, you should text her with the goal of getting to know her better. What else should a guy keep in mind when texting a girl?

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Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.

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