Are you falling for a German man?
Are you hoping that he feels just as strongly about you?
Perhaps you’re looking for certain traits or behaviors that make German men fall head over heels in love?
If so, you’re in the right place. The guide below is stacked with tips for successfully dating German men.
However, I want to begin the guide with an important story. It’s crucial for women in your situation to read the following sentences carefully.
Recently, I discovered a powerful aspect of male psychology, which plays a key role in their perception of the women they encounter.
This primal psychological trigger - which appears to be held by men of all cultures and nationalities - is called the ‘Hero’s Instinct’.
When a woman activates this line of thinking within a man, he will often experience overwhelming feelings of power, joy and purpose.
Naturally, he becomes emotionally closer to a woman who can constantly allow him to experience these incredible emotions.
And I want to teach you how to do it! I documented my experience of learning how to activate the ‘Hero’s Instinct’ and you can read it here.
In the meantime, here are my dating tips specific to German men.
The goal here is to make sure you know what it’s like to date a German and how to best make one fall head over heels with you. If you are reading this article, you probably are hoping your German will fall in love!
Some of the greatest secrets you need to know when you date a German are included in this article, but with some of the more political issues like gender equality, you may be better off researching the culture. I can’t give away every single secret to being in a relationship with a German man but don’t worry; this article will have all you need to know in it!
This guy is not going to romance you as a French man would. Instead, he has to warm up to the idea of true romance over time. If you are patient and understanding, your day will come. If the two of you are at the farmer’s market, be sure to mention the little flowers and things you love so he will have an idea of what to buy you when he feels like the time is right.
It’s nice not having to rush everything in a relationship, right?
Another great thing about these guys is that they mean what they say. If he says that he really cares about you or has fallen in love with you, you know that he means it because that’s just how his culture is. He will always be honest and trustworthy, so you never have to wonder if there is an ulterior motive.
If you are ready to express your love with him, go ahead and tell him; he’ll be flattered even if he doesn’t say it back. Sometimes, these guys can be a bit mysterious and elusive as a butterfly. However, their sincere kindness really makes them shine. If you are wondering what’s on his mind, just ask; you may not always get the answer you want, but it’ll be the truth!
Want a few weird facts about this culture? There’s a chance he’ll wear a speedo when you go swimming, so be ready for that. Also, he may eat his dessert before his meal; that’s just how it goes. Their Christmas traditions are different and unique, too. Just be ready for anything!
One thing you can say about a German is, he does what he says he will. If he said he would pick you up for dinner, you better believe he will do just that when he said he would. He may not always WANT to do what he said he would, but he will do it anyway. It’s just kind of part of their dating rules: Always do what you say you will. He’s reliable.
If you want to win his heart, just trust that he will do what he says he will. When you show someone complete trust, it lets them know that you are honorable as well. Make sure you are always open and honest with him. You want him to know you are a person who keeps your word, as well. If you are dishonest, a German isn’t the right guy for you.
I know it takes a long time to shower, get your hair just right, and make your face beautiful with sexy makeup, but plan ahead. You need to be early or on time for each date he takes you on. This is very important to German men. They want women who will respect them and the time they plan on picking women up for dates.
To win him over and get him to fall in love with you, you need to show him respect by being on time for dates or outings. If you are meeting him somewhere, it’s a good idea to show up at least 15 minutes early. Don’t make him wait around for you, or he will quickly lose interest.
It’s crucial for men that you be honest with everything you say and do. Of course, people brag when dating and maybe exaggerate a little, but keep in mind that eventually, you will be in a relationship with this person. That means that while there are times you want to tell white lies, he will eventually learn the truth once you get serious. Don’t lie!
It may be a bit awkward to tell the blunt truth about everything, but that’s what a German man expects when dating a woman - the truth and nothing less. You are looking to start a foundation built on trust with each other. That’s the healthiest way to think about a relationship - a place for honor and truth.
Do you feel like he kind of takes you for granted?
Unfortunately this is one of the most frequent complaints we get from our readers, where they feel they aren't a priority for their boyfriend or husband. They always seem to have some excuse as to why they can't spend some quality time with you like they used to.
Due to popular demand, our friend prepared a quick video (click to watch) that'll show you to one easy but often overlooked thing that you can say to him today that'll help him realize how lucky he is to have you (hint: it's something that taps into how men are wired).
A great part of having a German as your love is his ability to plan things in advance. No longer will there be times when you wonder what the status of your relationship is. He will tell you in advance. If he’s wanting to go out on a Saturday night, he’ll probably ask you out on a Wednesday to make sure that you are available. He’s just that great!
If you want him to fall head over heels for you, just know that he will ask you out in advance, or if you decide to flip things around and ask him out on a date, make sure you do it several days in advance. Make plans and give him the details. If he’s interested and available, he will be excited that you respected his values and planned things out.
While German men are quite old fashioned, they do expect women to pay for their share of the date. As strange as that may sound to some people, these men have just gotten used to women paying their own way in the relationship. Make sure you are prepared for this; offer to pay your share when the bill comes. He’ll be impressed you knew to do that.
If you love to travel, you may have found the perfect man. German guys love to have fun and travel all over the place. If he’s into you, he’ll bring you along on his trips. To make him fall in love with you, just let him know how much you love to travel and meet new people. He’ll be in awe of your worldly nature and be excited to ask you out again!
A German man appreciates a woman who knows how to manage her money in the best way. Have a savings account or set up an IRA account - anything to manage your finances better. Hire an accountant if you need some help in this area. What’s important is knowing and showing him that you can keep track of your expenditures wisely.
Men appreciate women who know how to take care of themselves and what they earn.
One thing you need to know about their culture is that these men take things slowly. They aren’t eager to rush into a relationship with someone they are just now getting to know. The more you get to know him, the more interested he will become in you. Over time, he will open up and become less reserved; just show you have a patient attitude.
A German man will go out of his way to do nice little things for you. He might send you flowers at work or bring you your favorite candy treat when he picks you up for a date. Whatever he does, be sure to thank him and show that you love that he was thinking about you. You want him to continue doing sweet things like this, so tell him!
Some men of this culture meet other people through groups that are built around shared interests or hobbies. If you are looking to meet Mr. Right, consider joining a karate or cooking class - something new where you can meet members of the opposite sex who like the same things you do. This is what he’s going for, so you should, too.
He may wish to try something you have never done. Keep an open mind and go with it. There’s no harm in trying new things. It will give you a chance to put a new list item on your dating resume!
If he wants to go skydiving, go for it! You only live once, right? As you continue dating, you may want to suggest some wild ideas you’ve always wanted to try!
German men let you know when they are ready for a serious relationship. Their brutal honesty can be overwhelming for some women, but just remember that’s the way German men are. At least you don’t have to wonder how he feels. He’ll let you know the answer to that question.
Many German men are stylish in what they wear, so it wouldn’t hurt to go shopping and pick out some beautiful, classy dresses. A German man wants his woman to look great! You will quickly get on his good side if you dress like a fashion model!
German guys want their girls to be well-dressed, on time, and interesting. They enjoy talking about things other than small talk. They want to hear about your hopes and dreams. German men can be brutally honest; they want to be with women who are the same in a relationship.
If you are running extremely late for your date with a German man, you can bet you have offended him. He believes his time is valuable and doesn’t want to put up with this rudeness. If you have a genuine excuse, he’ll forgive you; just don’t make it a habit.
Be patient. Guests won’t jump to open up the moment you are around them; instead, it takes them time to open their hearts and minds to other people. Try to be understanding, knowing that their culture is completely different from ours. No one said dating a German would be easy.
Are you dating a German man? What has been your experience with the German culture? Are you having trouble narrowing down what he’s feeling? Hopefully, this article gave you some insight. Don’t forget to share this blog post and comment below! I’d love to hear from you!
Does it feel like pulling teeth getting him to say how he feels about you?
Some men can be very gaurded and closed when it comes to expressing how they feel - it can almost feel like they are pulling away from you. Many women make the mistake of pushing their man to say how they feel, but this is actually one of the worst things you can do as it can push him away further.
To get him to really show you how he feels and communicate how much he appreciates you, there's one simple thing, although often overlooked, thing you can say to him today that taps into how men are wired and can often lead to them suddenly pouring their heart out. My friend recorded a quick free video (click to watch) that shows exactly how to do that.