When you love someone, it is normal to want to be with them at every waking hour. Nevertheless, there will be times when they will be out of your reach - perhaps, you are in a long-distance relationship or have conflicting schedules. Regardless of the reason, you should know how best to spend this time apart and what to do when your boyfriend is away.
You see, learning to cope when missing your boyfriend typically involves you refocusing your mind on other areas of your life that may have been neglected - knowingly or unknowingly. Besides, there's no need to be so sad. Instead, you should see this as an opportunity to explore guilt-free, exciting, and perhaps, once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to have solo fun.
So, if for whatever reason your boyfriend is away for a week and you don’t know what to do with your free time or how best to cope when you miss him, here are 31 interesting and exciting things you can do to kill time. These activities allow you to learn more about yourself, revive old friendships, and of course, build a stronger bond with your partner.
First things first, stop thinking and worrying! Don't be overly obsessed with what your boyfriend is doing without you. It doesn't matter if he is on a business trip or assignment; the truth is, you will need to trust him. Besides, if you find yourself overly concerned about your partner's activities away from you, it could be a sign of attachment anxiety.
Admittedly, missing and worrying about him is normal, especially if it is the first time being apart for an extended period. Nevertheless, don't let your worry turn into obsession or paranoia, as this could mean you have abandonment issues. As such, you are scared of getting hurt. Instead, accept that your time apart is good for your relationship and use it as an opportunity to enjoy your own company.
You probably already know this, but constant communication is the best way to maintain your relationship even when you are in different cities.
Healthy communication ensures that you both do not feel left out of each other's lives, and when you are reuniting, it would be easy to catch up on things - like you were never apart. So whether it's text messages, phone calls, or video calls, make sure you talk as frequently as possible.
For instance, you can fix specific times to talk to each other during the day. Perhaps at the start of your day and the end, where you get to talk about your day.
So your man is out of town, and you miss him. Great. However, instead of sitting at home pouting over his posts, waiting for the phone to ring, or counting down till his return date, perhaps it is time to go on a short trip.
Pick a spot within your city or a nearby town and plan a road trip. You could always do this alone or with friends to make it more exciting. Alternatively, you can drive to the outskirts of your city and get lost in the sights and sounds of nature.
The great thing about going on a trip during this period is that it is guilt-free, and you don't have to feel bad for leaving your partner home.
It doesn't matter how in sync you may be in your relationship, there will always be something you disagree on, and in this case, it might be a movie or show. Perhaps you enjoy watching reality shows, but your partner doesn't seem to understand why you find the lives of wealthy women married to millionaire husbands so interesting.
Well, great! Now is an excellent time to catch up on all those shows you put off because you couldn't watch them together. Revive the freedom you had in your single days, where you could watch whatever you wanted without guilt or judgment.
Except if you or your boyfriend are fitness enthusiasts, there are high chances that you are not in your best form, and it's understandable. When you are in a relationship and live with your partner, the decision on what to eat does not solely lie on you - it is a collective decision. Therefore, it is easy to struggle with diets and healthy eating because you are more likely to eat what's available.
So in this time, with your boyfriend away, you should consider getting back in shape by adopting a healthier lifestyle. This could mean making more nutritious meals and working out. Besides, exercising can help you feel less lonely about your partner's absence.
While you can focus on doing the same things you did while single, remember that the internet is resourceful, where you can learn just about anything for free, from millions of youtube to niche blogs and social media pages, the possibilities are endless.
Therefore, now is a good time to channel your energy into learning something new or perfecting what you already know. It doesn't have to be something as serious as a course or certification. You can opt to learn how to do your makeup, style your wardrobe, or even dance.
Sitting at home alone, waiting, and counting down to your partner's return won't make you feel any less lonely or make him return sooner than expected. Instead, you are more likely to feel worse and depressed. So use this opportunity to reconnect with old friends with whom your busy life and relationship did not permit you to spend time.
This could mean spending extra time with your best friend, planning a visit to your friend's new office, or having a coffee date with them to catch up on your life.
Have you ever gone out alone, without your boyfriend or friends to accompany you? You probably can't remember, and that's one of the perks of being in a relationship. However, this beautiful perk can become self-destructive if you do not push yourself to learn how to do things independently.
Now that your boyfriend is away for a couple of days, it is an excellent time to go on a solo date for the first time. This can be to the movies, for ice cream, or for dinner. Either way, you will be spending quality time with yourself.
Oh, by the way, don't forget to send him pictures of your outfit and what you're eating. It will make him miss you more, and wish he could share in the fun.
It doesn't matter that he'll be away for a couple of days or even weeks, the fact is, you miss him, and it is challenging. Therefore, you deserve a treat for going through these emotions - or don't you think so?
A spa day where you can get a massage, your feet scrubbed, a manicure, and a pedicure might be the answer. So pick up your phone and browse online for a reliable and legitimate spa.
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After all, being away from your partner is challenging, and you deserve some pampering for dealing with the emotions.
Sure, cuddling with your partner every night is great, but have you tried sleeping freely with your arms and legs spread wide? Exactly, I guess not because if you have, you will know how amazing that too can be.
Goodbye to sticking to your side of the bed or limiting yourself to sleeping with just one pillow. Now that you have the bed to yourself, it's time to let your legs and hands spread on the bed, and even better, you can now sleep with as many pillows as you like. In your defense, it'll make up for your partner's warmth.
Some alone time can just be what you need to realize that your home needs a makeover. I remember being stuck at home during the pandemic and the decor changes I achieved at the end of it all.
The thing is, when you live with someone, certain things are not apparent to you. However, it is easy to determine how every space, furniture, and item makes you feel when you are alone. Therefore, you might want to consider redecorating your home or getting new furniture (if you can afford it).
This will keep you busy and could also act as an element of surprise for your partner when he returns.
Okay, girl, quiet moping around and feeling sorry for yourself. It's time to grind some more and make some money while at it.
It can be challenging to commit to more work hours when your boyfriend is around because you want to maintain a balanced relationship between your work and your romantic life. However, since he is away, now might be the best time to rake in those extra work hours without worrying about who is up and waiting for you at home.
I bet you are tired of having the same meals every week. However, you have either been too lazy to come up with something new or cannot prepare the meals you would love to have.
You might want to use this free time to review your meal plan and see where you can tweak it, what you can remove, and what you can add to make your meals more exciting and enjoyable.
Even better, consider browsing for new recipes for future use or learning how to make your boyfriend's favorite meals. After all, the way to a man's heart is the belly, and this will add spice to your relationship.
Just as we noticed a change in Kim Kardashian's wardrobe when she got together with Kanye West, it is possible that your relationship has had an influence on your personal style - and that is not a bad thing. If at all, it shows that you and your partner are evolving together.
A good way to deal with missing your boyfriend is by using this time apart to clean your wardrobe. For instance, take stock of all the items you have outgrown, no longer use, or do not like anymore and let them go.
I have realized that whenever I miss my partner and decide to organize my wardrobe, I am reminded of all the clothes he loves to see me wear, thereby replacing my loneliness with good memories and brightening up my day.
While you could always buy a new throw blanket, dream catcher, or painting from the store, it becomes more sentimental when you make it yourself. So now that you miss your boyfriend, perhaps you should consider getting your hands messy with art and craft projects.
A project like this can help you shift your energy from missing your partner to getting creative. Besides, it will make for a great conversation next time you talk to him, and it'll make him eager to come home and see what you were up to while he was away. So pull out your paintbrush, crochet needle, and color supplies; it's time to get creative!
Whatever happened to your plan to reorganize the pantry, or when do you intend to start using that sewing machine you got at a garage sale? I bet you forgot. That's alright, no judgment. However, now that you miss your partner, perhaps it is time to stay busy with these forgotten plans and projects.
For instance, if you have always intended to change your room's paint color, now is a good time to get on with it. Turn on some feel-good music that will bring up fond memories of your boyfriend and get painting.
Okay, I'm not going to sit here and tell you not to get so busy that you no longer have to anticipate your partner's return. It's normal to miss him and look forward to when he returns. Nevertheless, you can make this process more exciting and less painful by planning a future activity that you will do together, from how it will happen to where it will happen.
Great examples include recreating your first date, booking a concert ticket, taking up a diet, or starting a new exercise routine together. This way, when you count down, you are not simply counting down till he returns, but you are also counting down to the start of something new.
When humans disappoint, animals won't, especially dogs. Maybe that's a bit too grim considering your boyfriend isn't a disappointment, but you get the point. If you feel terrible and lonely about not being with your partner, visiting an animal shelter can make you feel better.
It doesn't matter if you're a cat or dog person; being around these creatures can be good for your physical, emotional, and mental health. It can help you lose track of time and lower your stress levels, causing you to miss him less.
Journaling is a great way to train the mind and keep track of your emotional and mental health. However, this time, you will also be journaling it as a cute way to have your boyfriend know how you coped with missing him.
Get creative with your journaling by creating something special. For instance, you can use a fancy notebook and calligraphy pen to write heartfelt love letters that describe how much you miss him and how you are spending your time apart. In addition, if you're feeling up to it, you can add illustrations.
So what if your boyfriend is miles away? It doesn't mean you have to miss out on happiness or the joy that comes with talking all the time. Thanks to technology, out of sight doesn't have to be out of mind.
So, ensure that you take advantage of video chat channels and use them to stay in touch with your man. A great way to do this would be to schedule online dinner dates at a convenient time for both of you. This way, you get to dress up nicely for the video call, order takeout, and talk while eating. It would be just like he was with you there.
I know what you're thinking. You're probably wondering what's volunteering got to do with missing your boyfriend. I get it. However, what you may not know is that at this moment, you are not only missing your boyfriend, but you also miss having a companion, and this is where volunteering can provide comfort.
When you volunteer in your community, irrespective of the task, it gives you a sense of pride, confidence and also offers the opportunity to make new friends. Besides, taking up a new challenge can make you stop thinking too much about your boyfriend's absence and focus more on the task at hand.
I love DIY projects! Only a few things beat wearing dungarees and dusting off your work tools from the garage on a lovely weekend, and that's because embarking on DIY projects gives you a sense of control.
Perhaps your boyfriend is away on an assignment that is beyond his control. This can make you feel sad and helpless. However, embarking on a successful DIY project, on the other hand, can overturn these feelings into positive ones by making you feel empowered, capable, and strong.
Cross-dressing can be fun, especially if you pair a few pieces with some of your clothes. So, what are you waiting for? Now is the perfect time to rummage through your boyfriend's wardrobe without restrictions.
Not only will this activity bring you joy, but you can also use it to tease him. For instance, wear his shirt or hoodie and take a picture in it. When he sees this, he might feign annoyance, but deep down, he is happy to see you in his clothes. It will also make your boyfriend terribly miss you.
One might think this is set in stone, but having your partner out of town is a great time to spend the night out with your girls shamelessly. Invite your favorite girls and, maybe boys, to your place for an exciting night of laughter, games, dance, food, and of course, drinks.
The great thing about nights like this is that you can choose to go out or stay indoors. Also, if you're on a budget, you can ask your friends to bring something along.
If you don't live with your family, chances are you haven't been home in a while. Between balancing your career, school work, and maintaining a relationship, it can be tough finding the time to visit them as much as they would.
However, now that your partner isn't around, plan a visit to your family if you ever feel lonely or desperate for company. They will be happy to see you and can afford to give you the emotional support you need as you miss your boyfriend.
Let's be honest, when last did you walk into your garage and deep clean it? It's probably been a while. Your excuse has perhaps been the lack of time. Well, now you have it, ample time to declutter, and rearrange some things within your home.
So while your boyfriend's absence can be a good time to binge on the movies and shows you never agreed on, this period can also be used to watch his favorite movie.
Admittedly, it may not be your favorite or even something you like, but watching it will help you better understand who he is and help you see things from his perspective. Also, it can make you feel close to him and not miss him badly.
When you miss your boyfriend, the simple trick to feel better is to refocus your energy on the fun things that bring you joy and happiness. So, if shopping is what makes you happy and you can afford it, then do it. You can also choose to get something for your partner. It doesn't have to be something expensive. Cute socks, a silly mug, or his favorite snack are some items that can put a smile on his face.
If you're big on surprises or have been dying to try a new look, you can do that now. A new haircut or color that suits you will be a pleasant surprise for your boyfriend when he returns from his trip, considering if it’s been quite some time since he saw you.
Even better, you can ask him for suggestions and see if they align with what you have in mind. That way, he will miss you and look forward to seeing you.
You may not know this, but missing your boyfriend isn't a bad feeling in its entirety. On the contrary, it is a good thing because it proves you have a good and healthy relationship.
Not many people can proudly testify to experiencing true love in a healthy relationship, so for you to miss your man means you have this, and that's a blessing. So, use this time to practice gratitude for all the ways your boyfriend is an amazing man.
Dance challenges are a new trend on social media. One might think that because they are so popular, they are easy. On the contrary, learning these dance moves can be challenging and time-consuming. You can take up rehearsing these steps. Not only are they interesting, but they'll also help you stay fit.
While it is entirely normal to miss your boyfriend when he is away, you shouldn't allow it to overwhelm you. If it does, it is a sign of over-dependence. The best thing to do during this time is to focus on yourself. Learn to sit with your thoughts and spend time alone for a few days doing the things you love.
That your boyfriend is away doesn't mean you have to stop interacting. Technology makes communication easier now than ever, so don't hesitate to utilize it in every way to talk to him. However, this does not mean you should be talking all the time. Practice restraint and devote some time to enjoying your own company.
When you are with someone you love, your brain releases feel-good chemicals like serotonin, dopamine, and oxytocin. These chemicals cause you to seek out things that stimulate pleasure, and in this case, it's your partner. So whenever he leaves, your brain instinctively wants to get these rewards again, causing you to miss him.
If your boyfriend is going away for a few weeks or days and you want him to miss you, here are a few things you can do. For starters, sneak something of yours into his box. It could be your sweater, book, or even a love note. That way, when he sees it, he will miss you. Another tip would be to resist calling him too frequently.
When it comes to men, being faithful in a relationship is a secondary concern. What matters most is the man's character. If a man is good and commits to not cheating regardless of where he is, then yes, he will be faithful. However, a man who isn’t committed will struggle with staying faithful in a long-distance relationship.
Missing your boyfriend can put your mental and emotional state on an unstable wave, especially if it is your first time apart. However, you can implement these 31 tips on what to do when your boyfriend is away while waiting for his return.
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