What To Do When Your Husband Is Talking To Another Woman (13 Things To Try)

by Michelle Devani

Are you jealous about another woman who is in your husband’s day-to-day life? 

Do you feel pangs of insecurity whenever you know he’s spending time with her?

Perhaps you’re looking for advice on how to address these feelings? 

If so, read on. This article provides some logical solutions to this problem. 

And I want to begin with a story that you may find particularly useful. 

Recently, I stumbled upon a powerful and discreet communications tracker tool while surfing the internet. 

Upon further exploration, it appeared as if this tool was the most comprehensive and intelligent tool of its kind.

If you were to use it on your husband, it would only need a few of his basic details to get started. The type of details you’d surely know if you were married.

From there, the tool will reveal who he has been communicating with - and how often. You’ll also find out what smartphone apps he has downloaded, and whether he’s been engaging with dodgy online services. 

That’s just the highlights of the data you’ll receive. The amount of information generated will blow you away. 

I used the tool to confirm my suspicions about a shifty ex-partner. Perhaps you would like to do the same…

There’s no logical way of him finding out that this tool has been tracking him. Plus, you’ll be able to discover whether you have any good reason to be jealous of this other woman in your husband’s life. There’s no downside…

If you think this tool will help give you the peace of mind to keep your relationship on track, click here to download it.

Alternatively, scroll down for more information on what to do when your husband is spending a lot of time with another woman.

What To Do When Your Husband Talks To Another Woman

Do you suspect your husband is cheating? If something is going on, you may be wondering what to do when your husband is talking to another woman. 

This can be a trying time as you discover new things that your husband may have been doing behind your back. You may be in a world of hurt and pain; I’m very sorry for this; hopefully, this article will help you along!

Today, we will take a look at the things you can do if you catch your husband talking to another woman. Understandably, you may not know what to think or do, but mostly, don’t do anything rash. Give yourself time to process what has happened and to talk to your husband so that you can hear his side of things. It may not be nearly as bad as you think! 

You really never know what’s happening until you speak with your spouse about what’s going on. You need to hear the truth from his mouth, and if there is something going on, perhaps the two of you can go to marriage counseling together to work through your issues. There is always hope when stuff like this happens in a marriage.

what to do when your husband talks to another woman

1. Join In The Conversation

If you approach your spouse as he is talking to someone else, just be confident. Decide that you will rise above the situation and just join in the conversation. Introduce yourself to the other woman and explain who you are exactly (his wife). 

This way, you aren’t causing a big scene, and you can just speak to your spouse about what happened later on.

2. Don’t Accuse Him Of Anything Before You Have The Facts

It’s a pretty smart idea not to make any sort of accusation until you know the facts. Did you catch your spouse talking to someone else in person, or was this via social media? Maybe she was unaware that he had a wife; often, when women learn that the one they are talking to is married, they back off. Are they just friends, or does he feel more?

You may want to talk to him about his relationship with this woman who is not his wife. Is it a friendship or work relationship? If it’s something innocent that doesn’t threaten you as a wife, you can just talk it over with him. Ask him if there is more going on that you should know about. He’ll be much more likely to openly talk about it this way. 

3. Ignore The Situation Until You Know More

If something isn’t bothering you, you don’t have to let it start now. Has his “talking to other women” become a problem for your marriage? Is it affecting your sex life or something like that? Do you feel distant from each other right now? If you have negative answers to those questions, you may have a problem in your marriage. 

Your husband’s relationships with other women are affecting the relationship you have with each other if you answered yes to the questions above. You may want to have a conversation with him on this subject. Explain the things that you are missing as a wife. What do you think a wife needs in a marriage? Are your needs being met?

Explain to your spouse what is wrong and how you think him talking to other women is affecting that. Tell him how you believe a wife should be treated and ask him if he thinks he is treating you that way. This is an honest and open way for a wife to share with her spouse how she really feels about the marriage. 

4. Don’t Make Something Out Of Nothing

don't make something out of nothing

It’s up to you, as a wife, to determine how this affects you. Take your time analyzing the situation; what does it really mean to you? If you are feeling hurt by what’s happened, you should really just openly talk to your spouse about it. Explain that, as a wife, you feel as though he should be treating you with more respect if that’s how you feel. 

On the one hand, you want to be open and honest when something is bothering you, but on the other hand, if it’s possible that you may be making a big deal out of nothing, you don’t want to start. No one wants to be accused of doing something that was completely innocent, right?

5. Remember That She Could Just Be A Friend

Your spouse may have just made a new work associate or something; he could have been having an innocent conversation with someone; you really won’t know unless you ask him. Just try to have an open mind about what’s going on; you don’t want to pass judgment over other women if they are innocent relationships that mean nothing.

6. Control Your Emotions

Do you feel like you are being betrayed in some way? Is your temper overflowing because your husband talks to other women? One wise thing you may want to try to do is to control your emotions. Don’t let them control you. As a wife, you’ve probably faced many challenges like this, right? How have you overcome other situations in the past?

You’ve probably kept a cool head, right? You don’t want to embarrass yourself by getting upset with your spouse and yelling at him in front of a group of people for having a conversation with another woman, do you? It may be perfectly innocent; you never know until you find out the facts from your spouse. Do you feel honored as a wife?

What has your spouse done to betray your marriage vows, or how has he treated you as less of a wife? If you do think your feelings and emotions need to be heard, give yourself a moment. Take the time you need to collect your thoughts and then speak to your spouse about his interactions with other women and how this action makes you feel.

7. Tell Him What You Think And Feel

Now that you have collected your thoughts and feelings, you can be open and honest with your spouse. Tell him what’s on your mind. Do you think he’s being inappropriate with other women, or has he done something specific with one woman to upset you? Speak your mind, but try to stick to the facts and the current events, not the past. 

8. Look For Signs Of Cheating

look for signs of cheating

If you suspect that more is going on, you might want to have the evidence to prove that other women are in his life. If you do have proof of his involvement with other women, you should talk to him and maybe discuss going to counseling, especially if his affairs with other women don’t stop. He may be unwilling to stop cheating

9. Set Healthy Boundaries

If you have discovered that your spouse is having an affair or multiple affairs with other women, you may want some time for yourself. Hit your doctor’s office to check for any STDs. Give yourself a spa day, too. You deserve it; treat yourself to a massage, manicure, pedicure, and whatever else you feel you deserve.

10. Work On The Intimacy In Your Marriage

As a wife, you are just as responsible for your marriage as your husband is. You may want to think about the closeness you have recently shared with each other. Do you think you have a strong bond, or has your relationship slowly been going downhill? Think about how strong your relationship is and whether you could benefit from therapy.

11. Be Understanding With Your Husband

You should keep an open mind and try to understand what your spouse is doing with another woman. Is he seeking to fill a void, or do you think that maybe it is just an innocent relationship? It may mean nothing at all to him, something he could easily stop doing if he knew it was bothering his wife this much. He may have no idea!

12. Ask Your Husband What’s Going On

The best course of action is to speak to your spouse about his thoughts, feelings, and behavior. Explain what you believe to be true, what you are concerned about, and what you want to know from him. Ask him for the truth; tell him you are willing and open to hearing what he has to say about the other woman. 

13. Consider Doing Marriage Counseling

As mentioned a few times, it’s crucial to consider going to the right marriage counselor or therapist. It might benefit the two of you to get the outside perspective of a neutral party. You may be surprised at the suggestions and ideas he or she has - stuff you would never have thought of on your own. It’s worth a shot, right?

What To Do If You Think He Is Cheating

what to do if you think he is cheating

According to HuffPost, there are specific things you should do if you suspect your spouse is cheating on you. The first thing you should do is to sort through your feelings. It may not be a bad idea to write it all down in a journal or diary. The next suggestion is to talk to your spouse about your feelings and how his actions are affecting them. He may have no idea!

The article continues by suggesting you watch how he reacts to what you have to say. If you have actual evidence that he has been cheating, you can go ahead and show it to him at this time. As mentioned in this article, you should ask him to be honest with you; explain that you can handle it, provided he tells you the actual truth, as hard as it may be to hear.

If you don’t hear the news you were hoping for, you may want to be ready to mention counseling or therapy if you think there is hope for the two of you to still have a nice relationship. You may find that a third-party can give you the tools and ideas you need to have a healthy marriage. Keep your heart open as you give your spouse a second chance this time around! 

FAQs

What does it mean when your husband texts another woman?

It could be nothing if she is a work associate, client, or colleague; if the other woman is flirting with him, you should ask him what’s going on. Why is he having an emotional affair with another woman if that is what is going on? Ask him for the truth.

Is it appropriate for my husband to tell another woman she is beautiful?

It is not considered cheating by most wives if a husband tells another woman she is beautiful, but it may be inappropriate. If you find that your husband does this and it’s offensive to you, you should talk to him about it and let him know it bothers you.

What are the signs of a guilty husband?

A guilty husband may show the warning signs of cheating, like accusing you of doing the wrong things. He may smell of perfume or have glitter on him if he’s been with another woman or at a strip club. If you see these problems, confront your husband regarding his actions.

How do you know if your husband has feelings for someone else?

If your husband is having a relationship with another woman, you may find inappropriate text messages from someone else. You should ask your husband if he has feelings for someone other than you, his wife, who he should put first. Then, approach him about going to marriage counseling or therapy.

Is texting another man cheating?

It depends on the definition of cheating that your husband has for you, his wife. If you are a wife and are texting another man, you may want to forget that guy, and instead, focus on your marriage - what you have in front of you right now.

To Sum Things Up…

Are you a wife in a difficult situation right now? Do you suspect your husband may be cheating on you with another woman? Take the time, as a wife, to talk to your husband about what’s going on and how you feel. Please comment, and share this with other people.

Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.

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