21 Original Ways To Make My Boyfriend Miss Me And Want To See Me

Last updated on June 11, 2024 by Michelle Devani

Do you wish your boyfriend made more of an effort to see you?  

Are you wondering how to make him miss you more? 

I have listed some techniques to help with this problem below, but the truth is: it’s a problem that needs to be fixed at a core level. 

If your boyfriend truly loved you, this wouldn’t be a problem plaguing your relationship. 

I used to experience the same issues with the men I was dating. 

I always cared more than they did! Although they seemed to be smitten with me in the early days, this lust faded pretty quickly.

It was a painful experience - and it felt like it was never going to end!

Thankfully, I was able to turn this troubling set of circumstances around - and I want to explain how I did it. 

It all started when I stumbled upon some priceless advice about a man’s ‘Hero’s Instinct’

This is a primal psychological trigger held by most men - and it has a tremendous impact on how they perceive their romantic partners. 

When a woman can learn how to activate this trigger, she can allow him to experience intense feelings of joy, power and purpose.

These are the emotions that men are desperate to feel in a monogamous relationship. By becoming the woman that can consistently unleash these powerful feelings, he’ll begin to feel an unbreakable connection with you. 

This is a powerful psychological process - but it’s easy enough to unlock these feelings within a man once you’ve learned how to do it (read my personal story to learn more about how it works). 

Once you’ve got this process mastered, you won’t have to worry about convincing a man to hang out with you any more. 

Still, I’ve included some more tips for you below.


How To Make Him Miss You And Want To See You

Do you ever think, “I want to know the ways to make my boyfriend miss me and want to see me,” but don’t know how? In this article, we will look at the ways you can do exactly that. 

I know you are head over heels for your boyfriend and think that he is husband material, someone you could spend the rest of your life with, but guys are different than girls. They don’t always show how they feel in a way that we can understand. We want to scream, “I love you” at the top of our lungs, and they want to share feelings after a close moment together.

Because of this, you have to do things a little differently with men. You must do certain things that will make him miss you like crazy and make him feel lost without you. Sometimes, this is painful to do, but you are capable of doing it if you set your mind to it! This article will give you the top secrets to making sure you get your man to miss and want to see you soon!

1. Give him space and time

give him space and time

If you would like your man to miss you and hope to be with you, give him all the space and time he needs. This will make him miss you a great deal; he'll wonder what you are up to and why you are giving him space and time. Then, he will find a way to be with you because he will have missed you so much!

2. Limit your phone calls

When it comes to phone conversations, you want him to miss you, so it’s a good idea to keep them short and sweet. Limit the phone calls to ten minutes. That gives you time to say what you would like to say with each other and make him miss you as you cut the conversation short. Have some excuses written down, so you know exactly what to say.

You might even consider setting a timer, so you remember to keep the calls short. I once dated a guy, and I did the “10-minute rule” with him; it worked like a charm! He even said, “I prefer talking on instant messenger because you’ll talk longer than ten minutes.” Ha! I guess he eventually figured out what I was doing.

Learn something from my experience, though. I was failing in the messaging department. Consider limiting your social media or messaging time to ten minutes as well! Then, he will just miss you all around because you are hard to pin down for longer than ten minutes. He’ll be excited to take you out on dates to talk longer with you!

3. Make your home a welcoming place

You don’t have to have homemade cookies or anything like that, but if your home is somewhere where he feels comfortable, he’ll want to come spend time with you more often. Don’t turn it into a man cave or something that doesn’t represent who you are, but light some candles, and make your home a joyful place to visit. He’ll miss it, then!

4. Look your best

This is an easy one; just look hot all the time. When you aren’t together, it will make him go crazy that you aren’t seeing enough of each other. Don’t hang out in your nightgown with your hair in a bun all the time; you never know when he’s going to drop by for an unannounced visit, right?

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5. Do his favorite things without him

Does he like baseball? Take a group of friends with you to a popular baseball game, and he’ll wonder why he wasn’t invited! He’ll be jealous of what you have going on in your life and want to be a part of it so much! He may think, “Man! I need to be around this girl more often. She does a lot of really fun things!”

6. Cook his favorite meals

Another easy thing you can do is cook your man’s favorite meals. He’ll think he’s died and gone to heaven with the beautiful dishes you can create. He may wonder why he’s not spending more time with you and really want to visit you as soon as he can! Remember that food is often the key to a man’s heart!

7. Limit your social media time

As mentioned above, keep things short and sweet. You don’t have to get off Facebook completely; just don’t comment or like things on his page too much. Maybe give yourself an hour a day for social media activity. It’s just a suggestion, but it’s also an idea. Think about all the things you could accomplish in the time you usually devote to social media!

8. Buy him the perfect gift

buy him the perfect gift

What better way is there to get to the heart of a man than to buy him the perfect gift? If he’s into baseball, pick up some baseball cards or buy a jersey for him on eBay. He’ll be so excited to find out what you have in store for him that he’ll try to spend quality time with you as soon as he can!

9. Buy and wear his favorite perfume

This idea is pretty self-explanatory. Just buy his favorite perfume and wear it all the time. If you don’t know what it is, consider wearing his favorite scent. For example, if he’s big into vanilla, hit Amazon and purchase you a nice gift set of body spray, body wash, and lotion that are vanilla scented.

10. Compliment him

This is a great way to make a guy miss you, and look forward to seeing you again! Talk sweetly to him about what you think of him, how he has made you feel, and how happy you are with him. Your man will rush right over if he can; if you are in a long-distance relationship, your man may decide to book a flight to visit you whenever he can!

11. Treat yourself to a spa day

There’s nothing wrong with treating yourself to something special. Get your nails done, get a massage, and the full works done! Your man will be excited to spend quality time together so he can be with the new, rejuvenated self you’ve become! Plus, what a great way to avoid his calls and play a little hard to get than to be busy with a spa day!

12. Buy some sexy clothes and lingerie

Guys just can’t resist a new purchase of sexy clothes or lingerie. Model what you bought for him, and he’ll crave spending time with you! Be careful when sending sexy selfies, though. You might be better off telling him the details of what you bought than sending pictures unless you truly trust that he will not post the pictures on social media!

13. Answer every other text message

It’s a good idea to limit your availability for your guy. The thought here is to play a little hard to get so that he will wonder why you are not responding immediately to his text messages. If he doesn’t ask you a question, do you even need to respond? Think about it; you want to make him long to be with you, right? Be difficult to get a hold of.

14. Make him happy when you are around each other

You should hope that when the two of you are apart, he misses you and longs to be with you, right? The best way to do this is to have a blast when you are together! Go to an amusement park, hit the zoo, or walk the mall - whatever adventures you can come up with to create awesome memories together! Don’t forget to take lots of pictures, too!

15. Be pleasant to be around

be pleasant to be around

Like the last point mentioned, you want him to have pleasant memories after you’ve spent time together, right? Be happy and fun to be around! This will drive your man crazy as he remembers how much fun he had when he was with you last! He will definitely miss you when you are not together, so he’ll book a date as soon as possible.

16. Encourage him to hang out with his friends

My guy often tells me that one of his favorite things about me is the fact that I encourage him to spend as much time as he wants with his buddies. They go do outdoorsy things I wouldn’t enjoy doing anyway; the point is that guys like it when you let them do what they want with their friends. 

If you at least act open to this idea, he’ll value the time he spends with you because you let him do what he wanted to with his friends!

17. Send him a daily selfie picture

That’s right! Put on the makeup and do your hair all pretty; then, take a sexy selfie and send it his direction. Men are visual creatures and enjoy seeing pictures of the women they are dating. Plus, a picture is something he can look at often to remember what he’s missing!

18. Plan exciting dates

Have fun when you spend quality time with your man! Maybe plan a fun weekend getaway to someplace that you know he’ll enjoy! The point is to make great memories that the two of you can look back on with wonderful feelings.

19. Send him something special

I don’t mean for you to send him something on his phone; send him a letter or meat basket at his work. Surprise him with something special that he will be shocked at. He’ll love how sweet and thoughtful you are and be excited to visit you again! 

Men enjoy being around women who do meaningful things like that; that makes you be considered marriage material in their eyes!

20. Leave something at his place

This little trick might actually work. Does he love the butterfly clips you put in your hair? Maybe leave a couple behind, so he’ll be thinking, “Oh, she forgot her hair things. Aw! They remind me of her, and it’s a bummer she isn’t here right now. We had so much fun together!” That will surely make him think of and miss you. 

21. Talk to him about the good times

When you do talk to him on the phone, remind him of the fun that the two of you have had together. Maybe send him some pictures of your last trip together or post them on social media to show off to everyone how cool of a couple you really are. You want him to long for the next time you get to spend together!

The Biggest Secret Weapon: Play Hard to Get

the biggest secret weapon: play hard to get

If you are looking for a long-term relationship with your guy, you should consider investing in one of the greatest tricks the female species has ever come up with - playing hard to get. In fact, even research has shown that playing hard to get is effective with long-term relationships. For short-term hookups, guys lose interest fast and search for their next conquest. 

That being said, you may know now that for short-term relationships, hard to get isn’t the way to go, but if it doesn’t work for your guy, how invested is he in your relationship? If he gives up easily, he may not care about you as much as you had hoped. That’s not to say it works perfectly every single time to play hard to get. There will be times he may figure it out

Some guys just don’t like playing games, but there is a line between playing hard to get and being a little unavailable VERSUS playing games with his heart and mind. Don’t do that! In fact, I’ll give you a few of the secrets to playing hard to get, so you can do it right and not play with a guy’s heart and mind. Don’t be one of those girls who do that.

  • Give it time before responding to texts, calls, emails, social media messages, or other methods of contact. You don’t need to run to answer a call; if you miss it, you can call back later if you feel like it.
  • End dates, conversations, messages, and anything else, FIRST. You should be the one with the excuse for ending things first. It leaves him wanting more. He’ll crave more attention from you later on. 
  • Be a little mysterious with the way you carry yourself and how you act. 
  • Limit your time on social media messaging or text messaging. You don’t need to spend hours chatting. Sure, you would like to get to know him better, but that’s what real dates are for. Make him put in the time with you to get to know you better.

While You Are Waiting…

While you are waiting on your boyfriend to respond to your actions to get his attention, pursue your dreams, hopes, aspirations, and passions. Pick up a new hobby, or think about your New Year’s resolutions, and conquer some of those. One idea is to spend time with friends and family every time you are tempted to call or text him, times when you should be hard to get.

Also, find ways to be happy on your own; become an independent woman. Men really like it when their women are self-sufficient and not needy. Focus on your life and what you can do with it. Remember that you only have one life, so you best make the most of it. Stay busy during this time; have your own life, one where you aren’t reliant on your man for your happiness.

One thing you can do to stay busy and have your own life is to volunteer; there are probably dozens of places you could go to nearby where you could invest your time and make a difference in someone else’s life. Doing things like this will make you feel better about yourself, and you won’t feel like you have to rely on your boyfriend so much for anything.

Remember To Always Be Yourself

remember to always be yourself

Don’t pretend to be someone you aren’t - ever. You should make sure you are always who you are because if you put up a false pretense, eventually, your true self will shine through. No guy wants to be with a girl who is being someone they are not. One thing you can try to really be yourself is to nurture your interests and hobbies. Find things to do to make yourself happy.

Just make sure you are not changing to be someone you think he wants. If he doesn’t like you for who you are, the relationship wasn’t meant to be. Just be who you really are and focus on your happiness within yourself when you feel lost. Men love women who speak their minds and have their own opinions and thoughts. Be happy doing whatever you desire to do!


How can I make him miss me badly?

To make a man miss you, remind him of what it’s like when the two of you are together. You might consider talking about what you are doing in terms of what it would be like if he were there. “I’m baking cookies while listening to rock music!”

How can you tell if a guy misses you?

If you have convinced a guy to miss you, he will hope to see you as soon as he possibly can. He may ask you out on a date at his next available date or plan a weekend getaway with you so that he knows he will see you soon.

How do you know if he is thinking about you?

If your guy has you on his mind, he will pursue you endlessly. He may call you all the time, hit you up on social media, or send you dozens of text messages. You can expect to get attention from a guy who is thinking of you!

What do men want in a relationship?

Most men just want women who make them happy and who they enjoy spending time with. They like spending time with women who they have fun with. When men have negative experiences with fighting going on, they don’t want a repeat of that feeling again, so they avoid it.

How do you know if a guy thinks you're beautiful?

Usually, when a guy finds you breathtaking, he will tell you so. If he is particularly wowed, he may be speechless, but you’ll know that the reason is that he is about to fall in love with you based on your gorgeous looks! You have won a chess match!

To Sum Things Up…

What do you do when you try to make your boyfriend miss you like crazy? What would you suggest for other women to do right away? 

Please leave a comment below, and share this post! I’d love to hear all about your experiences, recommendations, and battles with the opposite sex!

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Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.

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