It's always hard to get over a break up whether it's been three days, three months, or three years, especially when it's true love. True love doesn't just come easily for anyone, so having to let that go can be especially difficult.
However, even when you think it's true love, it might not be for the other person. The Universe might have sent you the wrong soulmate, so just when you thought you would last forever with her, it turns out you were wrong and she never loved you before.
Loving your ex even though it has been 3 years since your break-up is normal especially if you know exactly what you're feeling and you've accepted the fact that it's over. However, it is painful, especially if she's constantly on your mind.
How Do I Get Over Her?
It's been 3 years since the break-up and she's constantly on your mind. If it was really, genuinely true love, then it may be even harder for you to move on. Here are some tips that can make the process easier:
This doesn't mean you should immediately find someone new and date her just for the sake of getting over your ex. Talk to someone about how you're feeling, like your best friend or anyone you're close to. They can help you distract you from constantly thinking about your ex and help you move on.
Contact your siblings or your parents. Call them and ask them to hang out. Simply spending a day with them can get your mind off her, because then you'll remember that there are bigger and more important things than your ex.
Get rid of anything that will remind you of her, like the scent of her favorite candle, or the scent of the shampoo that she usually uses. Creating new memories will help you replace the old ones and can help you forget that those memories of her even ever existed.
Instead of asking whether you'd be a good couple if you got together again, ask yourself if you'd be ready for the relationship. Think about where you might have went wrong and which aspects of yourself that you could've improved.
Like hanging out with your family members or closest friends, find something that will surely distract you from thinking about her. Eventually thoughts of her will go away, and very slowly your feelings of love for her will dissipate.
What's most important in getting over your ex is not letting the past haunt you. The more you let those old memories chase you, the more you're not letting yourself move on. Find someone that can help you move forward. It may be difficult to get back out there and start over a new leaf, but it'll be worth it in the end.