39 Undeniable Signs You Don’t Want to Be With Your Girlfriend Anymore

by Michelle Devani

Are you wondering whether it’s time to break up with your girlfriend?

This can be a difficult question to answer for yourself. After all, perhaps you’ve heard that relationships are supposed to be difficult sometimes. 

Maybe you’re worried about throwing away a relationship which could be improved and made truly great?

It’s a dilemma that most men will face at some point or another, and that’s why I decided to create this guide. It features 39 signs that it’s time to end your relationship. 

One of the biggest reasons to end it with your girlfriend is a lack of trust. Perhaps you worry about her texting or spending time with other guys? At the same time, maybe you have no evidence of her doing anything wrong?

That’s why I want to recommend this online communications tracker tool.

This intelligent tool can connect with your girlfriend’s personal devices and reveal a ton of data about her communications history. 

You’ll find out who she’s been texting and calling most (hopefully you), what apps she’s using (hopefully not Tinder or any other dating apps). 

The tool will also show what online services she’s signed up to and whether she’s registered any secret contact details.  

Put simply, this tool will reveal whether you were right to be doubtful about her behavior when you’re not around. What’s more, it’s 100% discreet, so there is no chance of her finding out she’s being tracked.

Don’t have trust problems? That’s great, but it doesn’t necessarily mean you should stay together. Read on for my list of signs that it’s time to break up with your girlfriend.

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Signs You Don’t Want To Be With Your Girlfriend

If you don’t want to be with your girlfriend anymore, what signs are pointing you to end the relationship? Are you missing that loving feeling? Do you think you’d be better off as friends? What signs tell you this is true?

Being in a relationship is tough work, especially if you love the person but don’t have that loving feeling anymore. It’s very possible to be in a relationship with the feeling of love but where you don’t like your girlfriend anymore. It’s important to like your girl, though. Love isn’t always enough to make a man happy!

In this article, we’ll talk to men who are unsure about the girl they are in a relationship with. Maybe the man has a feeling that he should end the relationship but doesn’t know for sure. Perhaps the signs are unclear at this point. Many men won’t end a relationship on a hunch, especially if they’ve been in the relationship for over a year.

We’ll clear everything up in this article as we explore the signs to look out for, the signs that love is not enough anymore, and the signs that you need to get out of the relationship.

1. You don’t make your relationship a priority

you don't make your relationship priority

You know you should put more effort into your relationship, but you just don’t care anymore. Maybe you should surprise her with flowers on her birthday, but you just want out of the relationship because the signs show that she is making you miserable. If you are a man in a relationship like that, the sign is pointing toward a breakup.

You shouldn’t be with anyone who makes you unhappy. Men who are people pleasers tend to stay in a relationship even if there is a reason they should leave. This doesn’t make these men bad at love; they just want everyone around them to be happy. If you are a guy like this, you should think about what makes you truly happy and full of joy.

It may be smart to find a relationship that is full of love and joy. If you don’t feel like your relationship is a priority anymore, you may not be in love anymore with this person. This means you should end the relationship and find someone who will love you in the way you deserve!

2. You know that she’s making your life worse

Are you getting more bad than good in the relationship? Do you feel like the relationship is sucking the life out of you? This is a surefire sign that you need to end the relationship and find one that will fulfill your life completely. 

You don’t deserve to be in a relationship that has more bad than good. Consider moving on because you have a clear sign that you need to.

3. You don’t care if she ends the relationship

Do you pick fights with your girlfriend in the hopes that she will end the relationship so that you don’t have to? If you are giving her sign after sign that you don’t want to be in the relationship, it’s clear that you need to move on. You are unhappy with this love interest and have ample reason to end the relationship.

4. You really only stay together in the relationship because of the kids

Often, a guy will stay in the relationship if kids are involved. A man who cherishes his children and puts them first is admirable, but you shouldn’t be in a relationship just because you don’t want to disappoint your kids. Think about your happiness, too!

5. You love flirting with other girls

If you are a flirty guy, you may not need to be in a relationship at all. You might enjoy playing the field more and staying single. If you get your thrills out of flirting with other girls, that’s a sign that it’s time to get out of a serious relationship. What would your girlfriend think if she knew about this? No guy should feel trapped in a relationship.

6. You feel completely disconnected from your girlfriend

Do you think the two of you are just on different pages? Do you think your relationship is just doomed because you have no connection anymore? Do you long for the days when you’d have butterflies in your stomach from falling in love with a girl? What is your relationship like now? Do you talk about the important things in life?

Ask yourself these questions as you work to discover if you should end the relationship or keep things going. You may be better off alone if there is no longer a connection. Consider doing some soul-searching to determine if the two of you are just temporarily disconnected or permanently lost from one another. 

It may be helpful to talk to a trained therapist or counselor about this to determine what really makes you happy. If you aren’t getting happiness out of your relationship, there is a problem going on.

7. You know that she is way too high maintenance

What does high maintenance really mean? First of all, a high-maintenance person is typically full of drama. They might get mad over the littlest thing. For example, maybe you said something pretty innocent, but they took it as a personal attack. This kind of behavior isn’t healthy and will just cause constant drama in the relationship.

Second, a high-maintenance person can be very emotional. Maybe they throw things across the room when they are upset over something instead of calmly talking it out. If this sounds like the person you are in a relationship with, you may be with someone who is very high-maintenance. This isn’t a great way to live on a day-to-day basis.

Finally, high-maintenance people tend to be very clingy and needy. They need lots of attention, and if they don’t get enough, they will lash out. Perhaps, they will stay mad at you for long periods of time because they didn’t get their way or you didn’t give them adequate attention, even if, in reality, you gave them plenty.

8. You have feelings for someone else

If you’ve developed romantic feelings for someone else, it may be time to call it quits. You are probably thinking about this other gal much more than you think about your girlfriend. That’s not a great sign. 

Think about what matters the most to you, and focus on that. It may be helpful to talk to your friends or family about what you’re going through.

10. You know that the idea of a commitment with her scares you

Sure, one day you want to get married, but you would never have thought that she’d be the candidate you’d choose. If that is how you feel, it’s time to get out of this relationship and find someone you can build a future with. Think about your long-term goals and how you plan to meet them with the people in your life.

11. You prefer to spend time with your friends and family over her

you prefer to spend time with your friends and family over her

If you put others first, you don’t really think about your partner much. She isn’t much of a priority to you. You’d rather spend your time with people who make you happy rather than your partner with whom you don’t really get along. Consider talking to your friends and family members about this struggle to get to the bottom of it.

12. You want to or already are cheating on her with someone else

If you’re sleeping with someone who isn’t your partner, you may have already made a decision. It’s time to break up with your girlfriend and be with this other person. You clearly find her more sexually appealing, so dump the girl and be with the one you are already devoting yourself to.

13. You know you are not in love with her

If you know that love is not in the equation, you should really consider evacuating and finding a relationship where it is there. There’s no reason to be with someone you kind of like but don’t have real feelings of love for. Now, if you just started a relationship with someone, you might want to give it a bit of time to let love blossom. Don’t rush it!

14. You are only staying together because you don’t want a sunk cost

A sunk cost occurs when you invest time or money in something or someone, and you cannot get your investment back. This might be relevant if you feel like you’ve spent a lot of time with your gal and just want to make it work for the sake of working. Maybe you think, “I invested time and money in this relationship, so I’m sticking!”

Sunk costs are difficult to let go of, but you need to realize that mistakes are learning opportunities, not errors. Things have passed, and it’s important to invest your future in someone you actually like and look forward to having a future with. It’s a shame you spend time and money on the wrong person, but it happened. Time to move on!

15. You prefer being alone to spending time with your girlfriend

Many people enjoy their alone time. This isn’t uncommon, but it is unusual to be in a relationship with someone you don’t enjoy being with. If you feel that way, you should consider ending the relationship so that you can find someone who excites you and makes you happy, someone you long to spend time with. 

16. You don’t feel like you can share things with her anymore

If you are hiding your true worries, concerns, thoughts, and emotions from your girl, it may be time to part ways. You don’t want to be in a relationship where you can’t be yourself. Instead, either find a way to be yourself with your girlfriend or end things and find a person that you are more comfortable with.

17. You don’t care if you meet her needs or not

Have you just lost the desire to make her happy anymore? Maybe you believe she is better off alone, or you just don’t care if she is happy or not. If you feel this way, you may need to think about how you feel for her in general. Do you really love her if you don’t care about her needs and wants? It may be time to call it quits if you don’t.

18. You don’t really think about your girlfriend when you aren’t together

Isn’t it joyous to daydream about an individual? You think about what they are doing right now and what the two of you would be doing together if things were different. You long to see them, hear their voice, or tell them about your day. Thinking about someone when they aren’t around is important. If you don’t give your girlfriend a thought, end things.

19. You know your relationship is not healthy

You already know that your relationship is dysfunctional or abusive. That’s never a good sign. If there is abuse going on, emotional, physical, or mental, you need to get out of there. No girl is worth that!!

20. You don’t smile or laugh with your girlfriend

you don't smile or laugh with your girlfriend

Are you bored with your gal? Does she just make you want to puke? Are you unhappy in the relationship? You should be with someone who makes your day brighter, someone who makes you feel better about yourself. If you don’t smile and laugh with her, there may be something wrong with the relationship. Consider moving on!

21. You two have stopped having sex, and you don’t care

A sexless relationship isn’t normal, so if you have accepted it as being okay, something’s wrong. You probably are not very happy with the person you are having a romantic relationship with if there is no sex. Spice things up, or find a partner who excites you!

22. You don’t feel comfortable around her anymore

Have you just stopped communicating about anything real? Do you feel uncomfortable being open and honest about what you feel or think? You should be able to be yourself with this girl. You don’t want to be in a relationship where you are walking on eggshells. It may be time to let this fish back in the ocean and find someone new.

23. Your friends and family don’t support your relationship

Maybe they aren’t supportive because they see how unhappy you are. Maybe they realize that she just isn’t “the one” for you. No matter what the reason is, they surely have your best interests in mind as they have made this decision. It might be smart to hear them out and figure out what their problem is. It could be an important one!

24. You are only with her because you don’t want the hassle of a breakup

While breakups can be messy, it’s never a good idea to stay with someone just because you don’t want to go through the mess. We all have been in those shoes and know what it feels like to have our hearts broken. It sucks! However, it’s better to do it now than it is to wait until later on to do it. The longer you wait, the harder it will be to do it, too!

You’ll likely lose your nerve and stay in the relationship for much longer than you should. You might even end up marrying this girl, someone you don’t even really seem to like. That would be a shame! It’d be very sad to spend the rest of your life with someone you don’t appreciate, love, respect, or value.

25. You are completely unhappy

If you have now realized that she makes you completely unhappy, it’s time to end things. Think about what is important in life. While a breakup can be hard and no fun, you should go ahead and rip off the band-aid now rather than waiting until later. You deserve happiness, so go out there and find a person who makes you smile!

26. You won’t introduce her to your friends or family

If your girlfriend isn’t someone you feel confident bringing home to meet the crew, you don’t really want to be with her. If you wanted to be with her, you’d be shouting all about your relationship from the rooftops! You wouldn’t be hiding her away for a rainy day. Also, if you don’t want her to meet the fam, she isn’t the one for you! 

She may be good in bed or fun to hang out with, but you aren’t serious about her if you can’t take her home. Think about what you really want for your future. Do you want to get married one day to the girl of your dreams? What are you doing today to pursue that goal? Do you think it’s smart to be with this gal if you don’t think she’s right for you?

27. You aren’t putting any effort into the relationship

If you’ve “checked out” and are not putting any effort into the relationship, you clearly don’t want to be in it. If you did want to be with her, you’d be looking for means to make her happy! You’d want to brighten her days and make her smile every chance you got! Why be in a relationship that you are not committed to?

If you can’t put your “all” into the relationship, get out of it! The only time I would suggest otherwise would be when you are just looking for a fun, casual relationship - one that you didn’t have to put forth any effort to make work. Make sure you are both on the same page, though. The fun would end if she was thinking you two were serious!

28. You know the two of you are not meant to be

If you know there’s no future, what are you doing? Consider what you would tell yourself if you could give yourself some advice in this situation. You would probably kick yourself in the head for wasting time with someone who isn’t right for you. Stop wasting time and get right!

29. You believe she is clingy and desperate

you believe she is clingy and desperate

If you think this about your girlfriend, you clearly don’t respect her. How could you respect someone who behaved that way? It’d be a better idea to be with a girl who challenged you, someone intelligent, thoughtful, and independent. You don’t want to be with someone you don’t value. 

30. You want to have sex with someone else

If you are seriously considering sleeping with another person, you should go ahead and end things with your girl. The two of you gave it a go, right? You only live once in this life. If your heart’s desire is to be with another person, you don’t need to continue being with your girlfriend. You probably don’t even want to be with her anymore anyway.

31. You have grown apart

Maybe you were once madly in love and couldn’t keep your hands off each other, but now the two of you are just not in the same place. Can this relationship be saved? It’s possible. If you both really want things to go back to the way they used to be, you might be able to work at it to go back to the way things once were.

Is that really what you want? Would it be worth it to work really hard to rekindle what you once had? How much work are you willing to put into the relationship to do this? Is she willing to do the same amount of work? It might take some couples counseling or other types of therapy, depending on the damage that has occurred in your relationship.

You may also want to think about how long you’ve been together. Do you want things to be the way they once were because you’ve been together for so long, and you don’t want to start over? That isn’t a great reason to try to get things back to how they once were. If you’ve truly grown apart, let things be, and move on with your life.

32. You don’t want things to improve

This is a totally different situation. If you think this might be you, you ought to end things now. You do not want to be with this girl anymore. In this scenario, you do not want to make an effort, no matter what the circumstances could be. Even if you could rekindle the romance you once had, you don’t want this. Go find someone new!

33. You no longer listen to each other

Listening is a crucial skill in a relationship. Have you stopped really caring what you say to one another? Do you talk but feel like it’s an empty room? That’s never fun! Instead, it’s a good idea to be in a relationship where the other person cares about what’s on your mind, gives valuable feedback, shares stories, and asks questions.

If you just talk over one another, the love doesn’t seem to be there. I would personally want to be with a person who listened to what I had to say, gave valuable feedback, and asked me relevant questions. I enjoy talking, but I also try to share the responsibility of carrying on a conversation, so I ask questions to learn about how they are.

You should be in a relationship where there is an equal share of giving and taking. Don’t you want to be with someone who values your input and listens to what you have on your mind? Make sure you are valued to your partner and ensure that your partner is valuable to you as well. You don’t want to be with a woman you don’t admire.

34. You don’t like her as a person

Love is a beautiful thing; it encompasses kindness, giving, respect, and honor. You can love just about anyone, but liking a person is a whole different thing. When you like a person, you care about what they have to say - what they think and how they feel. If you no longer like being around her or like her as a person, it’s time to call it quits.

35. You don’t care that she cheats

You know she is out there, sleeping around, disrespecting you behind your back. Why would you want to be in a relationship where that is taking place? You may think you have a good basis for staying with her, but do you really? Do you deserve to be treated this way? You shouldn’t stay with someone who is unfaithful.

36. You stay mad all of the time

If someone gets on your nerves all the time, you aren’t going to want to spend much time with them. If this person is your partner, that’s really bad. If they bring out the worst in you, why are you together? Don’t allow another person to negatively affect you in this manner. Instead, find a person who makes you happy, someone who makes you giggle!

37. You fight constantly

It’s not healthy to argue all of the time. Occasional tiffs are to be expected, but constant fighting is not normal. If you are at each other’s throats and don’t care about how much hurt you are causing, the relationship isn’t a good one. You should consider breaking things off for good, so you can find a more stable one.

38. You’re scared to be honest

Are you worried if you say something, it will cause a fight? This kind of behavior is typical of dysfunctional relationships. However, staying in a relationship where you are walking on eggshells isn’t enjoyable. If you feel this way, you don’t want to stay, so get out now.

39. You do things to make her mad on purpose

Are you trying to get her to break up with you? Do you pick fights that you know will set her off? If you are trying to get her to do the dumping, you may be surprised. These types of things don’t always work out the way we expect. She may not ever end things, no matter how bad you treat her. Go ahead and be a man, and let her go!

40. You two are very different

you two are very different

Having different values and beliefs can be very challenging in a relationship. If your values aren’t aligned, you can’t really connect at the deep level you need to. Plus, when it comes to the big issues, you won’t be on the same page, and an argument is likely to be the result of just living everyday life. You don’t need to make life more challenging!

It’s true that things won’t last if the two of you want different things out of life. If you want to have a family one day with a wife and kids, and she wants to stay single and be a career woman, you are two different pages. You need to find someone you are compatible with. Look for a person who shares your values and beliefs!

FAQs

How do you know if you don't love your girlfriend anymore?

Spending time together may seem like torture; that’s a definite sign that you need to move on. If your needs are being met by someone else, that’s another red flag that your relationship is over or should be just friends. Think about the ways the relationship is bad for you.

Why am I not attracted to my girlfriend anymore?

You may have the feeling that the two of you don’t spend quality time together anymore, you lack intimacy, or you sense that she is married. A wife may hide her marriage, making you question what needs she is meeting for you. This may make her unattractive to you.

How do you know if you should leave your girlfriend?

Look at the signs listed here. If the sex is gone, there could be a reason for that. Couples often lack what they need in relationships, so they find ways to get their needs met in other ways. If you look for excitement in other relationships, your needs aren’t being met.

Can love fade away and come back?

Relationships end and rekindle later on. Men sometimes need variety in relationships, so they look for a girl to meet their needs, a person they could have feelings for, someone who could encompass their thoughts. Couples who are on-again/off-again often miss butterflies and fun in the relationship.

How do I break up with someone I love?

Think about the reasons you want to break up. Let her know you want to be friends, but that distance has grown, and the fun is gone in the relationship. Explain that you are looking for just friendship with this girl or guy. Talk about the reasons for the breakup.

To Sum It All Up

What signs are showing you the reasons you need to end your relationship? Have you been in many relationships that turned out this way? What were those relationships like? We’d love to hear from you! Please tell us the signs you want to end your relationship!

Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.

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