Signs She Is No Longer Interested In You (29 Things to Watch Out For)

by Michelle Devani

Has a woman you were interested in dating suddenly turned cold?

Do you get the feeling she’s no longer interested in you? Perhaps you’re unsure? 

After all, a lot of women like to play silly mind games with the men they’re dating. Maybe she’s playing ‘hard to get’?

Hopefully, this guide makes the situation clearer for you. It features 29 clear-cut signs that women show when they are no longer interested in a man. The more signs a woman shows to you, the more reason you have to suspect it’s over.  

I would also like to start this guide with a bonus tip. It’s somewhat controversial, but it’s also the easiest way to find whether a woman remains interested in you. 

My bonus tip is to download this communications tracker tool.

This tool can connect with a woman’s personal devices and produce a backlog of data regarding her recent communications.

In this database of information, you’ll learn:

  • who she’s calling or texting the most (is there another man on the scene?)
  • what smartphone apps has she downloaded (is she still using dating apps?) 
  • what other contact details has she registered?
  • on what websites has she created an account?   

That’s just the tip of the iceberg too. If there is a particular reason she has turned cold on you, this tool is likely to reveal it.

You only need to know her most basic contact details to get started, and the tool is 100% discreet. That means there’s no way for her to find out she’s being tracked.

It’s a quick and easy tool to use - but if you don’t like this idea - you can use the following list of behavioral clues that this woman doesn’t like you anymore.

29 Signs She Is No Longer Interested In You

A common mistake many of us make is assuming that love is a noun instead of a verb. You see, many men treat love as something to be discovered and bottled away. Unfortunately, when dealing with women, it is not enough to find love. You will need to maintain it, and failure to do this can cost you the woman you love. 

Unlike what you may want to accept, relationships don’t just end, and neither does love just fade. As a woman, I can tell you first-hand that before we choose to walk away from relationships, it first starts from the mind. As such, some signs lead up to the grand heartbreak, and the ability to notice when a woman is slipping away can go a long way in saving relationships. 

Without further ado, here are 29 signs she is no longer interested in you. 

1. Conversations feel exhausting

Communication between a healthy couple should happen naturally. Talking to your partner should feel therapeutic and easy. If you feel the opposite way when talking to your partner, that’s a sign your relationship is on edge. 

So does it feel like you have been the only one initiating conversations lately, and even when you do, you end up feeling exhausted? While you are trying to get across to her, it feels like she is blocking you out. At the start of your relationship, you could hear the excitement in her voice when talking to you. Now, all that energy has been reduced to one-word responses and generic phrases. 

Perhaps, it is time to sit down with your woman and have a heart-to-heart conversation. This will help you two to work through whatever mental block she battles. 

2. She does not respond to your texts and calls promptly

she does not respond to your texts and calls promptly

Similar to holding back on her words, one of the signs she is no longer interested in you is when she stops responding to your texts and calls promptly. This is an evident sign if, in the past, she never misses your phone calls. 

Now, I admit that everyone gets busy now and then. However, if lately, it takes her hours to respond to your text, unlike before when her réponses came within minutes, it means her mind is no longer with you. It is worse if she does not attempt to explain the delayed response, and neither does she call back. 

I understand if you feel hurt and will want to play it cool or perhaps, revenge. Nonetheless, remember that this will only aggravate things, so you should talk it out with her. 

3. She no longer complains about the things you do

There is a common saying that the opposite of love is not hate, but it is indifference, and I can’t agree anymore. You see, when a woman loves you, she is more enduring and nurturing. She does not see your imperfections as a reason to end the relationship, so even when you do not meet her expectations, she will encourage you to be a better man. 

Unfortunately, these encouragements come in the form of complaints. She might voice out her disappointments to let you know how unhappy she is with something you are doing, and that’s because she wants you to stop it or change so that your relationship can flourish. 

In a situation where she is no longer interested in you, these complaints will cease. It means she does not care about the relationship, so you might as well do whatever you like. 

4. She forgets important details about you

Memories are an essential part of a relationship. When times are rough, memories remind us of our relationship’s beauty and motivate us to work things out. If you have been with your girlfriend for a while, surely you must have created memories, and her inability to remember these special moments with you is one of the signs she is no longer interested in you. 

Girls are great at remembering important past events that they care about. So if she is unable to recollect some memories, it’s a problem. Additionally, a girl who no longer fancies you will slowly mistake other important information about you. For instance, if you had told her you would be going on a trip, she won’t remember the dates of departure and return. While this may not be intentional, it could be because your presence makes no difference to her. 

5. She no longer tries to impress you

At the start of relationships, both parties are usually at an undiscussed competition to impress each other. While the girl tries to look her best, the guy tries to be the best gentleman she will ever meet. 

As the relationship blossoms, this charade graduates beyond making yourself look good into wanting to see your partner happy. If you like red lipstick, your girlfriend will wear this color more often simply because she likes how excited it gets you. However, if she is no longer interested in you, she wouldn’t bother doing this or any other thing solely to impress. 

Likewise with surprises, when she is in love, she will put in efforts to surprise you, but when she is no longer interested, all these will be things of the past. 

6. She avoids eye contact with you

They say the eyes are windows to the soul, and it is through them, you can attempt to read a person’s mind. There is some truth to this because many people who are out of love struggle to maintain eye contact. Perhaps it is guilt over not being in love or because they have done something wrong. Either way, one of the signs she is no longer interested in you is when she is unable to maintain eye contact. 

7. She doesn’t get jealous anymore

Girls naturally get jealous if they sense that someone they like is giving another girl attention. A girl who loves you will want you to focus solely on her. So if she sees you flirting with someone else, it can stir up jealousy and anger, which will, in turn, lead to an argument. However, one of the signs she is no longer in love is if she no longer gets jealous when you flirt with other girls. 

After seeing her guy with another girl, a girl’s lack of jealousy is a sign of indifference, which is a cause for concern. Remember, indifference is the opposite of love because, at that point, a person has no feelings whatsoever towards the other - be it good or bad. 

8. She avoids spending alone time with you

There are many ways that a woman’s refusal to spend alone time with you can be interpreted. On the one hand, it could mean that she views you as home and boring, so she will prefer the presence of other people to keep things exciting. 

On the other hand, it is because you are no longer a person of interest. She considers your presence a bore and perhaps, intolerable, so the only way she copes while being around you is when other people are present. These people serve as a buffer between you and her, thereby limiting the chances of emotional intimacy. 

9. She’s happier away from you

When you are in a relationship with someone you love, it is almost impossible not to feel happy around that person, not to think of being happier when you are away from them. When a girl is happier away from you, it is one of the signs that she has lost her interest in you. You are no longer a source of joy to her as you were in the past. 

A primary cause of this feeling is pent-up resentment, which happens when a couple refuses to talk about issues. The resentment piles up to a point where they start to associate their partner with negative energy. In this case, you should have a conversation with your partner regarding ways to make her happier. 

10. She hesitates when it comes to commitment

Commitment is a significant step in any adult relationship, and this can be at any stage. Whether it is committing to date or marriage, either way, it shows that you and your partner have a common goal. Therefore if a woman you like hesitates to commit, it means you no longer interest her. 

Many girls yearn for commitment, especially when it comes to marriage. Therefore, it seems utterly suspicious that a girl will refuse to commit to someone she likes. Perhaps, she has many options and does not believe you are her best one yet. 

11. She’s easily irritated by you

she's easily irritated by you

When a lady is at a stage where she is easily irritated by you, it means she has had enough from the relationship, and she is over you. She does not want to see you or hear from you, and everything you do irritates her - including breathing sometimes. 

It almost feels like you have lost your magic touch after a spell has been cast because suddenly, the things she would usually ignore are now considered big deals. Furthermore, there is the unwillingness to compromise because, you see, she cares less about the relationship; therefore, preserving it is not a priority to her. 

12. There is a change in her body language

Body language is a non-verbal way of communicating where actions and behavior are used to interpret emotions instead of words. These behaviors transcend from facial expressions to eye movement and posture. 

A woman who is losing interest in you will unconsciously demonstrate specific body languages that give off her state of mind emotionally. For instance, if she is someone who stands typically close to you with her hands by her side when talking to you, but suddenly, she no longer acts that way. Instead, she now folds her arms when talking. 

While there is a possibility that this is a mere change in body position, when it is now the new regular, you may have to agree with psychology by viewing it as one of the signs that she is over you emotionally. 

13. She doesn’t want to be around your friends and family

When girls love you, particularly if they are interested in being in a committed relationship with you, they are usually happy to meet your friends and family. They find it a resourceful way to know their partner better, so any opportunity to be around your friends and family is considered a privilege. 

However, when you no longer interest her, she will start to view meeting your friends and family as stressful. So pay attention to your partner is suddenly avoiding family events and gatherings where your friends will be present. 

She will not want to be around your inner circle because she knows it is a lot easier for them to detect when things are off in a relationship, and she isn’t ready to tell you or let you know. Perhaps, she needs more time to weigh her feelings. 

14. There is a decline in how often she says, ‘I love you.’

With a woman who is in love and takes an interest in you, saying ‘I love you’. However, when love is lost, those three words start to seem heavy and unpleasant. She will avoid saying them because, on the one hand, it is a lie, and on the other hand, she is still battling with her emotions. 

Anyone who understands the importance of those words and the message it conveys will feel guilty dishing out empty words they do not mean, and this is why you will notice a difference in how often a woman who has no interest in you will say, ‘I love you’. 

15. She stops noticing your physical changes

The early signs that a woman is no longer interested in you start from the mind. Her thoughts are distracted and scattered for the most part, and things about you begin to elude her, as important information about you and changes to your physical appearance. 

For instance, ask yourself when was the last time she drew attention to your physical looks. Did she notice that you now trim your hair or beards differently? Does she still compliment you like before? If the answer is no to all these questions, then there is a high chance she has lost interest in you. 

16. She compares you to other guys

They say comparison is a thief of joy but what happens when you are unsure of the motive behind the comparison. When a woman openly compares her man to his hearing, there are usually two things she is trying to achieve. First, she wants him to do better and wishes he could be a different person to fit her ideal guy’s image. On the other hand, she is pointing to him the reasons why she no longer likes him. 

This is not a completely bad indication that a woman no longer finds you interesting because, unlike other signs, this one points to you areas about you that do not bring her joy. So if the basis of her comparisons are things you can change, you stand a chance to win back your lady’s heart. 

17. She constantly cancels plans

Admittedly, everyone gets busy now and you have to cancel plans. This is a scenario that happens, and it’s alright. However, if canceling dates and plans is becoming a habit your partner has adopted, it is an indication that she is no longer interested in you. 

You see, when a girl has no interest in a man, she has no problem rescheduling date plans or canceling at the last minute. Her feelings for you are numb, so she does not care much if her cancellation upsets you or not. 

18. She introduces you as a friend

According to Steve Harvey’s think like a man, act like a woman book, the way a person introduces you goes a long way to explain how they view you in their life. I find this to be particularly true when introducing a person to your inner circle. 

When it comes to strangers or acquaintances, you do not owe them the truth, and neither do you have to be honest about who your partner is to you. Therefore in this situation, it is okay if she introduces you as a friend. However, if she introduces you as a friend to her inner circle, then it means that’s all she sees you as - a friend with no interest in taking it further. 

19. She does not introduce you to her inner circle

Similar to introducing you as a friend to her inner circle, a girl who is no longer is when she does not introduce you to anyone in her inner circle.

A common reason for this can be because she believes your relationship is a temporary thing in her life. As such, she does not want to introduce you to those that matter the most. 

20. She has dating apps on her phone

Dating apps are an excellent way for single people to mingle but remember; the keyword is ‘single’. Therefore, it is expected that upon getting into a relationship, you should have no use for the app and delete it. Maintaining the app is some sort of indication that you are not fully committed, and you’re still searching for more. 

If your partner who did not have a dating app in the past decides to own a dating app, it is a clear-cut hint that she is no longer interested in you. It means she wants more from a man than what you are giving her. 

21. She does not include you in her future plans

An easy way to know if someone wants to have you in their life for a long time is by listening to how they construct their sentences and choice of words. Notice how people who are in love use terms like ‘we’ and ‘us’. Furthermore, they include each other in their future plans. 

Girls are generally planners, so it is pretty unusual to find a girl who does not imagine a future with her boyfriend. This is why a critical sign that she is losing interest in her lack of zeal to you in her future plans. 

22. She is happy to spend time away from you

Two individuals in love are some of the toughest people to keep apart. It’s like a magnetic connection between them because they always feel the need to be together at all times. For a more realistic picture, think back to the start of your relationship and how it felt like you could not get enough of each other. You were happiest when you were together. 

Unfortunately, a sign that you no longer interest your partner is if she prefers spending time with anyone but you. She no longer minds if you are busy all week and weekend. Your presence no longer excites her. 

23. She stops putting effort into her appearance

Girls know that the first thing a guy notices about them is their physical appearance, beauty, hair, and outfit. This is why they put in effort into looking good for a guy they like. 

A girl who does not care about a guy will not care about his opinions; she does not see the need to look good. One way to know if she has lost interest in you is by observing her appearance. Does she still put effort into her appearance to impress you? If not, it means she thinks less of you as a romantic partner and more as a friend or roommate if you live together. 

24. Her visits become rare

From daily visits to weekly and now monthly. When a girl is no longer interested in you, that’s how she starts to distance herself from you. Your presence is no longer a source of joy or peace to her, and she is probably getting that from somewhere else.m so spending time with you is like a waste of time. 

It can be difficult maintaining a relationship Iike this because physical connection matters. Still, if she is now calling somewhere else home and it is not where you are, it means your girl’s heart is no longer with you. You will need to sit and talk things out with her to ascertain the future of your relationship. 

25. She avoids physical contact

she avoids physical contact

Physical contact allows couples to bond and strengthens their love for each other. This is why a hug from your loved one can instantly brighten up a gloomy day. If your partner is avoiding physical contact with you, such as kissing, hugs, and sex, it means her mind is no longer with you. 

Similarly, she might start to brush your hand off whenever you attempt holding her hand in public. She does not want to be seen with you, and neither does she feel the need to do these things. They now feel like a burden to her instead of comforting as they used to be. 

26. She disrespects you

Disrespect is one of the common problems couples face when they are drifting apart. This manifests itself in many ways, from flirting, hurling hurtful words, and sometimes full-blown cheating. When disrespect is not curbed in a relationship, it is easy for things to become toxic and abusive. 

A girl who no longer cares can begin to show signs of disrespect. For instance, she could choose to flirt with the waiter even when she knows how that makes you feel. Your feelings are secondary to her. While it is okay if you want to stay and make your relationship work, remember that it can also be a toxic situation that can potentially leave you emotionally scarred. 

27. She stops updating you about what’s happening in her life

Are you up to date with what’s going on in her life? Are you still the first person she calls when having a bad day? Are you still the only one she wants to share the good news with when she is happy? If your answer is no to these questions, then this is a sign that she is no longer interested in you. 

Communication is not limited to talking about your emotions or feelings. It also involves discussing your insecurities and happy moments. It is easier to be vulnerable with people you are comfortable with, so her withdrawal could indicate that you are no longer her haven. 

28. Every conversation is a potential conflict in waiting

It is no fun having to walk on eggshells around someone you love, but this sometimes happens when one partner is losing interest in the relationship. It suddenly feels like she is looking for ways to pick a fight with you. 

It is unnerving and stressful having to choose your words wisely because there are a million ways your partner can twist a single conversation to be misinterpreted and turned into a fight. 

If you notice this, perhaps it is time to ask your partner if she still wants to remain in the relationship or not instead of messing with your emotions, as this is one of the signs that she has mentally and emotionally checked out of the relationship. 

29. She stops explaining herself

The present generation loves to ride on the notion that you do not owe anyone an explanation for your decisions. Although this is not a wrong train of thought, it is not entirely true either. 

In the whole scheme of things, we all owe those we love to explain the things that concern them. For instance, if you miss a call or have to cancel a date, the reasonable thing to do is to apologize and explain why things happened the way they did. 

One of the signs that a girl is losing interest in you is when she stops explaining herself. It signifies that she no longer considers you worthy of an explanation even when she makes a mistake. 

FAQs

How can you tell if a girl is no longer interested in you?

When a girl is no longer interested in you, it starts to manifest from the little things. For instance, she forgets important details and special moments you shared in the past, becomes disrespectful, and stops doing things to impress you. 

What to do if she is not interested in me?

There are several reasons why a girl may not be interested in being in you. It could be because she is already in a relationship or she wants to be alone. Regardless, the first step to deal with such a rejection is to know why she is not interested. This will guide you to know if to let go or try approaching her from another angle, perhaps, as friends. 

How do you know if a girl is losing interest in text? 

One of the problems with communicating via text messages is the inability to decipher a person’s intentions fully. Either way, you can know a girl is losing interest in text from her responses. For instance, if she takes a long time to respond to your messages and when she does, it’s with one word. 

What are signs of fake love?

Fake love can sometimes be hard to pick out, but the common signs include when a person tries to be controlling and manipulative, they are unwilling to compromise and can easily give up on you. With fake love, you will always be unsure of your place in their life. 

How do you make a girl miss you?

The best way to make a girl miss you is by making the most of your time together. First, don’t talk too much about yourself - be a little mysterious. Don’t act desperate by bombarding her phone with text messages and calls. Instead, give her the room to miss you by spending some time apart. 

In Conclusion

As humans, we are emotional beings, and so are our emotions. One minute we are in love, and the next minute we are not. I understand that it can sometimes feel unfair to watch your partner lose interest. However, it is still possible to save your relationship if you can spot the signs early. 

I hope you enjoyed going through this list and found the tips helpful. As usual, don’t forget to drop your thoughts in the comment section and share this post. 

Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.

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