What To Say To A Girl After Not Talking For A Long Time - Connect With Her Again

by Michelle Devani

Are you wondering what to say to a girl after not talking for a long time?

Perhaps you know you’re going to bump into an old friend, or even someone you used to date after months or years of not talking?’

Whether this was because you fell out or just lost touch, it can be tricky to know what to say in these situations. 

And that’s why I have created this list of 7 things you can say to start the conversation off smoothly, as if you’re never been gone. 

Here’s a tip that you may find useful. You can use this person’s social media profiles to get an idea of what they’ve been up to in this time away from you. But if this isn’t an option for you, it’s still possible to catch up with their goings on using this communications tracker tool.

This tool can infiltrate their personal devices and reveal a database of information surrounding their recent communications.

You’ll be shocked at the amount of data this tool can grab and present to you in an easy-to-read format. 

It requires just a handful of their personal details to get started - and discretion is guaranteed with this intelligent tool. You’ll be overwhelmed with possible conversation topics, once you learn so much about what they’ve been up to.

If you don’t want to take that step, that’s not a problem either. Instead, you can pick some of your favorite conversation-starters from the list below.

7 Ideas On What To Say To Her To Reconnect

Ideas on what to say to her to reconnect

It may make you a bit nervous to initiate a move in order to be able to get back in touch with a girl or friend you have not spoken to for a long time, but there is really no way around that. She could be open to rebuilding the friendship and you will just happen to pick up right where you left off.

The worst scenario, however, is when they might be too busy with their job or family, or have moved on to another place out of your reach. Whether or not they would be keen to start talking with you again, it is for later.

It is not like there is any magic way to word your contact that is going to drastically change how she feels about the matter. While you are it, also check signs your friendship is coming to an end.

In this article, we will learn more about what to say to a girl after not talking for a long time. Be ready for either possibility going in and use one of these innuendos to initiate a conversation. You may also want to check things to do to stay in touch beside texting.

1. Make A Comment On One Of Her Posts On Social Media

You can praise her post, ask a question about it, or comment about something you find interesting about it. For example, if she writes a post about attending a concert, you can say, “I am so jealous you got the chance to see the concert!”

2. Consider Asking Her How She Is Doing Or Extending The Conversation

You can say, “How have you been? Are there any other boy groups you have been interested in lately that I should check out?”

3. Invite Her To An Event

invite her to an event

Send a follow up message telling her about the event. You can say something like, “My friends and I are going to have a homecoming party and I was hoping it would be great to see you again there. Are you free this Saturday?”

4. Start A Conversation About Something That You Share In Common

For example, if she read a book recently and you also like to immerse in a book, send her a text that says something like, “I saw that you went the library the other day. I was just there a couple blocks away and about to borrow a John Grisham’s new book. Have you read it?”

5. Send Her A Text That Brings Up A Connection You Share

Remind her of something that used to connect you in the past and be confident in it, and then you can ask her a question like, “I saw the theater play in town yesterday, and I remember how you like it so much. How have you been? Did you see the play, too?”

6. Be More Direct In Your Message And Tell Her That You Have Been Thinking About Her

Just make sure you do not bring up something too heavy and too intense from the past to break the ice. Instead, say something like, “I have been thinking about you along with our fun conversations the last time we hang out together. How have you been?”

7. Send Her A Funny Or Silly Message

send her a funny or silly message

According to research, girls like someone they find humorous so humor is always a go-to way to choose when you are trying to catch up with girls. Refer to an inside joke that you had or ask her a question jokingly. For example, you can say something silly like, “How long has it been since the last time we ate a chicken the size of my thigh?”

In Summary

So, those are what to say to a girl after not talking for a long time. Think of trying any of starters above to check in her. Hopefully, it will work for you and your girl. You may also want to check whether or not you should respond to an ex-girlfriend trying to reach out.

Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.