Have you been cheated on? Is it still hurting?
Do you have a burning desire to give that person a piece of your mind?
Perhaps you don’t know the appropriate words to say?
If so, this guide is likely to be of use. It features a list of ideas for things to say to a boyfriend who cheated on you.
Just pick one which perfectly encapsulates your feelings and let him have it! These work great by text, over the phone or face-to-face.
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People say, “Once trust is lost, it is hard to get it back”. At what point should you lose trust in your cheating boyfriend? The first time he cheats, or the second time he also claims it is a mistake? It can be hard accepting that a seemingly good relationship can go up in smoke due to infidelity.
Unfortunately, that’s the reality of many women, and maybe you too. It is easy for strangers or third parties to tell you what to say when you know your boyfriend cheated on you. However, saying the words that will seal the end of a beautiful relationship can be the most heartbreaking thing ever.
As such, it’s okay to speak your truth while you’re hurting. If you need to process your hurt feelings before having the conversation with your boyfriend, that’s okay too. Do you know what is not okay? You think it’s your fault you have a cheating boyfriend, or that you’re responsible for why he cheated.
Emotional scarring is a thing, and if you don’t address the actions of your cheating boyfriend, you’ll never feel free to move on. When you’re emotionally ready for him to listen to what you have to say, what should you say? Below are some of the things you can say, and questions you can ask to get closure.
This is the most common generic response anyone asks a cheating partner. However, this question will most likely fetch you only more lies. Your cheat of a boyfriend will only tell you what he thinks you want to hear. It’s normal to say this to your boyfriend, but you might want to get more creative than this.
This statement not only shows him the magnitude of his unfair actions, but it also expresses how you feel at that moment. You can decide to walk out on him or stay to say more afterward, but you’d have to let him know how you feel first.
The question of how is different from why. Your boyfriend can easily fabricate a fake why in the middle of the conversation to throw you off. However, you can easily learn the truth from the sequence of events he narrates. That way, you’ll know if his actions were intentional or not. This doesn’t excuse his action, but it can make you understand your next course of action.
This is you saying you can’t respect or trust that he won’t hurt you emotionally again. Hurting someone can have nothing to do with being physically violent. When your boyfriend cannot assure you of emotional security, that’s the end of the relationship.
If there are no secrets in the relationship, you’d have noticed immediately he started seeing other women. Saying this will open up a necessary aspect of the relationship because not everyone just cheats because they want to.
If your boyfriend had been acting unlike himself, his unfaithfulness would make more sense to you. This question and his response will give you more clarity that you weren’t making things up in your head.
It is alright to exclaim angrily that he has been wasting your time because it is true. There’s nothing more time-wasting than a cheating boyfriend you’ve been faithful to.
A cheater will create different excuses to cheat and avoid being caught. “I am busy" is one of such good excuses. Even if he doesn’t confirm that he cheated on you during his ‘busy times', his facial expression will give away the truth.
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Now you can understand clearly that you weren’t crazy. He was the one going behind your back to cheat on you and your relationship. You can now accept your gut feeling was right all along.
If he’s cheated on you and wants to continue doing so, it’s only logical that he will prevent you from touching his phone. He knew if you looked in the right place, you’ll see the evidence of his cheating escapades.
Of course, he might not give you the right answer because he wants to protect his friends. However, if you can trace your memories to your encounters with them, you’ll have your answer.
This is a rhetorical question you’ll probably ask in stupefaction. You’ve been so good to this man, why should he repay you by cheating on you? It might take a while to get a satisfactory answer, but it’s a good question to ask yourself.
If he cheated on you more than once and with multiple partners, he will avoid calling your name. You can now think back to all the times he called you only baby, especially during sex.
All the things going wrong between both of you will now make sense. The petty fights, the times he said something but did another thing. You will see reason more clearly now you know he cheated on you.
When communication fails in relationships, it could be because one party is being unfaithful. This would explain why your boyfriend hasn’t been as open as he used to be.
Another rhetorical question to know if he ever loved you, or was just taking you on a purposeless ride. He might want to sweet talk you, don’t listen to his half-truths.
Failing relationships involve couples with nothing significant to talk about. When chemistry and connection fizzle out, nothing will hold the couple together. Your boyfriend cheating on you will certainly not help.
No matter how skillful in bed a man is, he will begin to perform less with his girlfriend when he becomes a cheat. Having expended his energy with another girl, he won’t have much need for your touch or sex with you.
The bond of connection slackens the moment your partner cheats on you. Even if he wants to, he cannot show you optimum affection because he’s taken on shared responsibilities between two women. This comment will either make him talk or remain stubbornly silent.
If he’s always being a shameless flirt, it’s no surprise that he finally cheated because of his weakness. Whether he’s remorseful or not, he might repeat the same error if he doesn’t change.
This might explain why you haven’t been seeing his posts. If the person he cheated with is one of your mutual friends and their affair has become serious, both of them will likely block you. When you confront him, he might answer your long-held suspicion.
Before now, you must have been suspecting that everything is wrong between both of you. But because you couldn’t pinpoint what was the matter, you couldn’t say what the problem was. Now you know why nothing makes sense anymore. Going your separate ways might be for the best.
This might sound like a question a bitter or insecure person would ask, but it helps you understand and have closure. On the other hand, you can just say “never mind, I don’t want to know". That way, you’ll confuse him and make the other girl sound dismissible.
It’s obvious he’s been pretending to care for only you when there have been other women he cared for. You shouldn’t settle for sharing your man when you can have a faithful partner. So yes, he can show his real color now.
Hopefully, you’re not dating a chronic liar and master manipulator. Those kinds of men are harder to expose. Tell him bluntly that you know he’s lying, so he can drop the pretense.
Some men will even act like you have no right to feel betrayed when they cheat. Like seriously? You cheated but have the effrontery to lay the blame at my feet? Boy, get gone!
Sometimes, we have to ask sincere questions to know how to do better in subsequent relationships. While you shouldn’t accept any blame for his cheating ways, you might have been somewhat responsible for why he felt he should cheat. Still, don’t let him off the hook easily.
If he had been coming up with excuses for missing or cutting date nights short, now you know why. Another person is warming his bed.
All the times you thought you had a memory lapse will start adding up. You’ll realize why you couldn’t tell where he was even though he swore he was in that particular place.
Another important question that will show where both of you failed. He is still a jerk face for cheating on you, but going forward, this question can help both of you.
If your boyfriend is no longer happy with the union, nothing can make him stay with you. He shouldn’t have cheated on you when he could have simply told you he wants out. His error is on him, not you.
If he doesn’t find you attractive anymore, it could explain why he felt the need to cheat. Hopefully, he will give you a sincere answer. Mind you, you’re still as beautiful as you were when he started dating you. He’s the one with a lapse in judgment and character.
Sex is not everything, but it’s a major part of a union that can be a deal-breaker. If he has a different taste in sex that you no longer satisfy, he will cheat on you. Again, he could’ve just broken things off.
It’s stupid for anyone to expect you to go on like all is well. If you want, get mad, break some things, create a scene, or go on an unplanned vacation. You’re right to feel emotionally wrecked and he should be groveling for your forgiveness.
Having clarity can be hurtful because you’re forced to see all the things you pretended weren’t there. However, after clarity comes the peaceful feeling that you’re doing the best thing for yourself.
If you’re still considering taking him back, you need to hear what he has to say. Can he make it up to you? Is he willing to change? How will he do it? If he can answer you convincingly, you can decide the level of his sincerity.
This is a heartbreaking declaration that should bring a real man to tears for messing up. If he isn’t remorseful after this statement, he can never be faithful to you.
It’s as simple as A, B, and C. You don’t need to beat around the topic if you’re sure, especially if you’ve felt out of place for a long time now. It’s time to move on to better adventures.
He took advantage of your love for him, but you still care. It takes a deep level of connection to profess love for someone who hurt you. Be sure he’s worth the second chance you want to give him.
This is you being sincere. You might never forgive him completely, but you’re willing to try. That’s more than he deserves for his betrayal.
Understandably, the sight of him makes you angry. So, instead of doing something you regret, ask him to leave you alone, or walk out on him.
Apologies are good, but never enough to fix things. If he’s hurt you in different ways before, your anger is understandable. Even if you’ll forgive him for what he did, he shouldn’t expect that his apologies will suffice at that moment.
Forgiving is the easiest part of an error, forgetting it is the part many people can’t do. The more you see him, the more you’re reminded of his disloyalty.
If you can’t see a future beyond that current error, there’s no point deceiving you or him.
The consequence is that he has lost you. He had his chance with you, but he blew it. Regardless of how the cheating happened, he had a choice to go through with it or not. Except he was drugged, he knew what he was doing.
Alcohol has been blamed for a lot of things, including cheating. He is the adult who should have controlled what he took. So he can stop with the blame game.
You can say this when he tries to blame the person he cheated with for his error. Some men would even prefer that you pick a fight with their side chick, but you’re classier than that. Don’t let him sidetrack you.
Even if you don’t mean it. He hurt you badly after all. You don’t need to wish him evil, but you don’t need to mean your good wishes either. Just say what you can to get him to leave you alone.
Another empty statement to send him on his way. Nobody wants to be hurt at the expense of another person’s happiness. So, you don’t have to mean this either.
Now, you’re speaking out of pain and that’s expected. It’s just a statement. Whether it happens or not, you’ve said your piece.
Getting honesty from a cheater is tricky, but if he genuinely loves you, he might open up to you.
If you’re so invested in him that you can’t imagine a life without him, you can give him ultimatums to follow. However, girl, he isn’t worth being in your life if he’s not going to change.
Well, if he comes clean by himself, it’s a point in his favor. It doesn’t mean he’s home free, but it means he’s willing to make amends.
Asking this question will break your heart all over again, but you need to know.
Another necessary question. No point wasting your energy to restore a ship he could easily destroy again.
If he is going to keep seeing her, you need to know. So you don’t have to drag yourself through the mud for him.
Most likely, yes, but you still need to ask if it’s possible to fix things.
Leaving the ball in his court is a counterattack that makes him think he’s in charge. However, you’re ready to kick him out the moment he fails.
Yes, every woman feels like thrashing her man’s hide for disrespecting her, but you can’t. It still feels good to say so.
Unfortunately, you’ll need to do this no matter how much he tries to assure you that he used protection all along. Hopefully, you haven’t contracted anything deadly.
You should say what is on your mind at the time. If you try to hold back on saying negative things because you still want to make the relationship work, you will be upset when he cheats again. So, it is best if you express your anger there and then, instead of just saying “it’s fine".
Instead of just changing your relationship status online to send a signal to your cheating boyfriend, take the bold way out. If you have all the evidence you need, expose all the details you have to his lying face. It’s not your job to make him admit he was unfaithful, you already know the truth. You must get angry and get the burden of hurt off your chest.
A real man or woman who cares about you will not intentionally cheat on you. A cheating partner who cheats with the same person multiple times doesn’t care anymore about you.
When your boyfriend has been intimate emotionally and sexually with the other woman, you’re no longer the only woman he cares about. You’ll need to think of moving forward even as you’re still feeling hurt.
Cheating men don’t usually feel the need to confess to bad behavior because a cheater is a selfish person. When a guy cheats, he doesn’t want his woman to know his betrayal because he still wants to have the usual privileges with her. If you are a good person and your boyfriend cheats on you, guilt might make him confess to being disloyal to you.
When another woman steals your boyfriend’s attention from you, you’re tempted to damn both of them to hell. Many women have made the mistake of lashing out at the other woman their boyfriend cheated with, but that’s the behavior of a sore loser. You’ll be doing yourself some good by forgiving your boyfriend, the cheat, even though the relationship is over.
You might pretend to be the girlfriend who is okay with a cheating boyfriend just so you can later get revenge for what he did. An act of much better revenge would be expressing that you feel hurt, forgive him, and make him lose you by moving on with your life.
Most cheaters feel guilty for being a cheat, even if they will still do it again. Wringing out the feeling of guilt from your boyfriend is enough revenge.
Dealing with a cheat can be painful, especially when it is someone you’ve loved for years. However, it is better to know the truth on time and move on, than to continue a relationship with a man who will always be unfaithful to you. Also, breaking off the relationship first will reduce your hurt feelings than if he ended the relationship on his terms.
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