What to Say When Your Boyfriend Wants to Kill Himself? Read This!

Last updated on June 5, 2022 by Michelle Devani

Mental remains a serious issue nowadays. We can’t judge how hard things are in someone’s life that they have to deal with depression, which could lead to suicide eventually. All these time you may have inly read other’s stories, never experienced yourself or have your closest people go through it.

Until one day you find out that your boyfriend is thinking about suicide. As much as you have never deal with it, you don’t know what to say when your boyfriend wants to kill himself to calm him down. Also read What to Say to Your Best Friend When She Wants to Kill Herself

Now you have to take a breath, you can handle this. This is some tips for you about what to say to your loved one.

  1. “Seeing you hurting like this makes me really sad.”

Never underestimate his pain. No matter how close you are to him, you never feel what he feels. It shows that you are become empathetic to him. This way he will feel less alone and acknowledge that you are there for him.

  1. “I’m glad that you tell me about your thoughts.”

First, know that it is not easy for someone who wants to kill themselves to share about it. So fi he talked to you about it, then you’re the chosen one. But he might regret about it later. However you should tell him that you glad that he shared it. Also read My Long Distance Boyfriend is Depressed And Keeps Pushing Me Away. What Can I Do?

  1. “Hey, what’s going on? What makes you think about suicide?”

There is always a start for everything. Ask about when it start to pop up in his mind. Listen to every detail of it, examine his expression carefully while he talk. Be sympathetic by responding “It must be really painful to you” or “It sound really bad.”

  1. “Can you tell when will you plan to do it?”

Suicide is not something spontaneous. It’s impossible if he had the thought just a week ago. He must have planned when to do it. By asking him the question you’ll know how severe it is.

For example if he says “I have a knife with me every time so I can do it anytime.” You know that it is dangerous. Also read Things You Should Know Before You Date Someone with Depression

  1. “Tell me how will you plan to kill yourself?”

Once again, suicide is a thorough plan. He must know when will he do it and how. So this is what to say when your boyfriend wants to kill himself: ask how he will do it. So you can put a preventive action such as throw away certain medication or keep him out from gun, knife, and any destructive tools.

  1. “Do you have legal access to gun?”

Well this is important. If he has license to hold a gun, then he might likely kill himself by it. If it’s positive, then you can lock away the gun or do something to keep him away from the dangerous thing. Also read What to Say to Boyfriend Who Is Depressed to Feel Okay

  1. “What can I help?”

This is what they need the most: most of all suicidal person only need simple, comforting words to stop them from doing so. The first thing you could offer them is help. Ask in what way he wants to be helped. As you’re the closest person to him, make sure you are there.

  1. “Let’s seek help together.”

Helping suicidal person must involve a professional. There are many line you can call for suicidal help, so you can use for help. This way you will help him better, and the most important thing is you are with him. Also read Sweet Things to Say to Your Boyfriend When He's Depressed

Never think that only you responsible for his life by involving others. If you only fought by yourself, unknowledgeable, you will end up blame yourself when the worst thin happens.

  1. “I care about you. I really do.”

Instead of stressing how sad you will feel if he’s gone – which only add guilt to his shoulders, it’s better to show him that you simply care. Prove through act, not just words by accompanying through what could probably be the hardest phase in his life.

  1. “Please talk to me every time you think about suicide.”

Suicidal thoughts keep appearing inside his mid every now and then. Make sure that every time the desire comes, he talk to you. That’s why you need to convince him that you really care. So he knows that he is not alone, and when the devilish thought comes, he immediately calls you.

Those are the best we can do about what to say when your boyfriend wants to kill himself. If you are going through this right now, don’t hesitate to call for help, don’t stressed out, and don’t feel burdened. You are not alone and this too, shall pass.

Does it feel like pulling teeth getting him to say how he feels about you?
Some men can be very gaurded and closed when it comes to expressing how they feel - it can almost feel like they are pulling away from you. Many women make the mistake of pushing their man to say how they feel, but this is actually one of the worst things you can do as it can push him away further.

To get him to really show you how he feels and communicate how much he appreciates you, there's one simple thing, although often overlooked, thing you can say to him today that taps into how men are wired and can often lead to them suddenly pouring their heart out. My friend recorded a quick free video (click to watch) that shows exactly how to do that.

Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.
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