Things To Say To Your Girlfriend When She Is Mad At You (33 Things To Make It Up To Her)

by Michelle Devani

Is your girlfriend furious at you? 

Are you wondering what you can say to calm her down? 

Are you desperate for forgiveness? Does there appear to be no way to turn this around?

Well, the first thing I'll say is: don't panic! There are surefire methods of calming down an angry girlfriend and I will reveal the best ones to you in this guide.

However, I first need you to read the following sentences really carefully.  

If your girlfriend is seemingly mad at you for little-to-no reason, that is a clear sign that it's her who’s up to no good behind your back. . 

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With that said, let's take a closer look at what you can do to stop your partner being mad at you.

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33 Things To Say To Your Girlfriend When She Is Mad At You

There’s a good chance you haven’t the slightest clue as to why your girlfriend is mad at you. It happens; we women aren’t exactly the most forthcoming group of people, which can put a strain on any relationship. 

Common little fights and relationships seem to go hand-in-hand because that is how inevitable issues get solved. More often than not, your girl just wants you to say the right things when she gets mad at you.

If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that the right words do not always come when you need them. Therefore, here is a post to help you out on things to say to your girlfriend when she is mad at you. 

1. Say you’re sorry

say you're sorry

The best way I know to calm an angry woman down is to make her feel heard and understood, then follow up with a sincere apology. Understand that even if she’s reluctant to tell you what you did, it’s probably because she expects you to know. When she does open up, listen carefully so you can see it from her point of view, then reply with a “You’re right, I’m sorry.”

2. “I don’t enjoy making you mad, but you’re just so hot when you are.”

Women love men who can make them smile when they're raging mad, so being lighthearted or goofy about it is one way to go. The compliment makes the statement even twice as charming and therefore, more likely to work. If she doesn’t smile or soften a little after hearing it, then chances are whatever she’s mad about is pretty serious. 

3. “Come back to me.”

One of the things to say to your girlfriend when she’s mad is that you miss her, but say it with a touch of alpha. If your girlfriend loves you for being a ‘macho man,’ she may not appreciate you groveling at her feet at the slightest hint of an attitude. So use that voice you know she can’t resist and tell her to quit it without being condescending.

4. “I hate fighting with you, what do I have to do to make it stop?”

If you’re lucky, your fight may end in a rather memorable make-up evening after saying something like that. You can take the initiative and get her some flowers or whatever else she likes and put your message on the card. You’re in the relationship with her, so you’ll know best what to get to make things better.

5. “I’m sorry I hurt you. Should I come over so you can spank me?”

She’d probably lighten up when she sees a message like this; every relationship should have witty lines or jokes that would make the other party smile. Women don’t have a monopoly on using playfulness to get out of a bind in a relationship. It’s even cuter when guys do it, so give it a try if you haven’t yet. 

6. “Every minute you’ve been angry with me is one minute better spent doing [her favorite thing].”

The idea is to diffuse the situation with humor, so let your body language also communicate that. If you’re sending a text, you can use emojis to convey your message, so she doesn’t misunderstand it as you scolding her for being mad at you.

7. “I don’t know who first said ‘do not let the sun set on your anger,’ but I totally agree with them. Don’t you?”

If your girlfriend is religious, she may appreciate you bringing something out of the holy books. You might even back it up with a passage from it to impress her the more. Notwithstanding, this can work for non-religious people as well because, at the end of the day, the message remains that you want her to forgive you.

8. “For my sake, I hope you’re as forgiving as you’re pretty.”

for my sake, i hope you're as forgiving as you're pretty

An apology doesn’t always have to come in the default, “I’m sorry, please forgive me” style. Sometimes, spice it up with a little bit of wit and remember what I said above about compliments in a relationship. 

Use this when you forget to call her, show up late, or commit an offense that makes her mad. You might need more than your wits to get out of more severe issues in the relationship though. 

9. “Are you still sulking?”

It’s a direct question, but it can be so ridiculously obvious sometimes that your girlfriend might not be able to help but smile. Like if she’s all passive-aggressive with the silent treatment being almost palpable, she obviously still is. 

The good thing is, if she’s already calm enough to talk about it, that one line may be all it takes for her to open up. If you get a response like “I’m not sulking, I just think…” you’re in.

10. “I recognize you’re hurt, so take all the time you need, and I’ll be here when you can stand me again.”

Sometimes all she wants is for you to give her some space but on her own terms. This is why it’s crucial to lead with the fact you’re leaving because you understand your presence is doing more harm than good right now. 

Otherwise, she might feel like you’re abandoning her because you don’t want to deal with the matter on ground. Give it some hours, at least before you reach out again, maybe to say good morning or good night, and she’d likely be more receptive to you then.

11. “We are better together. Stop being mad at me, please.”

Remind your baby girl you are a team in this relationship, and a team is better when everyone is available to man their position. Contrary to what some boyfriends may think, girlfriends don’t always enjoy ranting and raving, except, of course, for when they’re in the mood. So, if you’ve tried saying sorry and it didn’t work, try this and see how it goes.

12. “I’d never [take you for granted] on purpose. Please give me another chance to prove this was a misunderstanding.”

If you made a mistake that got misinterpreted as something bigger, you can say this to your girlfriend and hope that she believes you. She may not be so generous the next time it happens though, so don’t use this line if you don’t plan to keep your promise.

13. “I apologize from the deepest part of my heart for causing you pain. Please forgive me?”

If your girlfriend is mad at you and an apology like this doesn’t move her, it’s probably because you’ve overplayed that hand, and it doesn’t hold weight anymore. That, or you no longer mean as much to her as you used to. 

14. “Not talking to you this past few days has been nothing short of agonizing. I don’t want to live like this anymore, I’d do anything.”

Has it been painful not having access to the one you love? Tell her just that, and it might bring your loving girlfriend back to you. Even though words are really just words, and what you do after is what ensures they count, opening the floor by dropping the ‘tough guy act’ is a good start.

15. “I’m flattered you’re this mad at me ‘cause it shows that you care’.”

They say getting angry at someone is a sign of emotional investment. While that doesn’t always directly translate to caring, chances are that’s exactly where your girlfriend’s grievances stemmed from. This is not an excuse to keep getting on her nerves, but it sure can be a cute fact to use against her this one time.

16. "You’re not going anywhere, baby, and neither am I. For better or worse, remember?"

you're not going anywhere, baby, and neither am i

I know you aren’t married yet, but subtly reminding her of your commitment to your relationship might just melt your girlfriend’s heart. Girls want a partner they can enjoy the great times in life with, but also someone who can entreat them when they're mad and upset. 

Assuring her you’re in it for the long haul would work even better if the cause of the problem is that she hasn’t been feeling like your numero uno lately.

17. “Whatever happened, I know it was my fault. What can I do to make it up to you?”

If she won’t tell you what you did but keeps acting like she’s pissed at you, it might be best to just admit you were wrong and she was right. Then follow up with a suggestion to fix it by asking her what you can do.

18. “I hate this so much. Can we kiss and make up already?”

The best part of couple fights, after all, is when you get to make up. Have you noticed that anything done with your partner just after settling an argument is usually more intense? You could be looking each other in the eyes, and your entire system just gets flooded with butterflies. 

So, if her anger got you annoyed too, all hope isn’t yet lost. Experts say with a little bit of perspective-taking, some empathy, and a lot of communication, among other things, you can totally kiss and make up.

19. “I feel bad for hurting you like that, and I promise to do better next time.”

If you’re not much of a romantic, opt for a good old admission of guilt, followed by an apology and a commitment to be better. Not everything can be fixed with humor and sweet words. If whatever you did to upset your girlfriend is kind of a big deal, letting her know you realize it and feel genuinely bad for it is a good idea.

20. “You mean the world to me, and I hope you remember that even in moments like this.”

The true test of love isn’t if it flows when things are rosy, but if it also stays solid when your partner isn’t at their best. Tell her she’ll always be your special someone and that you hope she can see you that way as well, even now. However, you shouldn’t use this as a form of emotional manipulation. If you genuinely wronged her, apologize properly first before saying this.

21. “I’m an ass, I’m the worst boyfriend, and I’m sorry. Now, will you please smile back at me? I miss it.”

This is a signature good guy move; call yourself all the bad names and tell her it’s okay to put all the blame on you. Make it seem like your priority at that moment is to get her to smile back at you and mean it. 

22. “Let me show you that I’m sorry.”

Actions still speak louder than words. If your girlfriend has complained to you about the same thing more than once, and you do it again, she’s well within her rights to get annoyed at you. Maybe instead of looking for a different way to say sorry, you can just try and work on that stuff instead?

23. Plan a little surprise

plan a little surprise

Speaking of actions being loud, you can do something unexpected like showing up at her workplace bearing gifts with a remorseful face. Sure, it may not just end there, but she’d feel special if she’s a fan of surprises.

24. Clear your schedule to spend quality time with her

You can run out of things to say to your girl, but you can never run out of ways to show her you care. If the usual bone of contention is that she doesn’t get enough of you, the best thing you can do next time she gets upset due to neglect isn’t words. Make a grand move like clearing your entire schedule for a day and thank me later.

25. “Is there a chance you’re this angry because I’m not the boyfriend you want me to be?”

If you can’t confidently say your relationship is in a good place and your girlfriend keeps getting upset at every move you make, it might be time for a more in-depth conversation. Like I said, apology stops cutting it when it comes too frequently, and nothing changes afterward. 

After you apologize (yet again), ask if there’s a bigger reason for the perpetual annoyance than what you did.

26. “I can’t believe I came this close to driving us apart. Never again, babe. I promise.”

Reserve this for serious offenses like not letting her take out of your fries or something, lol. Refusing to share your food with your girlfriend is a felony in my relationship books, but please feel free to extend it to your situation as is fitting. What is considered severe can be anything from cheating on your girl in her dreams to doing it in real life. 

27. “Days like this make me love you even more.”

People tend to be not so loveable when angry, so your usually loving girlfriend may not be quite as affectionate when she’s mad at you. The way she acts might force you to appreciate even more, the days when she wasn’t in such a foul mood

This motivates you to make up with her because you realize you love your girl and not the sulking person in front of you. Telling her how you feel may just help bring her back faster.

28. “I love you.”

Or you know, you can just use the three magic words—nothing more, nothing less. Say you’ve been backed into a corner and have no excuses or explanation left in you. Let her go on about all the stuff you did wrong and when she finishes, tell her you love her. 

You can equally use this if she chooses a passive-aggressive route instead of talking about it right away. Just make sure not to do it every time you upset her, so it doesn’t get old.

29. “C’mon, you love me too much to be mad at me for this long.”

Try this during that transition period when you know she’s no longer fuming. You can make a puppy face or do something charming you think might make her smile. You know your girlfriend better than I do, so if you think it can also work while she’s still really upset, feel free to go for it.

30. Nothing

nothing

When in doubt, say nothing. Listen to her if she’s throwing verbal tantrums and let her know that you are. I’m sure I don’t need to tell you there’s no win in saying the wrong things (sometimes anything at all) when she’s obviously prepared for an argument. 

A relationship isn’t a court of law, so your silence can still be used against you, but at least she wouldn’t have something definite.

31. Give her a hug

Not saying anything with your mouth doesn’t mean you still can’t communicate with your girl when she’s upset. Catch her unawares by wrapping your arms around her from behind and watch the anger dissipate in your embrace. Even if she’s going to try and wriggle out of your arms later, that tender, loving gesture is bound to weaken her for a moment. 

32. Absolutely do not tell her to calm down

Let her express what she’s feeling without interrupting her. Cutting someone short when talking is rude enough as it is, but when you do so with a “chill out,” it’s like you’re just asking for it. According to experts, such statements trivialize her emotions and can make her feel taken for granted. Nobody likes that. 

33. Don’t say she’s making a big deal out of nothing

I wouldn’t recommend telling her she’s tripping either, or that whatever made her mad isn’t a big deal. While it all comes down to how you say it at the end, responses that sound dismissive are more likely to fuel her anger than they are to calm her down. Time of the month jokes may also be frowned upon, so I’d steer clear of those too.

FAQs

How do you cheer up your girlfriend when she’s mad at you?

Use humor to diffuse the situation if she's not super angry, and when she’s had a chance to calm down a little, ask her what you did and apologize. You can also send her some flowers or her favorite food as a gesture of reconciliation.

How do you make an angry girlfriend happy over text?

Be cute or funny. Bribe her with a compliment and tell her she can get mad at you all she wants, but you’d still be there, loving her when she’s done. Apologize as you would in person, and promise to be a better boyfriend.

How do you respond to an angry girlfriend?

With patience and lots of understanding. Listen to what she has to say without being in a rush to counter her. Someone has to maintain a cool head so let that be you whether or not she flares up. When she’s done, give her a warm hug and let love reign.

What should I say when my girlfriend is sad?

You can reassure your girlfriend of your commitment to her when she’s sad. Something along the lines of “You’re not alone, and will never be as long as I’m here.” Ask her to tell you whatever she needs, and you’d try to do it if it’s within your capacity.

What to say to get her in bed?

It’s not so much what you say that gets a girl in bed as the connection you’re able to form. Contrary to popular opinion, you don’t have to butter her up with half-baked compliments, just build the attraction and make yourself hard to resist.

To Conclude

It’s been a pleasure writing this, and I hope you enjoyed reading it. More importantly, I hope you got a few points, at least, that you can use the next time your girlfriend is mad at you. As always, please leave a comment and share the article if you liked it. 

Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.

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