What Is Wrong with Me If I Am Still in Love with My Ex Two Years After Our Breakup?

by Michelle Devani

Sometimes you can't get over your ex no matter how hard you try, even if it has been two years after you broke up. While others may tell you to just get over it, it's actually okay to grieve.

Everyone grieves in different ways, and you may just be taking your time trying to accept the fact that the relationship is over and that your ex is probably already seeing someone else.

Here are a few reasons why you're still in love with your ex two years after your breakup:

  1. Heartbreak Can Be a Trauma.

    Time doesn't change what happened between you and your ex, especially if you spent so much time together. Heartbreak can be traumatic; it doesn't have to come from war or something much more violent. Heartbreak in itself is violent.

  2. They Were a Big Part of Your Life.

    They may be a childhood friend or someone you shared a life for so many years. They were there for the little things, the big things, the important things. You might've felt as if they were your soulmate.

  3. Repressed Memories.

    Even if you have bad memories about your ex, your brain will try to suppress those and repress the good ones, leaving you to imagine all the best memories with your ex and making you want to relive them again.

There are several ways you can forget your ex boyfriend as you really love him and miss him desperately and also what you can text him when you miss him and want to reconnect, but at the end of the day you're just human. It's hard to move on and forward, but it starts somewhere.

If you're desperately and insanely in love with him and want to get over him but don't know how, here are some tips you can follow:

  1. Get Rid of Him.

    Get rid of anything that may remind you of him. Even after two years, there's bound to still be something that belongs to him that you still keep hidden in the back of your closet. Here's what you can do with his hoodie and other stuffs.

  2. Repress the Bad Memories.

    As hard as it is, try to push away the good memories and instead try to remember why you broke up in the first place. He might have shown signs he stopped loving you or there were reasons why he wanted to be friends.

  3. Let Everything Out.

    Go up to the rooftop or find an empty room and just scream. Shout everything you've been holding back. This is a great way to release all your emotions at once. You might even be surprised at the things you say or just how much you've been holding back all this time.

If your ex boyfriend contacts you again, it's up to you how you choose to respond. If you're still in love with him and can't seem to get over him, it's okay. Don't rush yourself and don't put too much pressure on yourself.

Remember that you're just human and all humans grieve. It's normal to struggle letting go of past love.

Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.