You Are A Muslim Who Is Not Supposed to Date, How Do You Find Love Then?

Last updated on June 7, 2022 by Michelle Devani

When it comes to love and dating, Muslims are often blatant in their drawback from the public conversation. This is due to strict rules on dating and pre-marital sex in Islam, but that does not mean that the religion does not encourage the idea of spending the rest of the life with a soulmate.

On the contrary, Islam has been preaching a lot about the importance of marriage. Of course, not every Muslim finds love in the same way because what one person thinks is probably at odds with another.

Also, do not be fooled into thinking that arranged marriages with no prior dating are a traditional streak because while one person may staunchly agree to it, another may actively look for a partner and find that dating is not an issue.

So, if you are a Muslim who is not supposed to date, how do you find love? Written below are ways to find the love you could try if you are a Muslim. Keep on reading!

  1. Self-Love

First of all, know that self-love is more important. The more you love yourself, the more others will love you. Before looking for love, start off by working on yourself first.

Try to know yourself better and do not be oblivious about what you need and like because if you cannot love and understand yourself, whatever relationship you jump into in the future will inevitably fail. Self-love is all about self-acceptance.

Once you accept yourself as who you truly are, you will find a way to respect yourself more and it is actually the next step to achieve some kind of self-esteem. If you want to find a partner who can respect and love you, then show them the way.

  1. Going Places

Honestly, there are no specific places for Muslims to find love. It could happen anytime and anywhere. But in order to optimize your opportunities to meet the one, you would date and share the rest of your life with, maybe you should go to places you like and you feel comfortable the most.

For example, if you are a book lover or avid reader, show the best of yourself in your favorite library; if you are a more of the sporty type, show the best of yourself in your favorite gym clubs. Who knows you might find your love there?

There are still many other places you can try such as streets, public transportation, stores, classic places to hang out, and even the internet.

  1. Being Faithful

The most important thing to have faith that with the will of God, you will find the right person to keep your company sooner or later. Keep the Quran as your guide because it will give you the best advice you could ever ask for.

When it comes to a relationship, the Quran teaches values that any male and female Muslim should share respect, purity, courtesy, and sincerity in order to have a proper relationship. You can implement those values in real life and be confident about your choices. However, do not forget to trust your faith to find love.

  1. Believing in Fate

Even if you are already at the age where you are supposed to date or even marry, do not focus on it too much.

Loosen up, live life to the fullest, and be thankful for what you have, and soon, you will find the love of your life. Just as a wise man once said, “Love often comes in an unexpected way.”

  1. Ta’aruf

If you are a highly conservative Muslim, then you should find a partner through the practice of ta'aruf which means that you will end up together with someone without dating.

Ta’aruf usually takes about less than three months and since the family members are deeply involved, then expect advanced progress where you and your potential partner will get married.

If both of the parties reach an agreement to marry, the family members will arrange the wedding as soon as possible. Also, read How is the Relationship After Engagement in Islam?

  1. Dating Sites

Another alternative is to join in dating sites. However, make sure that the site you refer to is the right one. Be selective when you choose a mutual to get to know with because finding a suitable partner who genuinely understands your lifestyle and dating preferences is important for your lasting happiness.

For some Muslims, the idea of dating is a common practice even if it means they need to balance their religious views with their need for emotional or even physical intimacy. Written above are some ways to find love that both conservative and non-conservative Muslims can follow. Hopefully, this article will be useful for you all.

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Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.
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