21 True Signs of a Fake Girlfriend (And What to Do About It)

Last updated on April 14, 2024 by Michelle Devani

Are you wondering whether your girlfriend is the real deal? The type of woman who you can build a life with?

Maybe your friends and family are telling you to stay away from this woman. 

Perhaps you’re inexperienced in relationships with women and you have no idea whether she’s behaving like a genuine girlfriend or not? 

Either way, do make sure to read on. I have compiled a list of 21 signs that the special woman in your life is nothing more than a fake girlfriend.

But I want to start this article by making a bold prediction. If this woman is treating you badly in your relationship, I bet it’s because you were chasing her too hard during the courtship phase. 

I see it all the time. 

Guys chasing women way too hard and ruining their chances of enjoying a stable and balanced relationship as a result of doing that…

In most cases, the woman will lose all interest in a man who does this. 

However, occasionally, she’ll agree to a relationship with him, only to treat him like dirt. Because she knows she has all the power in this relationship. 

I hate to see it. That’s why I want to share this intelligent guide on the art of ‘Stealth Seduction’ with you. This guide explains why it’s important not to come on too strong when flirting with women. More importantly, it reveals a more effective strategy for winning their hearts. 

The end result is that more women will be excited to date you. And it’s more likely to blossom into a healthy balanced relationship. So, give it a read and be ready to enjoy more abundance in your romantic relationships.

With that said, let’s check out our list of ‘fake girlfriend’ giveaway signs...


21 True Signs of a Fake Girlfriend

Are you in a relationship that makes you question everything? If you are looking for the signs of a fake girlfriend, you might already be in a fake love relationship. In fake relationships, we often waste precious time, energy, and even money on the wrong person. It’s a smart idea to find someone that you can share genuine love with - someone who will appreciate who you are!

You might also see signs of fake love as being in a relationship with someone who doesn’t exist. Often, people say that they are in a relationship, but it is not a real relationship. It is all fiction. If you see the signs of fake love in your life, you should back up and look at finding someone real. Make sure you don’t spend a lot of time and effort on a bad relationship!

In this article, we are going to look at the signs of fake love so that you will know what to look out for and what to do if you are not in an authentic relationship. Don’t spend time with someone who is making you walk on eggshells when you are supposed to be having a good time! Relationships shouldn’t be that much work! True love is worth waiting for!

1. She is emotionally distant

Someone who has an emotional detachment to their partner or continuously acts indifferent to everything you do is not the best partner to be with. When a person is emotionally distant, they do not share their thoughts and feelings freely. You might find the relationship to be very empty and draining. Consider leaving the girlfriend. 

2. She avoids conflict

Conflict demands feelings and emotions in most cases. If your partner has decided to avoid this, they might not be very invested in your relationship. It might be a smart idea to talk to them about the things that are bothering you; be open and honest about what is wrong in the relationship so that they can better understand the problems.

3. She doesn’t attempt to reach you outside of dates

Does your girlfriend text and call you all of the time? Does she talk to you about anything other than your plans? Does she seem genuine? Does she care about what you have to say and what is going on in your world? If you can honestly say that she does not seem to do those things, you may have a fake love relationship on your hands.

4. There is no romance

there is no romance

Romance can take you on an emotional rollercoaster. You will feel great when you are with your partner because they do everything in their power to make you feel romanced. They might cook you a romantic candlelit dinner or take you on a romantic date somewhere with beautiful scenery. You might even be swept off your feet!

5. She doesn’t like to talk when the two of you are together

How much does your girlfriend really share with you when you are together? If she is non-communicative, you may have fake love on your hands. There are infinite things one person can say to another, even if the two of them have been married for a million years! If she can’t talk to you, something is wrong with this girl!

6. There is no compromise

Compromise is the cornerstone of any relationship. This means that if you love iHop and she prefers Denny’s, the two of you eat at both places on occasion. You don’t just give in to her every time a decision comes along, and vice versa. You want to be in an equal partnership where you both get your way from time to time!

7. She is never curious about how you are doing

Do you think your girlfriend actually cares about your well-being? How does she act when you’ve had a bad day at the office? If you don’t have anyone to vent with, you may feel a bit lonely from time to time. It’s important to have a special someone in your life, a best friend who you can share everything with. 

8. She avoids discussing the future

Do the two of you talk about the future? Do you make vacation plans and think about marriage and children? If you never talk about where your relationship is headed, you may be in fake love. It doesn’t seem like things are real, does it?

9. She is very aloof about everything

If your girlfriend is very withdrawn when it comes to nearly everything, you may be in fake love. Things just aren’t real if she doesn’t have an opinion about anything. She has to care one way or another about something, right? Think about it. You don’t just walk around with empty heads, do you? 

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10. She makes you feel uncomfortable

she makes you feel uncomfortable

You should never feel uncomfortable around the person you are in love with. You should instead feel like being yourself the most around this person. How does she make you feel? Do you act like yourself around your girlfriend? 

11. She is indifferent to everything

Being indifferent means that she doesn’t care or have an opinion about anything. Perhaps, she does have opinions but doesn’t like sharing them with you. If that’s the case, you might need to reevaluate things and think about whether she is right for you or not. Compare her to previous girlfriends to determine if things seem normal or not.

12. You do not feel like you can talk about yourself

Are you afraid to be yourself with your girlfriend? Are you able to talk about childhood stories and let your guard down? If not, what do you think is wrong? Often, we cannot be ourselves around someone because we fear what they will do or say about us. Determine why you are feeling this way around her to figure out what to do next.

13. Neither of you makes sacrifices for the relationship

Are you willing to do things that you should do for your girlfriend? Can you honestly say that you are willing to sacrifice time and money for this girl? If you don’t think that she is worth it, why are you with her? Think about what is best for you. Think about what changes you need to make in your life to balance it out.

14. You can’t be vulnerable with her

Vulnerability means that you can be yourself and bear your soul with another person. It is pretty normal to talk about your day with your partner, but if you cannot share the feelings and emotions that affect you the most, you are probably in fake love. You might want to consider looking for true love, where your partner makes you comfortable.

You want to be with a person who makes you feel great and allows you the chance to open up and be yourself. If you feel blocked emotionally, there is something wrong in the relationship. If you are worried about smiling, laughing, crying, or being yourself around your girlfriend, there is a problem. Don’t feel closed off.

Think about why you cannot bear yourself around your girlfriend, too, to make sure that you are not having some sort of emotional crisis. If you don’t feel like you can be yourself around anyone, you might want to seek therapy to find out why you are so closed off. A counselor can help you open up to others to best reveal who you really are.

15. She doesn’t care about your day

When you talk about the ups and downs of your day, does she allow you to talk? Does she ask follow-up questions and truly listen? If she doesn't actively listen to what you have to say, she probably doesn't care very much. This isn’t a good sign for your relationship. Consider finding true love, because it is out there; you just need out now.

16. You don’t introduce her to family and friends

If you are embarrassed or indifferent to introducing your girlfriend to your friends and family, there may be a problem. You might need to end the relationship if you have realized that the two of you are not a winning pair. Why won’t you show her off? What makes you shy about doing that? There should be nothing in the way!!

17. You don’t have positive feelings about the relationship

you don't have positive feelings about the relationship

When you think of your girlfriend, do you get positive or negative feelings in the pit of your stomach? If you get negative feelings, that isn’t a good sign. You should think about what is bothering you and consider ending things. The relationship is clearly not going well!

18. You cannot be yourself around her

It’s important that you be with someone who you can let your guard down around. Consider talking to your girlfriend about personal issues that make you uncomfortable. See what she does. If she listens intently to what you have to say, you might have some hope for this relationship.

19. You do not see a future with her

Do you seriously see her as a wife with your children one day? Often, men get stuck in marriages they don’t want to be in because children come along unexpectedly. You don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t make you happy for the rest of your life. If you doubt the future of your relationship, it may be time to get out and move on.

20. Your friends and family question the relationship

What does your support system think about your girlfriend? Do they think that she is right for you? What do they think about your relationship? Do they question whether it is real or not? It’s important to listen to the opinions of those you trust and look up to for advice because they only want what is best for you.

21. You just know that something is not working

If you know that things are not okay, you pretty much have figured out the answer to your own questions. Consider ending the relationship and finding someone who will treat you right or someone who you feel more comfortable around. 

What You Should Do with Fake Ones

Realize the truth

Sometimes, we just have to be honest with ourselves. Either the relationship works, or it doesn’t. If you’ve seen the red flags that you are in a fake relationship, it’s time to think about the time, energy, and money you are wasting on the person that is not meant to be your life partner. Are you in a real relationship? Do you see love, romance, and respect? Are you treated right?

If you can’t honestly answer yes to those questions, you are probably not facing the facts. She isn’t interested in being in a relationship with you. The signs are clear; you just need to realize the truth and do something about it. It’s time to face the facts. You aren’t being fair to yourself and possibly not to her by staying in a relationship you aren’t interested in. 

Leave the relationship

leave the relationship

It’s never fun to go through a breakup; people get hurt, and it can be sad to say goodbye to memories you have shared with someone, but you cannot ignore the signs. There is a big difference between staying friends with a nice person and being in love with them. If you just see her as a friend with no romantic future, you should definitely get out of the relationship.

It is true that you may get a little nug on your heart as you make this decision, but it is possible to get out of a bad relationship and find true love. Think about the end goals that you want for your life and focus on them. You don’t want to stay in a relationship where you get no love or respect, do you? Break up with your girlfriend and focus on what truly matters to you.

Consider going to counseling

If you want to stay in the relationship even though you know it is not true love, you should consider going to counseling or therapy. Many counselors specialize in couples or relationships. They can help you assess why you think this relationship would work when clearly, the two of you were not meant for one another. This way, you won’t repeat any unhealthy patterns.

Wait for true love

Think about what you really want out of life. Do you want to be with someone who is fake, or would you like to find your true love? You probably said you want to find your true love. However, how can you find true love if you are with someone else? Most girls aren’t going to be interested in a guy with a girlfriend! If you are taken, you are off the market.

If you want true love, you should think about your interest in your current girlfriend and leave that relationship altogether. Sometimes, we just have to realize that we’ve made a mistake in our love lives and reverse a decision by ending the relationship we are in. Breakups are tough; there is no doubt about that, but being single will clarify what you really want out of life. 

You do want to be with someone who will treat you right, correct? If that is the case, you should consider making a list of what true love looks like for you. Look at the difference between that list and the characteristics of the relationship you are currently in! There is probably a huge difference! Think of how great your life could be if you found true love and dump your girlfriend!


How can you tell if a girl is faking it?

A girl who is faking a relationship may pretend to be someone she is not. A girl who is faking an orgasm might make sounds that resemble moaning or yelling in an attempt to make you think that she is having an orgasm so that you will finish making love to her.

What are the signs of a fake relationship?

If you cannot be yourself with your partner or feel like you cannot let your guard down, you may be in a fake relationship. Maybe it would be wise to read the signs of a fake relationship and try to avoid one or end the one you are in right now.

How do you know if a girl is pretending to love you?

This is a tough question to answer because everyone is different. Usually, if someone is pretending to love you, they will make you feel great and may use you in some way - for sex, money, status, or whatever. A partner making you dinner out of the blue might mean they want something out of you.

How do you know if you’re a bad GF?

If your partner is not happy, there is something wrong with the relationship. Real relationships have ups and downs, but an authentic relationship sparks feelings of joy in you. Ask your partner if they believe the relationship will work or not. That way, you’ll know where you stand.

What's a fake girlfriend?

Usually, when you talk about fake love, you are meaning a person that does not exist. In a fake love relationship, one person is talking about another person who does not exist. A shallow person who gives you no joy might also be considered fake because they are unreal with their feelings.

To Sum It All Up

Are you in a fake love relationship? What does fake love mean to you? If you are in a fake love relationship, I suggest you get out and make a relationship work with a real person. If you see a telltale sign that you are in a fake relationship, move on!

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Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.

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