How To Keep Your Girlfriend Happy In Long Distance Relationship (29 Tactical Ways to Maintain Her Interest)

Last updated on June 12, 2024 by Michelle Devani

Are you looking for ways to keep your girlfriend happy in a long-distance relationship?

Perhaps you’ve been apart for a while and you’re looking to add some extra spice to keep her interested until you see each other next? 

If so, you’re in the right place. This guide has 29 ways to keep your long-term relationship fresh and exciting.  

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Perhaps that’s for the future though! In the meantime, here are some tips to keep your long-term girlfriend happy.


29 Ways To Keep Your Girlfriend Happy In A Long Distance Relationship

Couples who have been in a long-distance relationship will tell you without skipping a bit how incredulously challenging it can be to maintain the love. Unlike a relationship where you can see your partner at will, long-distance relationships come with a whole new set of difficulties such as communication, expression of love, insecurity, and a lot more. 

Your partner is many miles away, and it is easy for words sent via text messages or letters to be misconstrued. Furthermore, simple things like a hug or showing up at your girlfriend’s event to show support become almost impossible in a long-distance relationship. You will have to devise other means to make her feel special.

There is immense pressure to impress your girl as a man, and this pressure doubles when you are oceans or miles apart. The reason being that men are generally thought to be non-expressive and insensitive. However, in a long-distance relationship, you will have to make extra efforts to be expressive and sensitive to your partner if you want to reassure her of your love. 

This article will explore 29 ways to keep your girlfriend happy in a long-distance relationship.

1. Create a ‘thinking of you’ playlist

When it comes to love, the feeling comes from simple things like random hugs, kisses, and I miss you’s. Creating a playlist for your lady is one of those cliches but unique ways of making her heart flutter with excitement. 

Even better, it is easy to do. Simply curate songs that you both love and are likely to flood her mind with happy memories. You may also add songs that are sentimental and make you think of her in this playlist. Put up a cute picture of you two as the album cover and send it to her. 

This kind gesture is bound to make her feel special and happy. It communicates to her that she is in your thoughts irrespective of the distance between you two. 

2. Communicate regularly

communicate regularly

Communication poses the most difficult challenge that long-distance couples face, and when left unchecked, it can spring up many other issues that can break your relationship. 

Therefore, you must put preference to communicating with your partner daily when you are in a long-distance relationship. Random text messages during the day, pictures that show what you are doing, and video calls can go a long way to make your girlfriend miss you less. 

Healthy communication helps bridge the gap between you and your partner by allowing you to catch up on the things you cannot experience. Thanks to video calling technology, it is also possible to share some experiences as though you were physically together. 

3. Stay up to date on her life

Still, on the subject of communication, you should know that there are techniques to ensure effective communication. Many people make the mistake of focusing solely on the usual questions like, ‘how are you?’ There is more to communicating with your girlfriend than checking up on her. You should be able to stay up to date on her life by asking detailed questions. 

Ask about her day, family, job, and follow-up on anything she may have mentioned were coming up, and most importantly, as she speaks, listen attentively. These actions will make her happy because it shows you want to be involved in her life despite being miles apart.

4. Tease her by saving conversations for when next you see

It is easy to slip into a routine when you are in a long-distance relationship. While routines are not entirely bad, there is no denying that they are a recipe for boredom, a threat to relationships. There are a couple of ways you can spice things up with your long-distance girlfriend, and one such way is building excitement for your visits.

Instead of telling her everything over the phone, hint to her that you have something to say, but you will rather do it in person so you will be saving it for the next time you are together. This will make her happy to look forward to your next visit and build excitement in your relationship.

5. Book spa treatments for her

In a normal relationship where both parties are within arms reach, it is easy to show affection to your partner when she is having a stressful day or week. A simple hug, massage, or offering to make dinner can take the load off her and make her relax. However, this is not always possible in long-distance relationships. 

An easy way to make your girlfriend happy to have you in her life is by booking a spa treatment for her. I mean, if distance won’t let you pamper her yourself, you might as well pay someone to do it.

6. Have futuristic conversations

Insecurity is not a foreign feeling in long-distance relationships. When a person is so far apart from your partner, it is easy for doubts to kick in and questions about the future to flood their mind. However, conversations about the future can help ease their anxiety because it signifies that you are still on the same commitment level.

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Occasionally talk about your plans for the future, and involve your partner in decisions that affect your future. This gives hope to your relationship and reminds her that your current situation is only temporary, and somewhere in the near future, you will be living happily together.

7. Post romantic updates on social media

Many years ago, to prove to the world that you love your girlfriend, a boy would have to stand outside her window and under the rain with a stereo blasting some corny romantic song while everyone around gushes and takes mental notes that your girl is indeed special. These days, although grand romantic gestures are still a big deal, social media makes it a lot easier to express your love publicly.

If you want to make your long-distance girlfriend happy, post a cute picture of her or two of you and write a sweet, romantic caption underneath it. Even better, you can do this on a random Tuesday without waiting for a special occasion because that makes it more thoughtful and sweet.

8. Practice exchanging photos and videos

Make it a habit to send random pictures of you and what’s happening around you to your girlfriend. For instance, if you discussed attending a concert with your boys, you can send her pictures of what you intend to wear and maybe get her involved in picking an outfit for you. Furthermore, you can choose to send photos or videos of the show so she can have a hint of your experience. 

This act is helpful in two ways. First, she can share in your excitement, and secondly, it builds trust because it shows you are out doing what you said you would be doing and with who you said you would be with.

9. Plan online game nights

Who says you can’t have a game night because you are in a long-distance relationship? With many game options like iMessage games, candy crush, chess, and scrabble, just to name a few, your options for an online game night with your girlfriend is limitless. All it takes is setting the right time and getting your game hats on.

If you are not interested in any of the available game options listed above, you can go ahead and create yours. Question games are an excellent way for couples to learn more about each other, and this will do your relationship a ton of good.

10. Listen to her attentively

listen to her attentively

Only a few things in the world can get a girl upset, like having to repeat to her boyfriend the same story a couple of times. Not only is it stressful, but it also shows that he does not pay attention when she speaks.

When you are talking with your girlfriend, make sure that you give her your full attention. I know there is the temptation to do other things like play video games or watch a football match - don’t do it. Listen to her attentively like you would if she were physically present; that way, you won’t miss putting on important information, and it will make her happy to know you are an attentive man.

11. Plan to visit occasionally

Depending on how long you and your girlfriend will be apart, waiting until your program’s end to see each other can strain your relationship. Take time out to plan regular visits; it could be you visiting or her coming over. Either way, a good plan should involve making the most of your time together.

You can choose to have a list of activities to do together and places to visit if it is a new town. Use this opportunity to make her happy and create lasting memories that will strengthen her love for you.

12. Avoid fights when you are together

Successful relationships are not void of arguments; instead, they are between people who have mastered fighting fair. You see, I know it is almost impossible not to get into a bit of dispute here and there with your girlfriend. However, you must learn to argue smartly and avoid things from escalating into fights.

In long-distance relationships, you have limited time together, and it wouldn’t be nice to spend your days together quarreling or ignoring each other. An easy way to avoid this is by mastering how to fight fair and practicing open communication. Do not allow issues to build up as they can turn into silent resentments for each other.

13. Avoid compromising situations

To maintain a healthy, long-distance relationship, you must nurture two key components - communication and trust. Without trust, your long-distance relationship will always be on edge, which can be mentally stressful to both parties.

Avoid being in situations that will be difficult to explain to your girlfriend. A good rule of thumb here is to avoid anything you won’t be proud to tell her. For instance, if there she shows concern towards your relationship with any girl, avoid being alone or in a compromising situation with that girl.

14. Tag her in funny and relatable social media posts

My previous relationship involved a lot of traveling, and for the most part, it was long-distance. However, we were able to communicate and bond over social media posts. These posts were sometimes funny and other times relatable, perhaps because of a conversation we have had in the past. Either way, when you share posts with your girlfriend, it makes her know that she is always in your thoughts. 

Find out what interests her online and share interesting photos and videos that capture them. As my buddy will say, when words fail, you can always count on a funny cat video to fill in the blanks.

15. Don’t push her away in tough times

Unlike women, men deal with tough times differently. Your first instinct will be to keep things to yourself and shut the world out as a man. This is never the right way to handle difficulties in a relationship; however, in long-distance relationships, it is worse.

You see, your girlfriend can’t see you, and she only knows as much as you tell her and show her. So when you shut her out in tough times, it is easy for her to assume she is at fault or that you are no longer interested in the relationship. However, when you tell her your troubles, it makes her more understanding, and she will be happy to be there for you in her way.

16. Give her a pet name

Cute, affectionate names that originate from inside jokes are a great way to make your partner feel special and happy. Pet names create a higher level of intimacy and build a sense of exclusivity. For instance, if you save your girlfriend’s number with her pet name, anyone seeing her call come in will know that you are an item. 

You don’t have to force a name on her. Let it happen naturally, and it can come from a show you both love, a song, or just calling her name in a unique tone. Either way, it will be a sentimental name that makes her light up every time she hears it.

17. Consistently offer words of affirmation

Everyone has a love language, which is how they recognize and like to receive love. The five major ones identified by Gary Chapman are; quality time, gifts, words of affirmation, acts of service, and physical touch. Different girls have their preferences, but one thing is for sure, I am yet to meet a girl who does not like hearing words of affirmation.

Words of affirmation are simple daily reminders to make her feel respected and appreciated. They include phrases like; ‘I love you,’ ‘you are beautiful,’ ‘my life is happier with you around,’ and of course, ‘thank you.’ Learn to appreciate your girlfriend, complement her photos, and appreciate her for the little things to keep her happy in a long-distance relationship.

18. Honour your commitment by staying faithful

Long-distance relationships are not easy because of physical limitations. It gets lonely sometimes, and it is normal to want a form of physical connection with your girlfriend. However, while this is not always possible, you must refrain from being unfaithful and cheating on her. Cheating hurts, and you can never know how she will handle it. So if you do not want to lose your girl, you should stay faithful.

Remember that you are an honorable man who keeps to his words, and nothing can change that. Not even a couple of hot girls attempting to steal your heart. Remain focused and, if possible, share your fantasies with your partner.

19. Plan online dates

A long-distance relationship is not a death sentence to any semblance of a date. You can still plan dates and spend time together even though you are apart. Some online date options include setting aside time to watch a movie together, read to each other over the phone, and have dinner together over video calls. 

There are many ways you can twist these dates to make them more exciting. For instance, if you plan a dinner date, you can send her flowers, have her dress up, and have her favorite restaurant meal delivered to her doorstep. On your path, you should also dress up and have a nice dinner. Trust me, she will be smiling all evening, and you might just win the best boyfriend award. 

20. Plan adventures together

plan adventures together

While apart, give you and your girlfriend something exciting to look forward to doing. An adventure or a vacation is one way to do it. Indeed, there must be a place or something that you both share a passion for, and you look forward to doing. This could range from taking a trip to a foreign country to going skydiving. 

There is a thrill that comes with planning an adventure way before you even embark on it. This will give you guys something to talk about, and you can treat it as a project to keep your minds busy and excited. 

21. Trust her and practice patience

It’s never easy to trust someone wholly, but if you want to keep your girlfriend happy in a long-distance relationship, you will have no choice but to trust her. Trust here means believing what she says and not trying to stalk or catch her in a lie. When you do not trust her, she will feel uncomfortable, and it might push her further away from you emotionally. 

One way to show that you trust her is by being patient whenever she misses your phone call or fails to respond to your text messages promptly. If you have set ground rules on what will be tolerated in your relationship, there is no need to get worked up or throw accusations when she is unreachable. Trust that she is genuinely undisposed and will respond when she sees your phone calls. 

22. Talk dirty with her

Being in a long-distance relationship puts you at a disadvantage when it comes to intimacy. However, this does not mean you have to say goodbye to intimacy with your girlfriend. 

It simply means you have to put in twice or three times the effort as other couples and get your creative juices up and running to think of ways to improve intimacy in your relationship.

Besides, you want to ensure that you and your partner are not losing out in any way and you can maintain a healthy level of closeness and intimacy at all times. 

Fortunately, we are in the digital age where technology is man’s new best friend. This means you can choose to resort to dirty talks as a way to maintain intimacy. So, dust up your wordplay skills and prepare to blow your girl’s mind with sexy and naughty texts.

23. Never miss a good morning and good night text message

Admittedly, we all have a life to attend to that is separate from our relationship, and sometimes, this life gets busy, and we are unable to meet up with plans. However, irrespective of how busy our lives get, it is crucial that you never miss a good morning and good night text. These messages speak a lot on those days when you cannot place a phone or video call.

A morning text signifies that she is the first thing you think about when you wake up, and a good night text means she is the last thing on your mind before going to sleep. Your partner will be happy to know that you still squeeze out time to check on her in the morning and at night despite your busy schedule.

24. Occasionally send her period care packages

A unique way to show your woman that you love and care about her is by putting together a period care package that contains a few of her favorite things along with sanitary items. You see, periods can be a hassle and a time of discomfort for many ladies, and your partner will be happy to receive such a package. 

A typical period care package contains essential items like tampons, painkillers, sanitary pads, ginger or herbal teas, heating pads, chocolates, cookies, sweets, and fun things like a game, artwork, or poetry. All you will need is a budget and a helping hand to put it together. You can use the help of a shipping company or a friend to put together these items and send them to your girlfriend.

25. Don’t over-communicate

If you were to ask anyone for tips to maintain a long-distance relationship, the most common advice you would get is communication. Yes, communication is excellent and indeed vital for long-distance relationships. However, over-communicating can take the spice away from it.

You do not want to be the clingy boyfriend who is always busting his girlfriend’s phone with calls and messages. Excessive communication will make your girlfriend grow weary of you, and she will no longer be happy to receive your phone calls. If you trust and love her, you will give her the freedom to have a life away from you.

26. Be honest at all times

All relationships require honesty to function appropriately, and when you are in a long-distance relationship, it becomes a bedrock. Remember, honesty is the foundation for trust, and trust is a necessity in a healthy relationship. So, one cannot function without the other.

Be honest at all times by always being open with your partner, irrespective of how small or big the truth may be. Never lie to her, never hide the truth, and never purposefully omit or misdirect her from the truth. When you avoid talking to her about things that bother you, especially when you know it will make her upset, you are not honest. When you are honest, it gives your girlfriend the confidence to fight for your relationship.

27. Surprise her with gifts, presents, and flowers

Thank goodness for delivery companies and the internet; being miles apart does not deprive you of sending thoughtful gifts to the woman you love. Surprising your woman with gifts, flowers, and presents will make her happy and be the envy of her friends.

There are many great ideas to choose from when it comes to thoughtful, long-distance relationship gifts. For instance, if your partner has been talking about getting on a diet, you can show your support by making a weekly grocery subscription with her favorite store supermarket. 

28. Give her a surprise visit

give her a surprise visit

Sure, planning a visit is exciting, but you know what’s better? Planning a surprise visit. Every girl likes a pleasant surprise now and then, so visiting her when she least expects it will make her happy. 

It doesn’t matter how long you stay; even if it is for a day or two, she will be happy to see you and spend time with you. If possible, you can get a few of her friends involved to ensure she has a free schedule when you come to visit. 

29. Gift her sentimental objects

So we can all agree that gifts are a pleasant way to get your long-distance girlfriend giddy with excitement. However, if you want a gift that will always make her think of you, you will need to develop thoughtful and sentimental presents. 

Sentimental gifts carry meanings, and they could be anything from a keychain with your initials to a promise ring or pendant. Whichever the case, maybe, the idea is to give her something long-lasting, and she will never forget you. 


How do I keep my girlfriend interested in a long-distance relationship?

To keep your partner interested in a long-distance relationship, you must first ensure that communication is smooth and uninterrupted. Secondly, get creative with your gestures by using options such as sending her love letters, playing online games, planning virtual dinner dates and movie nights, or scheduling regular video calls.

Should you talk every day in a long-distance relationship?

There is no set in the stone figure as to how often you should talk with your partner in a long-distance relationship. What matters is how well you communicate and if you are open with each other. So when it comes to communication, establish habits that work for you and your partner. While one couple will be conversing throughout the day, another might decide to stick with a morning and evening checkup.

Why do long-distance relationships fail?

Long-distance relationships sometimes come to an end, just like any other kind of relationship. The reason, however, varies. In some cases, it could be a lack of trust, no plan on when you will be together, and a lack of physical intimacy. Remember that it takes a deliberate team effort to make a relationship like this work.

What should you not do in a long-distance relationship?

Every relationship requires work, and when you do not put in the right effort, it will crumble and fail. Some mistakes a couple shouldn’t make in a long-distance relationship include not trusting your partner, losing your sense of individuality, and not having enough self-control to remain faithful.

How long should long-distance relationships last?

While there is no limit to how long a long-distance relationship should last, regardless, you and your partner should have a plan. A plan will help you put things in perspective and make the proper steps accordingly. Furthermore, focus on not spending too much time apart. Ensure that you visit each other at least every three months or whatever frequency works for you and your partner.

In Conclusion

As with any relationship, you must ensure that your partner always feels your affection at all times. I hope you enjoyed reading this list and have picked up on a few tips to keep your girlfriend happy in long-distance relationships. If yes, please leave a comment behind, and don’t forget to share with your friends.

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Michelle Devani
My name is Michelle Devani, and I've been helping people with their relationships since 2003. In 2017 I decided it was about time I started a blog on the topic, and since then more than 2 million people worldwide have read my relationship advice. Drop me a comment below to let me know what you think.

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